Thursday, June 4, 2020

Another Great Benefit About Wife Led Marriage (WLM)

So things have been a bit stressful and out of the ordinary with COV19 and all the protests going on in the US. Our daily routine has changed significantly and with the kids in the house all of the time now, it's challenging to for my husband and I to find alone time. In the beginning my husband did a great job keeping up with his chores and duties to me. However, as the "stay-at-home" order prolonged and a few personal issues came up, he started to slack off a bit and his focus on serving me was not quite as sharp as it needed to be. I admittedly, became a little lazy in my leadership and was not exerting as much control over him as usual so that left room for him to slack off.

All it took was a quick discipline session to get him back on track. In the morning he was out of the house so I texted him that I was not satisfied with how things were going and that he should plan for a discipline session that night. The text was probably enough to correct course as his attitude already started to change for the better that day. He texted back an apology and said he would be ready for the discipline. It was a brief session. As is normal for our discipline sessions, he was naked except for a special pair of panties reserved for discipline, Putting these panties on puts him in the right frame of mind for the discipline. I talked about what needed to change and he agreed and apologized and promised to do better. He then gave me a massage and pleasured me. No orgasm for him but he did get quite a bit of teasing from me. Then it was off to the corner for him for 20 minutes to help him refocus.

The next day he thanked me for refocusing him and could not do enough to help me and serve me. He had extra pep in his step when doing his chores. Everything was back on track. This experience highlights how easily issues can be resolved in a WLM. There was no arguing or yelling. He accepted my criticism without being defensive. Since the lines of authority are clearly drawn in our relationship and because my expectations for him are well defined, he knew he was slacking off and knew there were consequences associated and so there was no argument. 

Overall the discipline session was a very positive experience for both of us. We both came out of it feeling good and with new positive energy. I love that dynamic so much! In a WLM it is so easy to reconcile and get back on track. I can't remember the last time I had an argument with my husband. When I feel there is an issue or I am not satisfied with his behavior, a short discipline session does the trick. I add punishment if warranted, but anymore it is rare that he does something that requires a harsh punishment. 

He is also allowed to discuss with me any issues or concerns he has. It must be a discussion and not an argument. He will not be punished for raising concern but he will be punished if he does so in a negative or argumentative tone. He understands that I have the final say in all matters and he accepts that. Having open communication and clear rules for resolution is wonderful and allows us to bring closure to issues and move on.without arguing.

-Mz Kaylee
 








 Overall it was a very positive experience for both us.

14 comments:

  1. Beautiful post, Mz Kaylee. WLMs benefits are great for everybody.

    In my Queen's vanilla's WLM me as the sub and one of the characteristics we lack is the formal discipline and correcting sessions. In the past that has caused us some distance (I just tended to 'get lost' being inattentive for weeks).

    With COVID, we just recently had a similar issue where i was lacking. It started with children requiring me to wake up repeatedly and losing our morning/night praying routine where i kneel in front of Her. I had 3 bad nights followed by distancing and missing some chores. The key to 'wake me up': she told me one morning 'We need to talk tonight'. i quickly said 'Yes, sure, I'll try to get the kids to bed earlier'. That was enough for me to change and become more attentive during the day. Later on the day i noticed She wore a casual dress that i totally love and has me drooling over Her. As i tried to get closer she said 'you need to work harder'. The rest of the day i worked as hard as i could, and when nighttime arrived i started by apologizing and letting Her vent about what She didn't like. We do have a two-way dialog and She understood the hard nights, the problem is not really the lack of chores after a bad night but the attitude. With both sides expressing their points, our discussion ended up with me apologizing and asking if we could pray. So on my knees, we prayed, and i apologized. We then went over a teaching and she kept me on my knees for quite some time. She ended saying 'I know how much you love this dress, follow me to the closet'. She ended by saying 'help me get into my pjs and you stay here for a few minutes thinking how you lost the chance to kiss me today. I'm glad this is over, tomorrow is a new day'. i stayed 30 min and found Her sleeping.

    The days after that I've been back to submissive super attentive service.



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  2. Terrific to see progress been be made quickly even under certain circumstances. Great training!

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  3. We don’t have formal discipline sessions. Since we are alone most of the time so she addresses transgressions on the spot. I wish we did. Standing there in a pair of panties while she admonished me would leave a lasting impression, I’m sure. Stay safe - Alan

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  4. Sometimes a simple reset is all we need to get us to remember our position. We are alone most of the time so usually transgressions are dealt with at the time. A few months ago Sarah sat me down and we went over all her rules. This reenforces in my mind that this is real and not some fantasy I made up in my head. I really am the submissive in our relationship and that following her rules and keeping her happy is my only goal. Everybody stay safe- Alan

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  5. Stay at home was not a good thing for me, it was for my wife. Women keep busy, so stay at home, meant more could get done that had been put off. It took only a couple of days and my wife had enough of me. She waited until I stepped out of the shower, grabbed my ear and not to the bedroom, but the front room, dripping water on the floor. She said sternly I now have more time to address you she said. The chair was put in the middle of the room and over her lap I went. My wet bottom felt the sting of her hand and I was saying I was sorry. Did not good. When she stood me up, told not to move, and she went and got the hairbrush. Boy did I dance around and promise to be good. The worse was having to wear one of robes, do house chores, hearing her tell her mother about the spanking. For the next week, she kept a very tight reign on me.

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  6. The "discussion not an argument" comment one is something my wife has taught me over the past year, and I've come to understand that when I find myself disagreeing with her, I need to stop, reflect on the bigger picture, and ultimately agree with whatever she is saying in a genuine way.

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  7. Hello Mz Kaylee,

    You know another variant on this that you and you readers may want to consider and try. Sometimes when my wife feel as if I am starting to put in less then my full effort and meeting her high bar of satisfaction, she resets me. She does this by waiting for to do a given task like cleaning the bathroom at the end she will call me to com in for inspection and do and say something like the following. "You are my slave, your job is to please me and work for me" at this point my little slave heart pitter patters and I know something is up. She will then systematically ruin the bathroom, toothpaste across the floor perhaps a spilling the soap across the clean counter, vaseline smeared across the mirrors, and contents of drawers thrown about and towels launched.

    At that point words like "Get to work slave, and this time do IT right" are said before she walks out. That will snap me back to our different positions in an FLR marriage, and focus me on doing great work in her honour for a while to come, or until I need another reminder. :)

    All the best,
    robby.

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  8. Mz Kaylee,
    "He will not be punished for raising concern but he will be punished if he does so in a negative or argumentative tone. He understands that I have the final say in all matters and he accepts that."
    That's essentially how the rule reads in my home. My husband is always allowed to approach me. I'll even count to ten occasionally and let something go. That past weekend he gave me some backtalk I didn't appreciate. It was over something silly and to make matters worse he was so sure he was absolutely in the right. Turns out, he wasn't. I was going to discipline him but I decided to do something else. My husband was ordered to shower, put on his pink panties, shave (he's been letting his head and face slide a bit and while I don't mind normally decided to make an issue of it) and meet me in my bedroom in one hour. Exactly one hour later Phil entered the room showered, shaved and ready. I wore a tight white dress and my hair up. I told him I wanted to check his plug and he hopped on the bed. The medium plug was also inserted and I told him, "Don't move Phil. I'm going to wiggle the plug a little and you're going to listen and answer." I gently moved the plug around and I could see he was enjoying it but struggling to stay still. I asked..."Who's Mistress?" "Who's in charge?" "Who makes the final decisions?" He answered "You, Mistress" each time. Then I said, "Who just earned himself another boot camp?" "Me, I have Mistress".

    I let him off with a STRONG warning and slowly removed his plug to avoid him having an accident. As he got off the bed I told him "Boot camp is the first week in July, up at the house in the mountains. Plenty of privacy there. Field activities this time. We'll vacation and relax the second week." He had a huge erection, so he enjoyed this. Unfortunately, he has a long wait to his next orgasm. If he's perfect I might give him vacation surprise. Phil asked if he could pleasure me, and I pointed to my butt end and I hoped onto the bed. He drove me wild and he went without. He loves the denial play anyway but I verbally teased him about the fact that he already had his orgasm this month.

    I wanted to comment on an earlier blog entry but I just have not had the time with my employer opening up operations. I also owe you a profile and it is almost done. Sorry.
    Be well!
    Joan

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  9. One pre-Covid activity that came to a halt but now may be starting again is on the weekends my wife has sometimes "lent" me to friends of hers who typically need house cleaning and/or odd jobs done. These tend to be single girlfriends of hers, and more often than not my wife will spend the day or evening with them out shopping, or doing whatever, while I work. Though I've never verbalized it I find these situations incredibly erotic, at least initially. Her friends are always so genuinely appreciative and never formally make reference to what is going on, etc. even as my wife drops me off and explicitly reminds me in front of them that I'd better do a thorough job, etc. They just smile, and this may be part of what I find so thrilling. That said the feeling does wear off after not too long and works becomes work. I used to do this several days/month usually on weekends, and this weekend she has me over at her best friend's house while the two of them go to a recently re-opened spa.

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    1. What an excellent, and thoughtful gesture by your wife, to lend you out like that. The two of them get an enjoyable night out, plus her friends come home to a clean, organized house. A win for all involved.

      I read on another blog, of a woman in an FLR where she was tired of trying to get him more proficient with his house cleaning. She made him apply to the house cleaning departments at ten hotels in their city. With this many applications handed in, and the constant turnover of hotel cleaning staff, he had a part time job within a week. He cleaned hotel rooms for six months. He scrubbed multiple toilets, sinks, surfaces, and tubs. He stripped, & made thousands beds, and vacuumed countless square yards of carpets. Dusted televisions, disinfected TV remotes etc. All of his pay was turned over to his wife, while he still cleaned at home. She watched his improvement over the six months skyrocket. He no longer had trouble making a wrinkle free bed, with the sheets hanging equally on each side, with corners tucked neatly. This is irrelevant to your comment, but it is one way to improve the man's skills, while the wife gets paid for it. Learn to do by doing, and practice makes perfect.

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    2. Dear Tim. My comment was a bit condescending, and hurtful towards you, upon reading it again. I sincerely apologize. It is wonderful that you do this for your wife, and her girl friends. It is hard work on you, and thoughtful on your behalf to clean other's places like you do. You should be commended. I'm sorry for not including this in my first comment.

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  10. What a fantastic use of your time by your wife. You are lucky that she allows you to serve other women and I am sure she is proud and excited to show you off. Too bad you are not in my neighborhood :)

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    1. I'm not sure I feel "lucky" although I don't dare say that. It's just that since Covid started I've taken on 100% of the housework, in addition to working my normal job from home, and now this past weekend was almost entirely spent deep cleaning her friend's house (Saturday without supervision; Sunday her friend was there). I know there are men who fantasize about this, and like I said there is certainly an initial thrill, but it's absolutely exhausting at the same time.

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  11. Joan,
    Those warnings and reminders of your authority over him are often more effective than a punishment. I enjoyed reading your comment. I hope you share with us how boot camp goes in July. It's sure to be a fun getaway for you.

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