The Busy Dominant Wife

One of the challenges that many couples face is dealing with hectic schedules.  It is far too easy to get caught up in late nights at work, kids activities, and other life things such as school, church activities, and volunteer work.  These are all great things but when they converge together all at once it affects intimate time and "alone" time with your spouse.  It is very important that you carve out time to spend with each other.  It is great if you can do the above activities together as a couple, but it is also very important to give yourselves 1-on-1 time with each other. This is important for every couple regardless of your FLR status.  Couples who do not allow for this 1-on-1 time on a regular basis may find that after many years of marriage they've grown apart from each other.  No matter how busy you are, you need to make time for each other.  Your spouse should be your number one supporter in your life, which is why it is important to keep your relationship with him strong.

When 1-on-1 time is lacking, couples grow apart and that "spark" begins to fade and so it is important to keep intimacy and personal time with your spouse as a priority in your relationship. There are always going to be times when things are hectic and often it is out of your control.  However, your goal should be to minimize the hectic times and keep them short-lived.  Hectic times should be moments in our life and not a lifestyle.If it is turning into a lifestyle, then you need to seriously evaluate what you are doing and change your path forward.  Of course that is a whole discussion in itself and my intent with the post is not to discuss changing your lifestyle. What I do want to offer up is suggestions for managing your FLR during the busy and hectic times.

It is ironic that when we as female leaders are busy, we often rely less on our submissive husbands. This really is the time that we should be leaning heavily on them to do things for us.  However, we get so caught up in the busy things that we forget to delegate work to them or just don't find the time to take advantage of the pampering or do the normal discipline and follow-through routines. Next thing you know weeks or months go by and you are completely out of your FLR routine and you have a very unhappy and mopey husband.  During the busy times you should have an even stronger focus on dominating him and making him work for you instead of focusing on your busy work.  Make him work for you so that you are not taking on all the stress and work.  Oddly enough this will make him happier than if you were to become lax in your authority over him.

In my next  few posts I will provide suggestions on how to avoid falling out of the FLR routine and how to maintain your authority and control during the busy times. I'll start with a few "theory" type ideas and then get into some fun practical ideas for you to implement.

Stay tuned.....