For many, if not all submissive men, becoming a mindless slave to a powerful woman is a top fantasy. The mindless slave is treated with no respect and forced to cater to her every whim and even humiliated and punished by her regularly. It is a mind blowing fantasy, isn't it? The key word here is 'fantasy.' I am amazed at how many guys continually try to make this a reality with their wife. Do such relationships even exist? I am sure this type of arrangement exists with a dominatrix or mistress but I don't really count that as a real relationship. Clearly the dominatrix and mistress are appealing to his desires for financial gain and so they are acting solely for their own interests. I wonder does such a relationship exists in a marriage or in a genuine boyfriend/girlfriend relationship?
I would think that most women do not want that type of relationship with their husband. I know that I don't. Don't get me wrong, it is fun to treat my husband as a mindless slave and make him worship my feet and order him to worship my ass just because I can. He is mindless for me when I want him to be but that is partly fantasy play. It is not the center of our relationship. I don't want him to be mindless and not thinking on his own. I want a companion and friend that I can have conversations with, and do fun things with, and someone that, when needed can help me make decisions. I am a Goddess to him but I am not all knowing. I need his help from time-to-time to give me advice and talk me off the ledge when I am stressing out.
No, I do not want a mindless slave 24/7. Frankly, it would be too much work and I'd be embarrassed to have such a husband accompany me in front of family and friends. When I think about what I want my husband to be, the label "Productive Slave Companion" comes to mind. A husband who is productive, not mindless, with his servitude toward me. He is also a companion to me. The difference between a traditional companion and him is that he is submissive to me; beneath me in authority. He obeys me without question and goes out of his way to please me and make me happy. The latter part of that sentence is what makes him productive versus mindless. He also gives advice when requested by me and shares his opinions but he accepts that I make the final decision. A key point here which separates him from a typical husband is that he puts my desires and needs first when forming opinions and giving advice. That is a nice benefit of a WLM and well trained husband.
I get the best of both worlds - a slave husband and a wonderful companion. I wouldn't have it any other way. I can't imagine why a wife would want a mindless slave husband. Submissive guys are a different story. I know many of you dream of being a mindless slave with no responsibility other than serving a dominant woman. You dream of being punished and humiliated by her on a daily basis and being forced to cater to her every whim. That's what gets your arousal boiling, isn't it?. Do you think you really could handle it 24/7? I am sure my husband dreams of this too. That's why it is better that I am the one in control. I indulge in his fantasies here and there but I bring him back to reality and bring a balance between fantasy and real world. The old saying that men think with their dicks is spot on. An aroused man looses common sense and chases his erotic desires, often forgetting about the consequences. A man's arousal is a powerful tool in the hands of a woman.
There is no doubt that I could transform my husband into a mindless slave but that is not what I want. Do husband and wife relationships exist like that? I would not advocate for those types of relationships. I believe a husband should be a companion to a wife; her friend and soul mate. I would love to hear thoughts on this. Deep down, what do you really want?
-Mz Kaylee
I'd agree with you towards being a "productive slave" as more advantageous.
ReplyDeleteI would think the"mindless slave" would require more work for the woman.
Nonetheless, in a marriage, it doesn't seem like that role would've been any of the reasons why the female found the man to be a suitable mate, to have a relationship/marriage to begin with anyway.
From the man's perspective, I think he enjoys the concept of giving the woman power, pleasure, and control. This can still be done while still being a companion that offers emotional and intimate value vs just being a household commodity for a dominant woman.
For me, I don't desire or would enjoy that capacity of being submissive. But I suppose some can see the appeal of handing over all power to another.
-Mike
Mz Kaylee,
ReplyDeleteWhile I do enjoy giving total servitude for my Princess, I certainly would not want to be a mindless slave. And my Princess would not want me to be a mindless slave. She wants companionship, and someone who can take responsibility and initiative, who contributes useful and enjoyable ideas, who provokes her to think, who can conduct an intelligent conversation. As a mindless slave I could not do any of those things. I am a Knight who kneels in service to my Princess, using all of my heart and mind and will to serve and support her to the best of my ability.
I agree, my wife doesn't want some mindless sissy. She asks my opinion on a range of subjects. The only difference is that we both respect the fact that, in the end, she decides the outcome.
ReplyDelete-Alan
Unfortunately, many of us start on this as a porn-derived fantasy. Don't get me wrong, I've been submissive for as long as i can remember, always wanting to please women (mom, sister, teacher, fem friends) and men with some authority. Then went through gfs & then porn and found an experience and caring Domme that taught me to separate fantasy vs real life.
ReplyDeleteDeep down, what I really wanted was to have a wonderful relationship with my wife & a good life; I wanted to build/work in something bigger than I could imagine by myself. That's why I didn't completely go through the lifestyle, because unfortunately I never found the person (Domme) that inspired me in that way.
Part of submitting has been giving up fantasies & only use them as motivation for real life. For example, for me reading about slavery is inspiring & one of the teachings was: "accept/become/enjoy". My wife didn't want a mindless slave, even though she accepts my submission (and I accept my submission). The "become" part has indeed require (and will continue to require) that I develop skills that not only satisfy her but make her proud in different settings.
Definitely agree that this mindless slave should be clearly understood by both sides as a fantasy, and (if anything) use it as a motivation to accept/become/enjoy submission to our Queens.
Khorina - you touch on something that a lot of men struggle with. They struggle to understand the true meaning of their submission because the fantasy gets in the way. You are absolutely right that giving up some part of the fantasy is a sacrifice that needs to be made. Men who can get past that will discover submission that is both exciting and fulfilling. It usually requires the guidance of a woman to accomplish this. More women need to step forward and take control in the relationship and help redirect their partners sexual energy.
ReplyDeleteYou are right, Mz Kaylee. I was lucky to be trained by a Dominant that was an expert & focused her subs in reality while still making it fun.
ReplyDeleteStill, some time after marriage, I struggled trying to impose my fantasies to my Queen, and "retaliated" when it didn't work. True inner/deeper submission happened when I let go of those fantasies and embraced reality.
As you said, submission is really exciting and the fulfillment of being part of something greater, a marriage to a Queen, is very fulfilling.