Hats off to AJ for being the first to come forward and submit a post. Below is her post. Thanks AJ! -Mz Kaylee
I've decided that I will give my husband a very special treat this coming Thanksgiving. He works hard for me inside and outside of the home every day and has become truly centered on providing me with unselfish pleasure each and every day – without expecting any sort of payback in return. I thought I would plan and do something extra special and nice for him as an “I appreciate you and love you” gift this Thanksgiving in return for all of his generosity and devotion.
I keep my husband in chastity 24x7. After years of trial and error and experimentation with cheaper devices, I finally bought him a high end metal cage which works in conjunction with his PA piercing to keep him extremely secure and chaste for me. After 12 years of marriage, with the last 4 being flr ones, I am very in tune with his body, and I would know immediately if he somehow cheated on his flr vows and somehow managed to sneak off an orgasm without my express permission – as he is trained to do. When this Thanksgiving rolls around he will have gone 47 days since his last orgasm – that’s not a guess or wish on my part, it’s an absolute confidence on my part that this is the case. That’s not a real lot of chastity time for him by our current standards. He typically goes around 4 months or more before I allow him an orgasm. That said, I still know it’s a tremendous sacrifice and still very hard for him, despite the repetition, to go without orgasm for any period of time. Like any man, he enjoys to orgasm, and given his unhindered ways, to orgasm as frequently as possible. It’s just that in our relationship he knows and I know that the frequency that’s works for us is 4 times a year or less, so that’s what we do. But to summarize, it’s still very hard for him never the less to live by my rules on this subject, but he does so out of respect for me and our special relationship. A “small” side effect of his well fitted cage and his long term chastity is that in addition to his infrequent orgasms, he also is unable to become fully erect while he is in his chastity mode. Other than our weekly Sunday cleanings where I allow him briefly to exit chastity for hygiene and shaving (completely supervised) his cock is always in pretty tight and rigid confinement. His cock can only stiffen a pretty small amount before it hits the hard limits of his cage and causes him pretty significant discomfort as continues to try to engorge. As result he gets very few full erections in addition to his very limited number of orgasms each year. Since an orgasm so soon after his last orgasm is very much out of the question, I thought I would let him enjoy something which at this point must also be a genuine treat for him – a full day of being totally unconfined from his cage and where he is therefore 100% free to become as erect as much as his body desires and wishes. So that’s my plan for him this Thanksgiving. He will get to free range with his erections from the time we wake up on Thanksgiving to the time we go to bed at the end of the day.
What’s bringing this all about this year is through a wide range of happen chance in both of our small families; we are spending this particular thanksgiving at home, alone, with no other relatives or any other sort of Thanksgiving travel involved. So it’s very much just the 2 of us 100% of the time this thanksgiving at our very own home. He will be under my controlled scrutiny the entire day.
My mom and my grandmother were very good sewers. They enjoyed working on craft projects all of the time. Some of their skills were somehow passed down to little Tom boy me, so I also happen to be decent with the needle and thread as well as passingly good with a sewing machine (who would have ever thought it ). I have gone out and purchased him a nice new pair of very smooth and silky sexy panties. Using my 4-H skills In ways that I bet my den mothers never envisioned, I went ahead and have altered them slightly to meet my needs for this Thanksgiving. I created a hemmed elastic lined “glory hole” opening at the front of those panties for him to stick his cock and balls through, and I likewise created a similar opening which will line up with his pretty tight little rosebud in the rear. So thanksgiving he will be balls and cock outside of his panties all day on complete open air display for me all day long. As for his rear entrance, I have a somewhat larger but cute jeweled butt plug that will also reside there the entire day. Not an orgasm to be sure, but I think he will still appreciate the special and completely unexpected treat of being allowed to become erect as much as he desires throughout the day. It’s been at least a couple of years since he last experienced that selfish but very manly pleasure of stiffening unimpeded whenever he feels like it. My goal thanksgiving is to give him plenty of reason to become nice and thick for me all day long. I also fully expect him to be drizzling a steady little trail of precum for me throughout the day - which will serve him well as treats throughout the day. At the end of the day, after having him do a very nice cleanout for me, I plan on giving his stretched out little butt a special work out as well. Since I like my little girl all smooth all over when I make love to her, I will treat my husband to a very rare personalized front and back shave that evening before we commence with the after dinner festivities.
Happy Thanksgiving Hubby and thanks for all that you do for me throughout the entire year so unselfishly and with so much love and true devotion.
-AJ
-AJ
Thanks again for the post AJ. I like that you are giving this to him as a reward. It is a great reward for him and it is so important that we reward our submissive husbands for their continued obedience and loyalty toward us. Positive reinforcement is just as effective (maybe even more effective) than negative reinforcement/punishment. I also love the twist in that while it is a reward for him, it will also be a tease for him. Having the extra freedom reminds him of what things are like without being locked up, which only adds to the tease torment when he is locked up again. It keeps him from getting to used to being locked up. My husband usually goes months without orgasm. After awhile it becomes too normal for him so I will switch it up and give him a few orgasms in a short period of time. Then when we go back to the longer periods, it drives him wild.
ReplyDeleteYou have an amazing blog. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI agree that positive reinforcement is a much more powerful and desired method of getting my husband to behave in the expected manner over other methods such as harsh punishment. The whole attracting more bees with honey type thing holds very true here. Creating a situation of his voluntary buy in is much easier and longer lasting than other methods involving forced coercion. I also agree that it's important to change things up from time to time in order to make things fresher and more exciting. Doing the same thing over and over again is bad for any relationship including FLR one's. We're all after a bit of excitement and intrigue in our relationships after all to keep things spiced up and not boring. That's why many of us may have first ventured down this path to begin with.
ReplyDeleteOn the surface I can see why many couples would have this very valid concern that by keeping a man in chastity 24x7 all of the time and by severely limiting his orgasms to just a tiny handful each year that this would seem repetitive and boring over time. That this would lead to ho hum boredom and make it an ineffective tool, but with "some tiny help" that's not all the case. I feel that the most important thing which I can and MUST DO to prevent extended chastity from becoming a boring and ineffective is to celebrate his chastity and orgasm denial on a daily basis, if not more often. By this I mean that he needs at least some sort of daily reminder from me that "I know" he is wearing his chastity device for me that particular day, and that by doing so I recognize that he is giving up something very important to him in order to make me happy that day. This is absolute key. You can't just throw a man into chastity and then seemingly completely forget about the dilemma that this man and your penis are incurring for you as result of that lock up. The worst thing for anyone is the feeling of being forgotten and being taken for granted. That will kill anything and fast. He needs some sort of token affirmation of his sacrifice. So every day for me the measures which I take to prevent that from occurring and to keep his chastity recognized and fresh are very simple ones. They literally take me just a few minutes each day for me to accomplish. It's typically just something as simple as briefly hefting his locked package in the palm of my hand. Visually and mentally that's telling him explicitly that I can see his current locked state of denial and that I am affirming that he is doing that for the benefit of our relationship. I try very hard to do something like that each and every day. I also frequently come up behind him as he is working or putzing about doing chores for me, and reach my hands between his legs and give him a quick grope or tug of his device. I also ask to see his precum stained panties each night before bed. By doing these very simple acts I am demonstrating that I am fully aware of his continued denied state and it’s not a just locked and forgotten type thing with me. There's a whole variety of things along these lines which I do often several times a day to keep him on edge and aware of his appreciated predicament. He loves that feeling of being kept and denied for my little sadistic enjoyment, that’s what makes it worthwhile to him. I also verbally express to him how hot and horny it makes me feel to seem him being kept that way and that he is willingly doing that for me, which is the 200% truth of the matter and he can see from my physical deadener that its most certainly the case. That makes him happy for his sacrifice. All of this takes literally just minutes a day. And when I balance those few minutes to the many hours of service and devotion he is providing to me each and every single day and night - that makes it so easy for me to make sure I give him the gift of those few minutes. He deserves them.
I will see how this Thanksgiving goes and if his little open-air erection experience affects his overall FLR attitude negatively or not. If it’s all good, then I may repeat this little adventure for him a little bit more often. Like his orgasms, I don't want to make it too often or it won't continue to be a special treat and earned reward for his good behavior.
ReplyDeleteSince he is in chastity much of the time and since he does have so few orgasms every year, I have attempted to compensate for that "loss" by periodically incorporating anal play into our relationship. Frankly being the penetrator and not the penetrated makes me feel pretty hot as well and I enjoy this intimate activity. I really enjoy turning the tables on my husband in this manner and I really enjoy his obvious mental dilemma when I do that. Pegging and other forms of anal and prostate stimulation are a kind of a love hate relationship for my husband. He hates the fact that he secretly enjoys the stimulation. And it adds to his mental dilemma that he fully knows that "I know" this to be the case. Having him wear panties for me produces a very similar dilemma for him. He's just so embarrassed by the whole dynamic of those “imposed” activities. But that's what makes me love it and exploit it to my advantage. So, these are other tools I use to help extend his periods of chastity and to provide him with alternative methods of sexual satisfaction to compensate him for the loss of his penis so to speak. These other methods also provide a dynamic method of keeping everything fresh and stimulating to him.
As I’ve commented about before, another pseudo penis tool I have provided him with, as compensation for the lack of direct involvement of his cock due to his chastity, is the gift of letting him provide me with almost nightly oral satisfaction. He really is hyper stimulated both mentally and physically by going down on me. He really enjoys getting down and dirty and getting busy with his very talented tongue (and by the ways, “somehow” I also happen to enjoy the nightly attention). I make sure to shower his wonderful skills nightly with my praise. As another post on this blog stated, I’m petting the dog and the dog eats the praise up. He gets very obvious personal sexual satisfaction from giving me oral – his cock is straining so hard in his cage. In fact, “he” recently was able to orgasm solely through the act and mental stimulation of giving me oral. This was a huge achievement for the both of us. It is my sincere hope that we can duplicate this type of orgasm for him with some regularity. This would be a super nice and super kinky augmentation to the 2 orgasms a year I have planned for him starting with the new year. Don’t ask me why but just thinking about him orgasming in this fashion a just an unbelievable turn on for me. I’m all for it happening and as long as it doesn’t happen too frequently (the edging and denied dynamic of our relationship is extremely important to the relationship), he would be free to augment his orgasms each year by cuming this way and I wouldn’t be at all upset by it. I think even if his body became more attenuated to this method with time it still wouldn’t produce but more than a few additional orgasms a year for him (if he can develop that skill) so it shouldn’t be a problem. This type of orgasm would also be so totally random in nature it would be perfect for the relationship.
ReplyDeleteSo I guess all of the above is my justification and explanation as to why 24x7 chastity seems to work for us and doesn’t become old hat boring to either one of us when it goes on for months at a time. You must mix in other elements to the chastity and recognize his daily gift of denial to make it work and to keep it fresh.
Have you thought of allowing him to penetrate you, but with strict orders not to come? After all, it would be even more fun for you and your sadistic tendencies to allow him to taste of your pussy while being forbidden to enjoy it completely by cumming.
ReplyDeleteIt would like putting a candy in a child's mouth and then withdrawing that candy almost immediately.
Thank you very much for your post AJ, and all of your earlier comments. If you can provide any update after Thanksgiving this would be much appreciated. In response to Mz. Kaylee's comment, I practice orgasm control and the greatest desire for me to orgasm is always the first 24-48 hours after an orgasm. In my experience the pleasure of a first orgasm after a long denial is less, and that greatly increases desire to come again. Midshipman173
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing. It looks like your husband is happy man. Can you share with us more about your relationship? How long did you developing this kind of relationship, who sugessted it at first, how lon are you together, do you have some rules in your house? Is there some discipline or punishments etc.? What is for you, as woman, interesting and important in this kind of relationship? Why do you strive for this (as woman)?
ReplyDeleteSorry I just really enjoy his tongue there and after all the our sex is mostly about me and my enjoyment. His penis will just stay where it belongs, locked between his legs. He gets everything he needs with his face buried between my legs.
ReplyDeleteHe will just spill and get into unneeded trouble if I let him out before it's time. Plus it's the continued denial and the fact that I don't allow him to use his cock whatsoever which turns the both of us on so much.
Anonymous, I would just have you read all of Mz Kaylee's posts beginning with her first in 2014. Read chronologically and read all of the comments. Your questions will all be answered there and you will emerge a much enlightened man. I encourage everyone to do the same.
ReplyDeleteThat's what I did as a wife trying to learn further about this lifestyle and what I continue to do. Every time through her blog, I pick up another valuable tidbit that I incorporate into my relationship. Focus on her words not so much mine. She truly has what I would consider the closest thing to FLR mastery that I am aware of.
AJ, Thanks for taking the time to share your experience and I appreciate your compliments. Your discussion on keepng chastity from being boring is a great a topic and I will add a post about it.
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