Tuesday, March 13, 2018

If You Could....the details

As promised, below are how I categorized the responses in the summary grid in my last post.  There are some categories that were not on the summary grid in my last post simply becasuse there were only a few responses that fit into those categories and so it did not rank high enough to be on the grid.  At the bottom of the list, I have also noted misceallaneous responses that did not fit into categories.  The details are intrguing and provide specific ideas to incorporate into your FLR. 


Chores Laundry, sweep house, clean bedroom, kitchen and bathroom, vacuum, does dishes, does chores without being told, does 99% of chores and errands, consistent and thorough with housework 
Discipline and Spanking
Regular discipline sessions, maintenance spankings, whipping, spanked to tears, OTK position for 15-20 minutes; Mistress uses variety of instruments such as riding crop, wooden spoon, hairbrush, paddle and leather belt
Pampering/Massage He bathes her, massages her, puts lotion on her, shaves and cleans her pussy; he gives her manicures, pedicures, foot rubs; increased knowledge and competence in massage
Punishment/held accountable Punished when needed, punishment fits the crime, he is held accountable, he is questioned, punished with extra assignments, reprimanded, or curtailment of privileges; punishments generally should not be necessary, corporate punishment that is a deterrent, she brings out her inner "bitch" with punishments
Unconditional Obedience Does what she wants immediately and without question; is her housewife
Loves and Respects Her Is polite to me, respects me when I am with others, is loving and caring
Strictness and Control Controls his TV watching, sex life, bedtime, clothes/underwear that he wears, conversations; she gives directives/does not request; she verbalizes exactly what she wants; she is more controlling, more strict, more open with her desires and expectations; she fingers his bottom with a "fuck me" dominant attitude; she exerts more power over him 
Sex By Her Terms Her rules and her priorities during sex, she takes complete control of sex, she decides when and how, sex whenever she wants and on her terms
Use of Rituals Kneeling, foot worship, ritual of service (serving tea in bed), kneeling naked daily, daily rituals, ritual when wife returns home (greet her naked, kiss her, kneel, kiss feet, remove shoes)
oral sex for her/Face sitting Required pussy worship every morning, endless oral sex, complete oral servitude, lots of oral sex
Orgasm Control She completely controls his orgasms
More Teasing More teasing and denial; a day of teasing for him, constant teasing by wife, more teasing and mind games
More sex/sex on demand/orgasms for her More focus on her desires and less on his, she demand sex more often, sex on her terms, more orgasms for her
He recognizes obedience to her/ownership Acknowledges FLR, that he obey and belongs to her, she is breadwinner and he is homemaker
   
Other Responses (not on summary grid):  
Less Whining No pestering about lack of orgasms, knowing when to shut up and listen
Deep Connection with her She should probe into his heart and mind, know him fully, a connection with her where he is both awed and amazed by her and her lover for him and the thought of looking for sexual satisfaction elsewhere does not enter his mind; deep emotional connection not always seen in vanilla marriage
Public Play/Play with others Engage with others in some way, participate with another/others as a submissive couple, be dominated in public (verbal, slap, dominant situations)
Training Training protocols, training to do it right
Miscellaneous Responses by both men & Women Forced cum eating, he is naked, cuckolding, she has final decision
Miscellaneous Responses by men only Anal penetration by her, he worships her ass, forced bi, he is collared, he is marked, she wears male clothes, erotic humiliation, he acknowledges female supremacy and FLR, monthly review/assessment of FLR, sexualizing mundane tasks, she feels free to live as she desires, he is rewarded, she dresses dominantly/fetish wear, she is available 24/7 for nursing, she is firm with softness, sex slave/forced to do things for her, she is comfortable being pleased in ways other than intercourse, she values him, punishments are safe and come with care/discussion time afterward, she talks seductively
Miscellaneous Responses by Women only Feminization, he is attentive to her needs and keeping her happy, treats her like a Goddess; he cooks for her, drives her around and takes care of car, does shopping; he is her sex toy, does everything with pleasure, drinks her piss; she control finances; he does spontaneous gestures such as hair brushing, cuddling, pedicures, doing extra (all) chores, doing chores for her friend

6 comments:

  1. We had our discussion of both this and the last ‘results are in’ article. Most of the things high on the female side are also high on her desires for our FLR. She wants more obedience from me although is happy with my housewifely chore work. She’s not crazy about dealing out punishment but on the other hand she did buy a new implement (which I haven’t seen yet) which she is sure will get my attention a lot more during future sessions. Be careful what you wish for! Her control of sex-check as good for both of us. I’d like some kink but it’s not time yet she says. I should expect more tight control and consequences for failing to ask permission to go outside or even to another room. Feels good.

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  2. This is helpful information and shows what the women desire

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  3. Very interesting poll. Thanks for sharing.

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  4. Thanks for the poll, and for the schematization of the results. So interesting...

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  5. I have to admit that the "having him do the housework thing" is no small part of the fun for me. I also admit that I think I "get off" a bit on the power dynamic. Getting into his brain and sort of taking control of things. What began as my natural dominance has grown a bit deeper and slowly become more of a lifestyle to us. A few things here and there I am still trying to figure out but I have to say that overall this has enhanced my life no small measure. I just need "think as I go".

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    1. The more power you TAKE the more submissive we can be. It can be used in work situations also.

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