Earlier this week, I allowed Thomas to pleasure me. In the midst of the pleasure he ended up on top of me and we had sex that way. This is not normal for us. He is not allowed on top during sex. He is not even allowed to thrust unless I tell him to, which is not often. Usually I use him like a sex toy for my pleasure. Having these rules is one of the many ways that I exert my control over him and enforce his submissive status in the relationship. He broke the rule by even trying to do it, but I allowed it. I was just in the mood for it. Perhaps he sensed that I wanted it and took his chances. Once he was inside of me, he knew I was allowing him a very special privilege. I think it excited him more, which made it more torturous for him because he was not allowed to cum. So there he was - on top and thrusting, something he's not used to doing anymore. If felt great and I had an incredible orgasm. He managed to do it all without having an orgasm but I know he did not want to stop and I know he wanted to orgasm bad. Instead I sent him to kneel in the corner for a few minutes to calm down. It is exciting to have that control over him and I know he loved being denied. As much as he wanted to orgasm, he got a greater thrill from being denied. I love it!
Exceptions to the rule are fine from time-to-time. Your WLM/FLR is not written in stone and so it is ok for the leader to bend the rules every now and then or change the rules. Notice that I said leaders. It's not ok for your subbies to bend rules - you get punished for bending the rules. Sorry, that's just how it works :).
I had a feeling that I had wrote about this before and so I searched my blog and sure enough, I posted about this in Dec 2015. I guess Thomas gets an exception to be on top every 5 years.
-Mz Kaylee
What a wonderful story. I'm not as restricted as Thomas when it comes to PIV sex (thrusting is even encouraged) but I can tell you something you already know; he was in a state of unquestioned bliss having been given the honor of penetrating you this way. You really are a benevolemtn Mistress Wife and you clearly love your husband very much.
ReplyDeleteOf course it is true that he loved being denied and got a greater thrill from it than being allowed to orgasm. It's something that well trained husbands understand while most of the rest of the world doesn't.
Thanks for this wonderful story.
Wonderful post! I think both were pleasantly surprised. I wonder what he was thinking when he took the initiative. Maybe something you can ask. It does make it exciting at times when exceptions do occur.
ReplyDeleteI understand being used as a sex toy. Yesterday I took a short nap around lunch time, as I didn't sleep well the night before. Wife came in the room at some point, woke me up, took her pants off and requested oral. She had a huge intense orgasm, got up, dressed, said for me to go back to sleep and left. All of this happened in 2 min. I felt used and it was great lol.
Mz Kaylee,
What I was trying to ask was if oral was always the main way Thomas pleasured you? Or was it ever intercourse before wlm? Just curious if there was a transition and how that went.
Thanks!
Great story Mike. I love doing the same “quickie” with my husband. It’s great to see the aroused and dazed look on his face when I dress and leave.
DeleteRegarding oral, it became much more frequent and intense after after WLM, so yes it has evolved as a result of WLM and intercourse is less frequent.
DeleteI have to ask before I can enter. I think the most frustrating thing as to ask to come, being told "no" and having to pull out without an orgasm especially if you were close to coming. My cage goes on as soon as I go soft and this makes it much more frustrating. Take care - Alan
ReplyDeleteGreat!
DeleteI've gotten used to always pulling out when I'm close to cum or simply when she's finished. The expectation is to never allow to cum, so makes it easier to not ask ask. Perhaps if she wanted you to, she'll verbally give permission. Maybe that can help?
At least with us, it's the norm and works well.
Mike, she is usually finished by the time I am allowed in. She generally gets her orgasm with a combination of the dildo and my tongue. If she allows me out of my cage at that point I ask to enter. Any intercourse that's allowed is for my benefit. Most of the time when this happens there is no orgasm for me. At least half the time my cage never comes off, she just informs me we are finished. Withholding sexual pleasure seems to be as important to her as withholding orgasm. So yes, the sex toy description fits pretty well. Stay safe- Alan
DeleteHi Alan
DeleteThats nice. It's a strange discovery, phase we're in. She knows I prefer to give her oral however, I'll do as I'm told with intercourse. So I'm not sure if it's even for my benefit. Really for hers.
In a good way, we've just realized I'm a tool to be used as she wishes to get those orgasms. For me to cum really is not part of the plan as it doesn't benefit her.
Mz Kaylee,
ReplyDeleteMy Owner also regards me as Her sextoy just as you do Thomas. Under no circumstances am i ever permitted to initiate sex and, unlike Thomas have not been inside Her for over a decade and probably never will be allowed inside Her again. She sometimes penetrates me (with Her strapon) but mostly just has me pleasure Her anus with my tongue whilst She masturbates or enjoys Her toys.
This arrangement has become quite normal for us and i genuinely no longer miss not being able to have 'normal' sex. It has also made my 'clit' quite redundant.
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I have NEVER forgot to ask her for permission to penetrate her and she has denied me often enough that privilege and I have obeyed her about that. Every women has the absolute right to decide if she will be penetrated or not and if I was a woman I would dump any guy who didn’t understand that and respect it. The truth is I have started to enjoy having to ask her permission, even when she says no. But several times when I am in her I have failed to ask permission to cum, or had a spontaneous ejaculation a few times. She has punished me when this happens and that was fair. But a lot of comments on here make guys sound perfect in that department and always able to control themselves and when they climax. She has always been gracious and forgiven me for sipping (after punishment) but she doesn’t expect me to be perfect at least not yet. Isn’t reality a little closer to my experience that portrayed by guys who can always accept denial or pull out on command. Maybe I am wrong about this but some of what some women ask seems superhuman or some guys are exaggerating their level of obedience in the height of passion
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I don't know what you are implying and i don't speak for anyone else but me. Having to ask for permission to cum has always been a HUGE thing in our relationship from the beginning. In the beginning and early on it was hard not to cum without permission, but I only ever did so once and I was punished soundly for it. Since then, I have NEVER spilled without permission and have NEVER had as spontaneous ejaculation without permission. So reality for me is not a little is not an attempt to portray perfection in that regard, but rather a nearly perfect record of never allowing myself to get to too close and come without permission. I am simply not allowed to use the height of passion as a reason for disobedience.
DeleteI'm certainly waaay imperfect during intercourse as well. Particularly if my wife is building up to her own orgasm, I won't/can't stop her just in order to stop myself. I once read it described that the woman's orgasm can 'pull' an orgasm out of the man despite his best intentions.
DeleteThat's why going down is such a big part of FLRs!
CK
CK, you are absolutely correct. Her orgasm can "pull" an orgasm out of the man. Once, after a very sexy teasing and denial session, Mistress K. decided she wanted to orgasm with a dildo and a vibrator while I straddled her tummy facing her and watched. I got so aroused that I had a ruined orgasm with zero stimulation other than seeing my Wife have her orgasm. Oh, and yes, I was given permission.
DeleteThat sounds hot and intense sub hub. Nice!
ReplyDeleteI'm no longer allowed to cum in her, and there's no longer any asking. I supposed it's safe to say I'm not to cum anymore at all. Makes sex simpler and yet more intense.
It's wonderful
Wow Mike. I completely understand significant restrictions on frequency of being allowed to cum, but I don't know that I could handle knowing that I will never have an orgasm again. How do you do it?
DeleteHey there sub hub
DeleteIt's crazy but great. I suppose like with everything, practice and discipline. It's pretty normal I must say. My subdrop is terrible. And being in our 30s, it's definitely not mainstream.
I used to ask each time which became tiresome and annoying so just not asking was the next step. She enjoys my behavior better and no mess as a huge advantage.
She tolerates once a month a ruined one.
I actually don't really desire to cum at this point and feels wonderful she's pleased. She also agreed it's not necessary
A ruined orgasm once a month is something. It's not nothing. Something to look forward to.
DeleteYes sir. Well, she allows it only because it happens as I didn't pull out soon enough. Her preference would not have it at all. I'm happy with it. I don't look forward to the ruined ones,as they're not really that pleasurable and satisfying. It stops the momentum of intercourse too as I would need to pull out.
DeleteYou may have to share some thoughts and advice. How does it work for you?
I'm with Subhub on this one Mike, I don't think I could handle not have an other orgasm. Even with as few as I am allowed it's the carrot I am always chasing. Without the reward I think my submissive side would suffer. When I hear the words "you may come" I can't stop thanking her over and over right through my orgasm. Take care- Alan
DeleteGosh, how about some one mentor this young fellow. May need to exchange some emails.
DeleteMy behavior after I cum is never good- disobedient and annoyed. We decided it's not needed. I would agree too. I just haven't looked forward to it. I probably could give more details on expectations and thoughts.
I'm curious on your perspective and insight
" My behavior after I cum is never good- disobedient and annoyed." I had the same problem after intercourse. My wife solved it with a hairbrush and believe me that did solve it.
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Thank you again for the sharing. I really like the exception treat idea and it is a stimulation to the routine life. The dominant has the rights to decide what to do or not do. It is fresh for the sub to follow new challenges and orders by the Dom. Exception is in the Dom hand and it expresses the Dom is in charge.
ReplyDeleteRecently I read the “submissive craving” chapters again. It is really inspiring for a sub to get ready for long term submission to the Dom. Being mentally and physically ready for the submission. The beginner would easily being demanding to the Dom and self centred. Thanks for reminding to being humble and suppress aggressive desires. Learn to obey and satisfy what you have is essential for a sub beginner.
Cheers and hope we all enjoy the Dom/ Sub life
Thanks David🤗
DeleteMz Kaylee, even though you "allowed it" he still broke a rule and I'm wondering if you've given a thought to still punishing him, just to remind him of that.
ReplyDeleteNo, that was the whole point of my post. I made an exception so no punishment. It’s not like he forced himself on me. I could have stopped him at anytime.
DeleteI would never marry a woman who didn't thoroughly enjoy having sexual intercourse with me. I definitely need the pleasure and intimacy of mutual orgasms. But whatever makes people happy is fine with me.
DeleteFrank.
DeleteI enjoy hearing your perspective. You are in a much different “phase” then most of the guys here. I would imagine most everyone felt the same way as you when they married. The FLR/WLM journey has many twists and turns and profoundly changes your desires and how you think. If you find the right woman to take you on this journey (I hope you do) then you may find that 5 or 10 years down the road you are craving the pleasure of denial over intercourse. In the meantime be true to yourself, treat the women in your life as Goddesses. and have fun. Please continue to share your thoughts and opinions.
Thank you for your advice and correction, Mz Kaylee. You are much smarter than I am. I have much to learn about serving and pleasing a Goddess. I try to be respectful and obedient to all women. I believe women are superior to men in intelligence and the love and care they give to others. Not many women would make the time and effort to teach all the men who read your blog how to better serve and obey their Goddesses. I really appreciate the guidance you and your readers give to me. My ultimate goal is to please and serve a Goddess as Thomas pleases you.
DeleteMz Kaylee, thank you for your reply to Frank. One of the marvelous things about our lifestyle is that it is unique to us. In one relationship the goal may be to never again allow the husband to have a proper orgasm, while in others they are only significantly reduced. Hell, in some the husband is often required to orgasm whether he wants to or not. To each their own!
ReplyDeleteIn the end, the important thing is that the goal of a pampered, blissful, pleasurable life for the Wife is achieved ... however she decides.
Yes, absolutely. Orgasm control is a must in WLM but that does not mean no orgasms. Many women incorporate orgasm control and allow their husband to orgasm frequently. The important part is that she decides when and how he orgasms, even if it means she allows an orgasm every time during sex. It is fun to deny his orgasm but it is also fun to command him to cum or give him permission to cum and see him instantly lose all control.
DeleteVery true! Well said.
ReplyDeleteDifferent journey, different paths, different women ��
I think it's difficult with this topic and relationships to compare ( or not to) or have goals when everyone is uniquely different.
ReplyDeleteI love giving her oral. I prefer it over intercourse, if I ever had to choose. She knows this. Therefore, that plays a part that there wasn't really a need or desire for me to cum. Unless there's a bunch if guys out there that can cum from giving oral. She also knows that intercourse really happens because she requests it for her own pleasure. It's not that I don't enjoy it but even for me giving oral is much more intense and pleasurable. It's so strange because i never did before our wlm so it's a huge change. I've encouraged her to find intercourse elsewhere as well.
She/we have found a great balance of her taking ownership of me and our marriage to where it's wonderful but not feeling like work. Compared to others, it's probably,dry and boring. Neither of us have the desire or fantasy for the kink, fetishes... Plugs, spankings, cross dressing, edging, corner time. Both working, kids at home, we both love fitness 4 to 5 times a week/gym. It's pretty full day and tiring as it is.
Sex typically is sex to give her orgasms and then continue with the day. It probably doesn't seem as ritualistic or ceremonious as others. I'm called in to give her orgasm and then immediately leave or move on to other things to do as she requests. Sex toy metaphor. Simple and direct. Usually no kissing or touching, and I don't see her fully nude. It's all perfect. I do as I'm told.
Voluntary edging and even to cum freely has lost his appeal. Most importantly, none of this affects my obedience and loyalty to serve her. If anything, I've asked her to be more controlling.
I do like others perspective and insight and of course we're all uniquely diverse.
Mike, having kids makes all the difference in the world. We didn't start with WLM until after we were empty nesters. The real changes have come since we both have retired. Like you my wife is generally interested in getting off, but it's also important to her that I don't get any pleasure at the same time. We basically have sex for the purpose of sexually satisfying her. In a lot of ways, as in your situation I get most of my pleasure from seeing her orgasm. I love to edge myself, but it's only with permission. I believe my wife knew I was cheating from time to time and that is why I am caged most of the time now. Really the kinks have only showed up as of late so as your children grow and time frees up you both may find these activities pleasurable. I have to congratulate you on the fact that you can keep your hands off your self in your 30's. I would never have been able to do that as it is difficult in my 60's. Love reading your posts.- Alan
ReplyDeleteHey Alan
ReplyDeleteThanks for the insight. I thought I was missing something but your words were inspirational.
I think we have in common that sex really is for the wives benefit. I've said that to her and she smiles. I think it took her a while to grasp the concept and accept it but now it flourishes. It's like my only purpose and value for sex is to ensure she gets all the intense orgasms she wishes.
It was definitely difficult in the beginning. But I suppose my logical thinking of why encourage myself to slip by edging, was already too much temptation. So I just did the cold turkey method ha. Like cutting out fried foods. Plus, both of us saw nothing good from cumming. Perhaps when I get older, I won't have as much of an emotional rollercoaster,sub drop. Everyone seems to handle it well.
Anyways, yes we made some adjustments due to schedules and energy. Again, probably a lot simpler and direct but very functional and operational.
Thanks again for your insight and support!
But Mike, isn't there a mental pleasure in it for you? It's a great mind fuck, is it not?
ReplyDeleteOhh it truly is an amazing mind fuck, which you've written about. May have to revisit it, as it serves to be more important than the orgasm itself.
ReplyDeleteIt's definitely a great experience.
Confident women who are in control of their sexual pleasure,desires and needs,can improve a lot their sexual life. Specially with man who desires to serve and please his lady in all ways,and is not concentrated on his own selfish needs.Many women don't enjoy penetrative sex,and feel abused, because men use women as masturbation aid during sex.Man who loves,respect,honour and cherish his woman does everything to make her loved,respected and pleased. Women can get a lot of pleasure from penis stimulation.With tantric techniques like kegels,also in books of Mantak Chia there are also methods to last longer for man without ejaculation. It's absolutely normal and healthy for men to practice semen retention,and have sex without ejaculation.Women instead are multiorgasmic and can have as much orgasms as they want.Orgasms have many benefits for their health.Women are much more orgasmic than men.They can experience different kinds of vaginal orgasms:clitoral,G,A,O,P,also breast orgasm.So men help your beloved women to open sexually,their full potential,they merit that.
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e all kinds of vaginal orgasms?
My wife is a bit different than most on here. She enjoys penetrative sex (with a bullet vibrator on her clit) and we both immensely enjoy mutual orgasm, which is an amazing level of togetherness. So my job is to time my orgasm to occur with hers! If I don't cum with her, we will separate and no orgasm for me. If I cum before her I am severely punished, and that hasn't happened for years. No matter what, my cock cage goes back on as soon as I am soft. Often she demands oral orgasms before or after penetration. The bliss of mutual orgasm is better than anything.
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