There has certainly been a lot of interest and chatter on the topic of cuckolding among the readers of this blog. If you've not read the comments in the last post on cuckolding, please do. The discussion has been enlightening. I'm delighted to share another real world experience of cuckolding from Debbie. Debbie is a regular reader of the blog and has submitted a few guests posts in the past. After reading through the comments on cuckolding, she was kind enough to share how cuckolding works in her marriage. Thanks so much Debbie! Here is her post:
I came across Mary's comments concerning cuckolding and felt it was a good opportunity to share some of my experiences with cuckolding David. David loves the submissive lifestyle and the F/m rythms of our daily lives.
Why Cuckolding? In short, David is inadequate in the bedroom, little blue pills not withstanding. He's fantastic at oral sex but I need a man inside of me to be fully satisfied - David wasn't meeting my needs - and he knew it - so I looked outside. Honestly though, I'd cuckold him even if he was more sexually capable, I love the excitement of another man. I traveled a lot on business - so did David - and this gave me opportunities for sex - lots of it. On more than one occasion David called my hotel room only to have a guy answer. David would get excited by such encounters. No, initially, I didn't tell David but, as I said, he knew. And, our prenuptial agreement, set the stage for cuckolding since it said I could have 'friends' and this meant BOY friends as far as I was concerned! Additionally, there was some precedent in my family since mom had boyfriends and was pretty open about it.
Cuckolding was a thing with us going back to David and I having nights out together.Getting ready for an evening out was a big deal. He loved suggesting an outfit, usually something like a club dress with a plunging neckline and high hem line. Guys would hit o on me and David was such a sweetheart about it. A guy would come up to me at the bar and David would excuse himself leaving me alone with the guy to talk and dance. David would sit across the bar and enjoy watching me have fun. I don't know if he ever felt humiliated; he never said so. He seemed to enjoy the attention I was receiving.
Nevertheless, I wanted to come out with my dating but wasn't sure how he'd react. I was tired of having guys on the road or when David was out of town. One day when David was at my mother's cleaning the house she casually mentioned that her married daughter had a boyfriend who she was seeing regularly. David's only response was an excited, “Oh, that's nice!”. It set the stage for my being open about boyfriends.
He'd done some shopping, buying a new club dress, a pair of heels, and some expensive perfume. David helped me dress, fit-to-kill, right down to spraying some of the expensive perfume he'd bought on my panties. When Rob arrived I sent David to his room. He was as excited as I was, but he had concerns. He didn't want to meet Rob and I assured him he wouldn't have to; like Mary I totally separate David and my boyfriends. I told him it was “only a date” and added that this wasn't much different from our going clubbing. I told him Rob and I were going to dinner and then to his's place. The date was fantastic; Rob was tremendous in bed. When Rob dropped me off at 2:00 AM David was there to greet me with a mixed drink. As excited as ever David wanted to know about my date but I told him it was “my little secret”. I never give David any details about my dates He told me he only wanted me to be happy and I assured him I was but that he could make me happier. I pulled up my dress, took off my panties, and sat on the couch. David knew what to do and he knelt between my legs and did a fantastic job eating my pussy. WOW! If that's not worshiping a woman I don't know what is.
What have I learned? Well, a lot:
Cuckolding is a thing to both of us; he accepts it to the point where he is open about it within our circle of friends
David is concerned about our marriage and his submissive lifestyle. He doesn't want this to change and neither do I. I don't want to lose my housekeeper!
David has accepted that he comes up short in bed and that I need other men to fill the void.
Getting ready is a big deal and David loves preparing me for a date. He's really into it picking everything right down to the shade of my pantyhose. If I tell David I'm going to dinner with 'a friend' he'll pack clothes for me for the evening as well as for the next business day.
Rob and I are a number, regularly dating and going to dinner and the clubs. We've even vacationed together, going to Vegas and on a cruise together. Rob and I have an open relationship and agreed we can each see other. It's good since I love the excitement of a new man now and again. And David? He's totally accepting of my dating regarding it as the ultimate submission. That's nice since I do too. He's rather proud of my being attractive to other men.
More later,
Debbie
Debbie so many things in your story intersect with mine. When we were younger we used to love to go to dances. I didn't care to dance so my wife would seek out other men to dance with. Always staying on the floor for at least one slow dance. I would look out and she would press herself against them with her head on their shoulder and usually giving them a kiss when they finished. I always found myself more excited than jealous.
ReplyDeleteMuch like your husband I am inadequate in the intercourse department. When she finally decided to pick out her own dildo it was much larger than me. When it came to the house I opened it up and looked at it in awe and when I looked over at her she said "what can I say, I like big dicks". Over the years this has become a replacement for intercourse from me.
Next winter we will be living in a community with a lot of social events and a lot of new people. She said she wants to "cement" or WLM while we are down there. I am wondering with her becoming totally dominate and now putting me in 24/7 chastity that I am being set up for this. I hope I will take it with the grace of your husband. Who knows maybe 6 months from now I will be doing my own guest post. Take care-Alan
P.S. Debbie and Mary I would love to see you do a profile. If this is something on my wife's mind I am sure she would love to hear how you handle your husband reactions.
This is so beautiful because everyone's needs are being fulfilled.
ReplyDelete1) You are getting the adequate sex you need, and desire from a well endowed man.
2) Rob is able to have intimacy, and fantastic sex with an incredible woman.
3) David is able to fulfill his FLR role by planning, and helping you get ready for your rendezvous with Rob. Furthermore he is so thoughtful; anticipating your needs, then packing a suitcase with business clothes so you can go straight from there to work. You save time by not having to go home first. As the submissive in your marriage, he is completely fulfilling his obligations to you; his authority figure. I commend David for his devotion to you Debbie.
He is showing genuine concern for your happiness.
I think the most wonderful part is that David is so proud of you seeking out the sex he can't give you, to the point (that you stated) he will openly talk about it with a few of your close friends.
Wow! Frankly cuckolding has always scared me a bit, but you have made it seem as such a part of your whole domination experience ! I appreciated that David is kept as housekeeper status and not a threeway relationship. Thank you for making this dynamic seem achievable in our WLM.
ReplyDeleteI would love to hear more about your mother’s involvement, as I have always wanted to serve my mother in law!
Thanks again,
John
You are fortunate to have such a devoted housekeeper, I mean husband, Mz Debbie. He always seems to place your desires, pleasure and happiness before his own. Was he like that before you married him or did he require lots of training? If he required training may I ask you what are some of the techniques you used?
ReplyDeleteDebbie, I enjoyed your post. Thank you ! In reading your post it would seem that you rejected the whole concept of fidelity In marriage as a natural part of who you are . I think this is becoming much more common among married women of today but probably not as boldly as you have described. I am fascinated with the concept because it is very one sided and clearly displays the new and bold empowerment of women . I am equally amazed that vanilla men with no idea of the concepts of a WLM are accepting their new role with a new found lust for their wives or girlfriends.
ReplyDeleteI am curious as to what qualities you were attracted to in David as well as Rob ? Are you naturally attracted to men with submissive qualities but need a more dominant man to fulfill your desires in the bedroom ?
Take care
John Dalton
There's a wonderful balance and purpose of wife, husband and bf involved.
ReplyDeleteGreat depiction how it works. A bit different how from Mary shares details vs Debbie doesn't about the dates and all are excited.
Thanks!
Debbie has a good head on her shoulders. Looking out for herself as always -- as.she should. But those who would portray her as self centered forget she loans out het husband to her mom. How wonderful, how moral. Debbie you are a Goddess like mzKaylee.
ReplyDeleteGreat experience of cuckolding from the female perspective, and how this covers Her needs. Thank you, Miss Debbie! Most situations I've read are about the male pushing cuckolding so this one is pure fresh air!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad David embraces the lifestyle. Sadly, I hear many failed marriage stories where I think the husband would be a perfect sub or cuckold but both the wife and husband are stuck in traditional roles. Yesterday I was thanking my Queen for Her leadership as we learned of a failed marriage where the husband doesn't lead but resists being led.
Wonder what other needs or desires are covered by cuckolding, beyond sexual? i can see where typical sub hubbies lack leadership, dominance, decision (while excelling at friendship, service, fatherhood).
ReplyDeleteI guess I'm looking for areas to provide to my Queen. For example, I know that She needs female friendship which I cannot provide, but knowing this I make all efforts for Her to get in touch/spend time with fem friends. Similarly, She has a mentor for spiritual direction. Sex has never been Her biggest priority, She has always said She's good and is now enjoying my chastity as She feels desired (and not pushed) all day long.
Her fem friends and mentor notice not only my willingness but my thankfulness towards them for providing something I cannot. I'd like to keep my eyes open to areas that need to be fulfilled (adventure, travelling) and would love to learn from others.
I forgot to explicitly say that these conversations opened my eyes to what I think it's a good cuckolding experience. If/when needed, I'd suggest/embrace cuckolding as an avenue to fulfill an area that She might experience in a different way.
Deletemy wife and I had lunch last weekend with one of her friends, whom I happen to be cleaning for every other weekend. Her friend wanted to catch my wife up on her latest news, mainly that although she is and remains in a now 5 year relationship with her boyfriend, she announced to him recently that she also desired to see other people, but that if he wanted to stay involved with her that he needed to remain committed solely to her. She said after a few days of sulking he agreed, and that although they live together certain nights she would ask that he either leave or occupy a different room. My wife and her friend were both visibly excited while talking, and the two made arrangements to meet up later in the week to do some shopping for whatever upcoming dates this woman would be having. I kept quiet the entire time, and much to my surprise (and excitement?) my wife didn't mention the conversation or ask my opinion at all after we had left the restaurant. I remain of the opinion that I personally could not handle being cuckolded, but I admit the "fantasy" aspect of it is arousing and part of me now is convinced my wife would be open to the idea. As for her friend's current man, I somewhat know him and am wondering whether to ask him how he's doing. Like I said, I'm at the woman's house every other Saturday cleaning. He's usually not around so I've only chatted with him very briefly on occasion.
ReplyDeleteNice post. I'll provide some observations. First, is your wife's woman friend is living with a guy? Why does she have you doing the cleaning? Why not train and use her guy as a housekeeper? Is your wife's girlfriend's not in an FLR with her current live-in? Nevertheless, it's gratifying to see that your wife is loaning you out to her girlfriends. Your wife expects to do good work for her friends; make sure you follow-through.
DeleteYour wife's friends announcing to her man that she is going to see other people but that he must maintain fidelity is a big step for her and her live-in man. I'm surprised that your wife's friend had you at the lunch, I would never have taken David to lunch with a girlfriend when such topics were going to be discussed. Her planning a shopping trip to pick outfits for that 'first date' is a sign that this isn't a passing fad; she regards her new guy as special and is very excited. She's going fuck her new boyfriend no matter what her current live-in thinks. She's willing to tolerate her current live-in so long as he goes along but if he disagrees the least little bit with her dating I'm sure she'll throw him to the curb.
Your keeping quiet was the best thing you could have done and should keep doing. Your wife is not going to discuss the conversation or ask your opinion because, frankly she doesn't give a damn about your opinion. No matter what you or her girlfriend's man are going to say isn't going to change anything. Your wife's girlfriend is bent on cuckolding her live-in boyfriend. I WOULD NOT say anything to your wife's girlfriend's guy. If he's there when you are cleaning don't say a word and don't disclose what you've heard. The women are in charge here. As a submissive gentlemen you are obligated to side with and support women no matter your friendships with men.
As for your being able to handle being cuckolded, whether you can handle it or not I get the feeling that your wife's girlfriend may have talked to your wife because she - your wife - is more experienced with cuckolding than you are aware. Is your wife a professional with an above average income? Does she travel on business? Does she have regular 'girl's nights out'? You may be a cuckold already. Maybe it's 'when' not 'if' your wife hits you with a similar announcement about her dating others. If you are satisfied with your current submissive lifestyle be ready to agree with whatever your wife desires.
If you want to talk further please post a response...
Debbie
Tim
ReplyDeleteWhat's funny is that every time you've said your wife loans you out to others to clean, I thought that may have been code that she wanted you to satisfy them any way possible... That they discussed it lol
But glad it's going well
This reminds me when I was dating an older woman, it was just a friendship at first, and then a trip to the coast went further. I recall she would say I was not maintaining and I tried hard to do so. It was one of those trips to the coast, it started out good, but not for long. Your such a naughty boy she said with that Motherly tone and I got hard real fast. Oh so you like being called a naughty boy, I said nothing, well naughty boys get a spanking and I really got hard and she said is that what it took, calling you a naughty boy and talk about a spanking. Later in the afternoon she said that she wanted to give me a spanking, I said okay. Over her lap, bare bottom, I got a sound spanking, I messed up her slacks, she did not care. When done, she smiled, good now that we have one problem solved, I will also use the same for the other problem, her attitude and behavior. We dated for another couple of years, sex was better, the spankings hurt, and were punishment.
ReplyDeleteGreat post. My wife’s freedom to have lovers has been one of the most powerful aspects of our FLR. Like David I am not involved in my wife’s trysts with her lovers, but she tells me about the great sex she has with men who are better endowed than I. I get pleasure from the humiliation, but it also makes me happy to know she gets such enjoyment out of it.
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