In terms of your WLM, recognize that with this great uncertainty in the world you need to be flexible and supportive in your marriage, regardless of your position as sub or Domme. It is good to keep the WLM structure in place as structure helps keep things normal and reduces stress. However, if your partner is stressing out, it may be a time to relax that structure a bit. Stress can diminish the desire to be dominant and submissive. If you are a dominant wife don't be afraid to tell your husband you need his support over the next few weeks and that he needs to step it up without being told what to do. If you are a submissive guy, support your wife and be her protector; if you are feeling stressed, communicate that to your wife so she knows how you feel.
On the flip side, for many of us, the situation presents opportunities. If you are both home, the opportunity exists to spend more time together and dive into the kinkier side of your WLM. Perhaps new rules and rituals can be put in place during your time of isolation. A good discipline or spanking session can be a wonderful stress reliever for both husband and wife. Some of those small house projects that have been sitting around for awhile can be done (by your husband). For the first few days after I was told to say home from work, I was a stressing over what was going to happen with work and school for the kids and so I was in no mood for anything. However, once I got past the initial stress I was able to relax, accept the situation, and then start to discover some of the positives with the situation. My husband and I are fortunate enough to have jobs where we can work from home so we are spending more time together. Of course the kids are home all day too so we have to work around them but we have been able to spend more intimate time together. We've also enjoyed family time together taking bike rides outside and playing board games and card games together. My kids are teenagers so I am thankful for the moments I get to spend together with them because it won't be long before they are out of the house for good.
Try not to stress over the things you can not control. Keep your eye on the future and know that this will soon pass. I hope you are all staying safe. For those of you who are health workers or public servants working on the "front lines," thank you for what you do. You are heroes. My thoughts are with you.
-Mz Kaylee
My wife used the opportunity to "officially" turn every single household chore/duty over to me, including the cooking now. On top of work it's kept me busier than ever so in that sense it's been a "nice" way to keep my mind occupied.
ReplyDeleteGreat use of your time. Your wife is smart!
DeleteI should add, she's also taken my phone away and "moved me" semi-permanently to the guest bedroom so that I can get up earlier, without waking her, to get a start on things (after I complained too much early on about the new arrangement).
DeleteIn terms of "kinkier" moments or new rituals I'll share this. My wife does video conferences daily as part of her work (and also with her friends to catch up and socialize) and she has enjoyed having me on my knees to massage her feet during this time--once even turning the camera on me while talking with one of her friends (the friend couldn't stop laughing, which I found both humiliating and thrilling). She said last night perhaps she should require more intimate attention during a call, but that may just remain a fantasy for now.
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DeleteI told my wife too that I'd like to eat her while working at her desk.
Nice!
-Mike
Ms Kaylee,
ReplyDeleteWe hope you, Thomas, and your entire family remain safe and sound in this crisis. My wife and I are also fortunate enough to be able to work from home, and our children are safe.
Regards,
Phil
Thank you Phil. As of now everyone is doing great.
DeleteA few nights ago I joked that my wife had engineered the national shutdown just so she couple keep me barefoot in the kitchen all day long. She laughed, but she's definitely much happier having me at home to help with the kids and chores. I've been cooking two out of three meals, and taking care of all the cleaning and laundry while she relaxes on the couch with audio books.
ReplyDeleteMy job has been converted to online work, so I'm not under any immediate financial stress either. There are certainly other concerns in the world that are weighing on us, but just in terms of home life, my wife is very happy to have me all to herself.
Hmmm. I think you are getting on to use evanho. Perhaps this is the new order. I am enjoying having my husband home, doing all the chores, pampering and pleasuring me. So far the count is 4 orgasms for me and 0 for him.
ReplyDeleteMz Kaylee,
DeleteSo far the count is 4 orgasms for me and 0 for him."
I like those numbers. You know, Phil and I will reschedule our anniversary getaway when travel restrictions are relaxed. It's just as well because I'm annoyed at him. As good as my husband has been to me, he's has his moments. He's made a few comments that he passed off a "just jokes". I've let them go because we're cooped up and we've both been busy with our jobs. I'm very good to Phil. I even buy him things he wants. I also indulge his submissive side and, of course, I reap the benefits of a Queen. Now, I realize I've been too lenient lately. This type of relationship doesn't work with a weak Mistress. Phil learned today that his Mistress doesn't appreciate his remarks when they are disrespectful. Punishment doesn’t need to come with pain. So I decided Phil won't be getting any orgasms for a good stretch of time and he's going to wear that cock cage night and day until he learns his lesson. He knew he was in the wrong and apologized, admitting he was testing the waters but only meant to tease me. I can tell teasing and wouldn't tolerate more from him.
We hope you all continue to be safe.
Regards,
Joan
This sounds familiar. My wife, as of yesterday, kindly informed me that she doesn't really need to hear me speak unless she is asking me a question. I thought she was kidding but a quick look at her face told me otherwise. So now I'm sleeping in the guest room, waking up at 5 a.m. to do every single chore while waiting on her hand and foot, and not talking.
DeleteTim,
DeleteIs that there a no talking rule in specific ocassions?
I'd like to hear about some of your routines. May sound familiar.
Thanks
- Mike
Mz Kaylee,
ReplyDeleteAs usual your blog is wonderful thank you for maintaining it :)
I am one of the truly lucky men to live in a lifestyle where my wife owns me as her property (no questions asked). We have been in a full FLR marriage since the beginning (15 years). But like you on weeks like this I am home serving, with kids around and life still going on.
While I do carry out a huge share of chores and do my best to pamper my wife, this is actual when as the wonderful woman she is that she can truly turn the screws on my desire for humiliation and desire to feel like a slave.
First she called me in out bedroom and had me kneel while she explained in a calm and almost pleasant voice that throughout this I would be reminded everyday that we are NOT equals, that she takes and I give. I was instructed to expect constant reminders that an and to serve her and that means sacrifice. As you can imagine is was now lunched into sub space in a rocket.
What it really meant is 1000 little or sometimes big things that I are so cruel and cement my place as her slave. I can't thank her enough.
I love my coffee with cream (she has had my drink it black)
She has wine at dinner and I have tap water
She doubled by daily exercise from 30 minutes to an hour
Recently she made dinner for the family but served my portion cold
She has taken my wallet, keys and phone away. (We were staying home anyway, but if felt amazing just the same)
After the kids went to be a couple of nights ago, she had be dress in a butler outfit and sent me downstairs to do a couple of more hours of chores
I could go on, but I think you get the idea each of these seemingly little things are gifts from my wife and take her almost not time. But when she does them the effect on me is huge and I am very grateful.
I hope you and all your readers stay safe and be well!
robby.
Thank you for sharing robby. You are a lucky submissive and your wife is a true Goddess. I love all the things you shared, especially the taking of the wallet, keys, and phone.
DeleteMy wife took this stay in and wanted to share with her best friend the proper way to correct a husband. She skyped me getting a spanking, naked over her lap, she really warmed my bottom and I danced around afterwards. The next day her friend returned the favor and her husband got his first spanking. Sure glad I was not over her lap, his bottom was really red, and he stood facing the wall. My wife approved, her friend said it felt good.
ReplyDeleteAfter reflecting on how to answer, I realized our wlm may be a bit simple.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely more stressful times now and the relaxing intimate times are a great reward to wind down and relax so to speak.
The wife is direct when it's time for sex. She typically is relaxing in bed, reading a book. She'll pull me over for a kiss. A few seconds later I'm directed down to eat her. Usually, she'll just say to eat her immediately with no foreplay or sub/Dom activities. It's clear when she wants her orgasms, she'll be direct, make it known and will get them.
If she then requests penetration, she'll give the command to enter. I'm still going with the momentum, but when she has her fill of orgasms, she'll casually say to stop and that she's finished. Followed with a smile and a thank you, she'll simply turnover to go to sleep, or will get up and go on with her day. Of course I'm still hard and wanting more when this happens. But I know I gave her a release of stress and something to make her day more enjoyable with everything else happening. That's always great.
- Mike
In hindsight, it all appears very fluid and casual. I'm sure my cock or tongue may just be a tool for her to get orgasms. It works for us and 10 times better before the wlm lifestyle.