Monday, May 30, 2016

Follow-up - What makes you want to submit

Thank you to all who commented on my last post.  Your comments are a fantastic resource, for both men and women, to understand the FLR dynamic. Many of you commented that the dynamic is not easily understood by outsiders.  I could not agree with you more. It took me many years to understand and there are still fuzzy areas for me.  This is why I encourage all of you to share your experiences as well as what is going on inside your head.  It is not intuitive and not always logical but it is real and  the more people hear about it, the easier it becomes to embrace. I hope more of you share your experiences and feelings.  It does  not matter if it is repetitive with someone else's comments or if you just want to agree with a comment.  The more we see similar comments the more it validates to women the common themes and validates to other men that they are not alone in how they feel.

Some of the things I read from your comments were that you have desires to submit to women and to feel controlled and owned. That you want more strictness and that it makes you happy to make your wife happy and to make life easier for her. Ladies , are you taking notes?  You now have the green light to embrace his submission and be treated like a queen.

I discovered with Thomas that the more strict I am the more he enjoys it. If I get into a mood where I don't want to hear crap from him and I am just spouting out orders, his demeanor changes and he drops into submissive mode.  I have caught him getting an erection as I'm giving out orders. Lol.

Another takeaway from several comments is that although there are things you don't enjoy, you don't mind because it is a small price for the greater good of the relationship. That is fantastic and a characteristic of a strong man. Whether it be a FLR or a traditional marriage, this is the right attitude. So  many marriages fail because sacrifices are not made.

Thank you again for contributing. I can write about these things, but there is no credibility without reaffirmation from your comments so please continue to give your input.

Mz Kaylee

Sunday, May 15, 2016

What makes you want to submit?

I have not had a chance to write a new post because I've been spending some time responding to comments.  I encourage you to look back through the past posts and revisit the comments.  There have been some good discussions.  Feel free to add to the discussion.

I have a few topics in mind for my next post but I need to find time to write.  In the meantime, I'd like to  pose the below questions to all you submissive guys.  Here's your chance to help out us ladies (and guys who are contemplating FLR) by giving your input.  The dynamics of a FLR are not intuitive and not always logical.  I think your responses to the answers below will help provide insight into this. Feel free to answer just one, two, or all three.

1. What makes you want to submit and obey your wife/partner?

2. Are there things you do not enjoy, but you "put up with" as part of your obedience?  If yes, why do you do it and is it worth it?

3. Are there things that you enjoy doing, which you think others (in a non-FLR) would not understand why you enjoy them or would think that you are being taken advantage of as a result of doing them?