Monday, September 2, 2019

Submissive Craving - Power Trips

There are many things I do that send a clear message to my husband that I have authority over him. In this post, I'll refer to these actions as Power Trips. I think that's a fitting description since it is about me wielding my power over my husband. Power Trips come in many forms. It can be firm orders commanding him to do something, a demanding discipline session, a harsh punishment, aggressive sexual play, or fantasy play where I tease at how I own him and that he must obey me.

Sometimes a Power Trip is done with serious purposeful intentions. For example, if I feel Thomas is slacking off in his chores or becoming lazy, I may take a strict and serious tone with him and order him to immediately address the issues. I may take it further and point out small little things that need to be improved with his chores and I may even add a few additional tasks that I want him to do in the next day or two. The benefit of a WLM is that I can spout out orders and not have to worry about him arguing. He obeys without question. This is a bit of an extreme approach and it is purposely done to to correct his laziness and improve his behavior. It also serves a dual purpose of quenching his submissive craving, Yes, believe or not, submissive men enjoy and desire this tough and demanding approach. Thomas always gets an erection when I do this.

I also use Power Trips to remind him of my authority over him, which of course brings out his deep submissive nature. My fellow Goddess wives, if you want to try something fun, plan out a day for your husband and then tell him in a very direct and commanding tone what he is going to do for the day. The key is to be commanding and not ask or be polite. It could go something like this, "Thomas, I have a few things that need to be returned to Kohls. After breakfast you will return them for me and then you will pick up a few things at the supermarket for me. Once you get home, you will do all your chores before dinner. After dinner plan on running me a bath and I expect a massage afterward."

It is fun for me to hit Thomas with demands like that out of the blue. The instant change in his demeanor when I do this is exciting to watch. He gets excited, submissive, and aroused all at once. He becomes an instant loyal slave who can not wait to serve me and his submissive craving is being fed by me. I am still amazed at how simply changing my tone and attitude can have such an impact on Thomas. Ladies, if you have not done this with your submissive husband, you must give it a try. You will not be disappointed.

Last week I peeked into the living room to make sure Thomas was not sitting in my chair. He was not, but I let him know that I was checking on him. Doing little things like that to make sure he knows you are enforcing rules is another purposeful power trip that keeps him on his toes.

Then there are the Power Trips that are more fun and fantasy but also remind him of his place beneath me. When he is begging to cum, I may tell him how weak he is. I enjoy teasing his cock to the brink of orgasm over and over again, while telling him things like I own him, I love that he is my slave,  and that he needs to obey me and please me if ever wants to orgasm again. One of the biggest Power Trips is to tease him until he begs for orgasm and then tell him 'no.' When we first started our WLM it was fun to do this but it was not easy being tough. I would often give in. In fact, years later Thomas would admit that I was somewhat predictable when I would allow an orgasm. That predictability went away once I got my feet wet in WLM and learned that being denied orgasm is actually a rush for him, I became very good at denying him and I now enjoy having that power over him and I also get a rush from it. It is so much fun for both of us when I get him all worked up and then have him pleasure me to an orgasm but he gets none. Thomas can no longer predict when I will allow him an orgasm. Sometimes he goes months and sometimes he goes weeks and every now and then he might get one within a few days. I absolutely love teasing him like that and he loves the mind fuck from it all.

Another fun Power Trip is to take complete control during sex and be very dominant and aggressive with him.The queening position is great for this or having him kneel and perform oral on me. In the past year I've become much more aggressive with him during oral sex, squeezing my thighs tight around his head or pushing his head into me. Let's just say he's been having a hard time breathing down there. :). What's crazy is that the more breathless he is, the more aroused he gets. I must confess, oral sex has gotten hotter with us in the last few months.

Sometimes during sex (I am on top), I order him to remain still and not thrust. He is supposed to always remain still during sex or while I tease him unless I tell him otherwise. He is pretty good at following this rule but sometimes his natural instincts kick in and he starts to thrust. I will allow it on occasion if it is feeling good for me but others times I will reprimand him and tell him to remain still. Even when he is still, it is fun to order him not to thrust just to reinforce my authority over him. Whenever I give the order to not thrust or for him to remain still, something changes in him. His arousal suddenly spikes and it becomes harder for him to repress his orgasm. Another great mind fuck just by saying a few words!!

Power Trips are a lot of fun for me but also drive him wild and help to appease his submissive craving. As you become experienced in WLM, you'll find that often times you'll naturally go into Power Trip mode or sometimes it will be a spontaneous activity. It is also fun to plan a fantasy Power Trip every now then to spice things up and to remind him of his proper place beneath you. If you are a woman who is new to WLM, planning frequent Power Trips is a must! It is a great way for you to get comfortable in the dominant role while having fun.

I would love to hear what Power Trips you have all experienced and what are your favorites.

-Mz Kaylee.

13 comments:

  1. Mz Kaylee, thank you again for another insightful post!

    For Goddess wives: to back up Mz Kaylee's point about how exciting this is for a submissive man, the first thing I did after reading this post was to go back and re-read not the sex stuff, but what she said to Thomas in the 3rd paragraph. The way she says "...you WILL do this/that FOR ME" is so powerful and sexy! When my wife says it that way, using "for me," it turns a chore into a deed that I can do to make My Love happy. That gets me excited.

    Also, the tone must fit your relationship. My wife and I like being happy. We've always kind of insisted on it, and she tells me she designs our days to give us the best launching point to attain that. Being a bitch is not her style and it's not something I want either. She is very feminine and sweet by nature, but she does like things done her way and she will take charge to make sure they are done her way. All of that attracted me to her. Her day-to-day tone in our WLM is nice, sometimes teasing, always feminine - but I can't remember the last time she said "will you, please, or thank you" to me. She does that FOR me! She thought a WLM was not natural for her, but she learned in small exciting steps to love it! Why? Because while she was willing to try a WLM for me at first, as it evolved she carefully crafted the tone in our relationship to fit HER style. To me she became my Goddess when she said she would try a WLM, but for her she would tell you it took her time to blossom into a Goddess. So now, simply, I must obey her because at this point we cannot even imagine me as her equal - and we BOTH love that.

    Mz Kaylee, you're right. What you call Power Trips drive submissive men wild. These mornings when she has me kneel naked before her and tells me "Here's how our day is going to go" - and she has the opportunity to command me with "You will... for me" - they send me into the submission I crave and she has my attention and gratitude in every way!

    Thank you again, respectfully,
    Kyle

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  2. Hi Mz Kaylee, thank you for another great post. I'm really looking forward to the comments on this one! Lately my wife has been pulling the power trip of occasionally telling me to hand her my phone when we're out. She puts it in her purse and checks texts and calls to see if she wants to hand it back to me to handle. If she doesn't, she rarely tells me who was contacting me, and she's told me not ask. She just puts my phone back in her purse. If she needs me to look something up she hands me my phone, I do what she wants and hand it back to her immediately. She has me ask the voice assistant so I'm not playing around on it or looking to see who was contacting me. She says it does wonders to help me keep my concentration on her, and of course she's right. It's stunning how often I put my hand in my pocket to grab my phone - its absence is a constant reminder of my status in our WLM. I have a feeling that my keys or wallet will be next and their absence from my pockets will bring up entirely new challenges, but familiar, craved, excited feelings of submission to her.

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  3. "Excited, submissive and aroused" - that is exactly it! Exactly. I am fascinated how small changes in my language and direction of my husband have such an effect. When I "tell him" what he is doing versus "suggest" or "ask" it has a much (much,much) bigger and better effect on him. He recently told me that it relaxes, calms and orients him when I do this which is now near all the time. Great, great post. Thank you!

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  4. Dear Mz Kaylee, as usually I can find many elements of domination from your post in my day-to-day life. I cannot say that I am in a ful WLM relationship, but we are definitely still evolving. While I cannot speak for Her feelings about it all, I can daily see enough signs that my Wife is not doing it just to please me, She is clearly enjoying it more and more and appreciates my devotion, obedience and my services. There is no going back, that is for sure. And most importantly, Her dominance is spreading to different areas outside sex. Like you said, when She's strict and dominant, any activity or Her demand or restriction She forces on me becomes sexually charged for me.

    What represents a Power Trip for you and other Dominant Women, is always an Arousal Trip for me and, I am sure, other submissive guys, which attaches me even closer to my Wife.

    For me, the most overwhelming and positively stunning power trips (arousal trips for me) are those that either lead to my Wife's orgasm (sexual trips), or involve or hint at my devotion and obedience to my Wife in presence of Her closest girlfriends or some random Female stranger. When this happens, I feel drunk with arousal and horniness and the residual general feeling (and total obedience) stays with me for days afterwards.

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  5. Dar Kaylee. I love this posting. I too have gotten to love the power rush I feel when I dominate my husband. One of things I enjoy is ordering him into his corner, even when he has done nothing to deserve it. He will ask if he did something wrong and I tell him "no, I just want you in the corner now. And stay there until I release him." I never tell him how long he will stay there - it adds to my power over him. Usually I keep him there from 15 minutes to over an hour. Sometimes it is so pleasant to have a nice quiet hour or so in the evening to myself to read or watch a TV show knowing that my husband is safely, quietly, and patiently parked in his corner waiting for me to release him. :)
    Sincerely,
    Diane

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    1. My wife calls it Reflection Time!

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    2. My wife calls it think about what you have done and why you are getting a spanking. The longer I stand there I know the spanking will be worse. I'm naked, erect and dreading the spanking and even say I'm sorry, her response is you will be young man. Jack

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  6. Like Thomas, I have no idea when my wife will allow me to orgasm. She enjoys teasing my cock to the point that I start pleading to cum but never know if she will continue or not.

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  7. Hi. This blog is very inspiring !! my wife and I. we are evolving in our FLR. because of what we're reading here.

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  8. Not long after my girlfriend started spanking me we visited a couple who are in a female led relationship. We chatted for a while and then the wife said "I think it's time we disciplined the boys." The husband and I had to lower our pants and underpants and bend over the table. Presenting my bottom in front of another woman was a real arousal trip for me!
    underpants

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  9. Kaylee,
    At the beginning of the year you said...
    “I've been thinking a lot about getting Thomas a chastity device. As of now, it is not something that I want him in 24/7 but I think it would be fun and thrilling to lock-up him up for short-periods of time. I know it would blow his mind and the thought of locking up his cock his exciting to me. We'll see where that goes“
    Have you decided anything on that course of action?
    I find male chastity fascinating, but am not practicing it myself.

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  10. You say: "The benefit of a WLM is that I can spout out orders and not have to worry about him arguing. He obeys without question. This is a bit of an extreme approach and it is purposely done to to correct his laziness and improve his behavior. It also serves a dual purpose of quenching his submissive craving, Yes, believe or not, submissive men enjoy and desire this tough and demanding approach. Thomas always gets an erection when I do this."

    I can confirm this. When my girlfriend tells me in a firm voice to do what would otherwise be a boring household chore, I find it sexy. If only more women realized how easy it is to dominate us - and to get the housework done too. It may help further if you tell him to strip to his underpants - or completely nude - while you stay fully dressed.
    underpants

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  11. This is so spot on .We are in the beginning of our WLM. We have already established daily rituals the she has become to expect and enjoy from me . I start the day getting her sneakers out and untied for her . I get her coffee and help her with the prep for the pets breakfast . I always clear her plates from every meal . I also get her more coffee when she says she is ready . I wait till she is doner showering so I can wipe the shower down so she doesnt have to do it .After dinner we watch tv .I always message her feet before bed . Once upstairs every night I give her a message with two nice foot creams I bought for her . I kneel each night while I do this . It makes me extremely aroused being able to serve her in these ways . Intimacy has returned to our marriage . Everything is so much better now with her in charge . Im not allowed to argue anymore . Im less selfish and I am helpful to her . I am looking for ways and advice to make our WLM stronger and better . I dont ask her for any kink but I am always thinking about it . Instead I try to focus on being a good submissive and serving her needs . Your blog is great thank you

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