A Time For Change - Food Shopping and more Financial Control

To recap what I have written on this topic so far, in my first post I teased Thomas unmercifully while I told him that his future raise and bonus would be deposited into my bank account instead of our joint account.  Then I had a discipline session with him in which we talked about how busy we were but that we still needed to get back into our FLR routines.  I introduced a new discipline method to him in which he will be assessed a $1 or more penalty for discipline related items, which will be payable into a discipline jar (and become my money).

By now it is a little after dinner and from all the teasing and dominating, Thomas is a horny mess. I can tell he has dropped into subspace and can not think straight. It is exactly the way I want him. He will do whatever I want.  To be honest, I am in a subspace of my own.  I guess for the dominant you can call it super space :) The way he reacts to whatever I tell him and how aroused he is from my control and aroused at the slightest touch or whisper from me is intoxicating. I may be enjoying it all more than him.

During the discipline session I brought up the topic of spending money.  He is on a weekly allowance but he is also allowed to use his credit card to purchase regular things such as dog food, gas, and items for the house.  However, if he needs or wants to purchase something that is not a regular expense item or is a big ticket item, he needs to ask for my permission first. I established this rule some time ago but never really enforced it and so he has not been following it.  I gave him a few hard spanks for not following the rule and told him that I would start strictly enforcing it again.  To further reinforce my point, I had him fetch the last three months of bank statements and credit card statements.  Then I had him lay across my lap while reviewed them.  For every item that looked questionable, I gave him a light slap on the butt with my riding crop and then asked him about the charge.  I lightly rubbed his ass while he explained.  If his explanation was acceptable I moved on.  If I was not satisfied with his explanation, I reprimanded him and gave him a few hard slaps with the riding crop. I also circled the dollar amount on the statement. 

When we were done, his ass was quite red.  The were a few withdrawals from our bank account that were above and beyond his allowance and I came across several charges in which he should have asked for my permission or where he used the credit card when he should have used his allowance money.  The good news was that there was nothing lavish or concerning to me that he was spending recklessly. I  reduced his allowance by $20 a week for 8 weeks.  I explained that this would pay back some of the money that he spent without permission. He was not happy about receiving a smaller allowance but he accepted it. I also told him that going forward, each month when the statements came in, he was to leave them on my bedroom dresser for me to review. If he failed to do this timely he would owe money to the discipline jar.

There was still one more change in rules that I had to go over with Thomas.  I wanted him to take on the food shopping responsibilities.  I had planned on explaining the change to Thomas Saturday night, and then take him to the grocery store on Sunday to train him.  However, by now I felt that he had enough domination for one day and I was getting tired myself.  I would discuss it with him in the morning.  For the rest of the night, he pampered me and attended to my needs. 

In the morning, it was no surprise for me to discover Thomas waking up with an erection.  He told me he was so horny all night that he did not sleep that well.  I rubbed his cock and told him I was glad to hear that.  I liked that he was up all night excited about the changes that were happening.  It was only a few minutes before he was begging me if he could cum.  For whatever reason, it seems that in the mornings when he awakes, I can get him to the edge really fast.

I of course did not allow an orgasm, but I took the time to explain that I wanted him to start taking over the responsibility of food shopping so that I can free up some of my time.  I would make a list each week and give it to him to shop with.  He was expected to buy the items and put them away.  Eventually I want him to learn to make the list himself and come to me for additions, but I did not tell him this yet  (Baby steps first).  I figure that after a few months I can work on that piece.

I let him know that he would need to be trained on the food shopping so that he learned the proper brands and item sizes to get.  I would also train him on where to put things away when he got home.  I like using the word "train,"  when I talk to him as it implies my authority over him. It is one of those subtle things that reinforces his submission and obedience to me. Thomas seemed excited to be trained to do the shopping and he told me it would make him happy to make my life easier by taking over the food shopping.  Those words were music to my ears.

Before we headed out for food shopping,  I had Thomas serve me breakfast in bed
wearing nothing but a pair of his new panties.  I received the full Goddess treatment.  He served me breakfast and rubbed my feet while I ate. Then he dressed me for the day.   I wanted Thomas's first training shopping trip to be memorable and exciting so I decided to have a little fun with him.  I ordered him to fetch his stockings and garter belts. He was surprised by this, but I could also see he was excited (tail wagging again). Panties are something he wears frequently for me, but stocking are a rarity.  I have no intentions of feminizing him but on a rare occasion, just for fun, I will tiptoe into feminization with Thomas. He gets excited by it, even though he has a hard time admitting it.  That's one of the reasons why I enjoy dabbling in it every now and then.  I like that I can push his buttons in a way that he does not understand or in a way that he is innocently embarrassed by it.  This is the control that he craves. 

I helped him put on the garter belt and stockings and admired him.  I told him, "These stockings will be so soft and silky rubbing over your legs while you walk through the store."  He was in a bit of a haze now and mumbled, "yes Goddess."  I then teased at how he will fit right in with all the other housewives in the store since he was wearing stockings and panties.  I knew this comment would bounce around in his head while we shopped. These are the fun mind game that I like to play.

At the store, I explained the order in which I shopped. Yes, there is a strategy to my shopping :).  Then I handed him the list and let him go at it.  He had a lot of questions and I had to help him find things, but all in all it was a good trip.  I waited in the car while he loaded the groceries. When he got in the car, I reached over and rubbed his crotch until he had an erection and then I kissed him and told him how much fun I had shopping with him and how excited I was that he was going to do all the shopping for me and free up my time.  This was a very purposeful move that I did. I wanted to associate arousal, excitement, and my satisfaction with him doing the shopping.

At home, after he unloaded the car I had him strip down to his panties and stockings and put away the groceries. I supervised and helped him put everything in the right places.  It was amazing at how little he knew.  He never pays attention to these things!  When everything was put away I led him to the couch and had him sit next to me.  I teased him again, bringing him to the edge of orgasm several times.  Then I again told him how much fun I had shopping with him and how excited I was for him to take over the grocery shopping responsibility.  I teased that he would soon by my housewife.  I also recapped all the new rules and told him how I was looking forward to getting his raise and bonus deposited into my account.  He was so desperate to cum because I was teasing him while we talked. However, I did not allow it.  I wanted him to remain horny all week so that he remains in a bit of a fantasy land and is excited about all the changes  He is more compliant and obedient this way.  After a little more torture, I told him to go get changed back to his normal clothes as we needed to pick-up the kids.  He reluctantly obeyed.  The fun, for now, was over.

As I noted in my previous blog, I wrote in a little more detail than usual.  My hope is the details will provide good examples and insights that you can learn from and apply to your FLR.  I believe that is what is lacking with a lot of the information on the web around FLRs.  There is good general discussion and theory, but very little specifics that are practical and can guide people in their FLR.  It has taken me awhile to write these updates.  The weekend that I have been writing about was several weeks ago so the changes have been in place for a few weeks.  In my next blog I will write about how things are going with the changes.  Please feel free to comment.  I would love to hear if you think this is helpful, if you have used any of this information, or if you have questions.

-MzKaylee