I just wanted to a post a big THANK YOU to all of you who read and comment on my blog. The number of viewers keeps climbing every day which is very encouraging to me. I truly appreciate all of the comments that are posted. I encourage you to read through the comments and post your own thoughts. Even if you have differing opinions, please share. Whenever there is differing opinions, good discussions always ensues. It's o.k. if we disagree. We just need to be respectful in how we disagree. There is no one right answer to a FLR so I am always thrilled to hear about people's different experiences and enjoy engaging in discussion on these topics. I titled my blog Femdom Think Tank because I truly want it to reflect a collaboration of thoughts of many people. These come through in the comments as well as the posts. If anyone is interested in posting a topic on my blog or simply sharing a memorable experience email me at MzKaylee101@gmail.com
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I'm curious if my wife would consider us in an FLR. I would say that we are FLR in the bedroom only. Sex is all about her. In one of my blog posts she claimed that she was "selfish" sexually, but I really don't see it that way. It's a turnon for both of us, and it seems pretty natural now: as a general rule, I initiate sex and she climaxes first. Then she may either passively deny me (falls asleep) or she actively denies me (teases me) or we have more traditional sex. Totally up to her, I truly enjoy pleasuring her. It bonds us in a powerful way and we are enjoying sex now more than ever.
ReplyDeleteI had at one point articulated to her that I would like for her to be more "in charge" outside the bedroom; specific examples being her ordering my food when out to eat, things like that. She just said she's not interested. I would say that outside of the bedroom we are pretty equal. I believe I'm more opinionated than she on most matters, but we do try to gain a consensus. We don't have any out and out rule that she overides me, but she usually does get her way.
The biggest breakthrough in our relationship was me finally getting a handle on topping from the bottom. It took me a while to fully grasp how my "suggestions" were affecting her desire to explore FLR. I think I'm pretty good with this now; again, I wonder if she agrees :-)
I would not characterize your relationship as FLR since her dominance only is prevalent during sex. I'd would just call it sexual female domination. If that works for you then that's great. There is nothing wrong with it. However, it sounds like you want more.
DeleteMy advice is to focus on her needs. It may sound counter-intuitive, but if she sees the benefits for her, then she may start becoming interested. A common mistake many men make is that they just force their desires on the woman so it becomes all work for her. What you need to do is focus on serving her, pampering her, and making her feel like a Goddess. Once she experiences these benefits, it is easier to sell her on the idea of a FLR.
Depending on your relationship, it may take her time to get comfortable, even with pampering.
DeletePampering must not be a means to seduction. You can't hint at it -- you can't even breathe hard. If you get excited, keep it to yourself. She must believe that whatever you do is about her and that that is fulfilling to you.
In short, if you want her to act like a Goddess, you have to treat her like one.
I read Femdom Thinktank because it is an honest account of one couple's journey. That encourages me to leave an occasional comment about my experience because it might help someone. I could comment somewhere else, but there's just something that feels right about MizKaylee, Thomas, and FDT. So, thank you!
ReplyDeleteI appreciate that. Thank you.
DeleteI love your blog. This is a follow up about an earlier post about kneeling. My wife and I discussed kneeling and she feels like she would rather have me massage her feet than kneel. I am still at her feet but she gets a massage at the same time. Thank you for your site and sharing with us. RR...
ReplyDeleteJust found your blog via I'm-hers. We are 6 months into what we both agree is a wonderful dynamic which allows me to follow my true submissive nature and my wife is becoming more empowered. I must admit to envy of the relationship you have with Thomas and am challenged to keep taking the baby steps needed to make her more comfortable with being the boss. We are getting there though and so happy in the process. How long was it for you to feel you had really developed a fully formed femdom relationship? Thanks for the time and thought you have put into writing this blog and thanks to Thomas for doing the mundane work so you can focus on helping and dialoguing with us newbies.
ReplyDeleteMz Kaylee, I've said it before and it bears repeating, your blog is not just awesome, it is the standard by which I judge other FLR blogs. I appreciate how you expertly balance the information/educational aspect of your words, while seemingly still understanding the benefit of keeping things just sexy enough to keep me riveted, while not overly so, so as to maintain a level of grace and class that is to be admired. And I do!
ReplyDeleteI have no idea of what you look like of course, but I can you that the vision in my mind's eye of what you are all about, and even what you (may) look like, reminds me so much of the woman I am so very much devoted to.
Thank you for your awesome blog!