Guest Post: Royal Femdom

Below is as guest post from khorina, which describes his wife led marriage.  Thank you khorina for taking the time to write a post.  Enjoy....

"Royal" Femdom

I want to share my experience in my real-life vanilla-flavored way of living Femdom. I call it Femdom as my wife is the public and private leader, we have rituals, orgasm control & the expectation of my submission. Having said that, the relationship is not based in sex, and I call it "Royal" as she is comfortable with me addressing her as Queen in any private/public/family context.

• Orgasm control - she decided on a voluntary celibate/abstinence period. We don't know how long it will last, the expectation is (at least) more than a year. We are four months into it. Before that, she determined my orgasms & i had to ask her for permission to ejaculate.
• Rituals - each morning and night we pray with me kneeling towards her while she is seating (we did this also each time before having sex). She leads prayers, gives blessings, provides teachings. I never go out without her permission or blessing. We have a lot of other small gestures to indicate her leadership and my submission. We very often kiss & hug during the day, with me constantly thanking/praising her ("you are gorgeous! thank you so much for this!) followed by a reinforcement of her position ("you are my Queen and my all", "my beautiful Queen").
• Expectation of my submission - she expects that I follow her lead, similar to the authority of a Queen over a lower rank. We interact with very conservative people, yet everybody knows she leads. I usually say things like "sure, I"ll check it with my Queen" and have gestures such as stop talking when she stops, give Her all my attention, etc. 

Our femdom didn't come easy. We are both naturally submissive, started as friends with me helping her get a boyfriend, and eventually (through me treating her as Queen) married. Being religious and submissive to others, she expected to submit, but somehow it didn't work for us: I tried playing the dominant to no-success. It took us years of alternating, I took my turns trying to introduce kink or "top from the bottom", until we fell into a deep crisis where we stopped having sex for a year. The deadlock was broken with me pursuing her again as a Queen, my energy directed to align with her. Religion is really important for her (us), so I had to profoundly submit to her and to her beliefs. During that time, we understood we were both submissive, but between she and I it only worked and felt natural when she was in charge.

With that realization, things have fallen in place perfectly. She had me go through the religion ranks, establishing herself as my guide and leader (asking for no-privacy of thoughts/desires/dreams). She determined my routines, our circle of friends, and is openly recognized as a dedicated member and leader among us. For us is natural that she asks me to help or "lends" me to others. Intimately, we shifted our lovemaking to her desires, and she established control and a rhythm that she openly recognized that kept me with a high energy to be attentive and submissive. One of her big tests for me was to guide me to submission to a particular male leader she likes, and being happy as I established myself as his unconditional follower. It is him that suggested the abstinence period. Yes, i've fantasized about them getting along, and although we think nothing will happen it has given her the power and freedom to spend time with him. My Queen knows I'm thankful with him for providing her with the leadership I cannot provide.

So these last 4 years in our marriage of 13 years have been the best. Not all femdom relationships are the same, I thought it would have been more natural for me to deal with someone with more of a Dominatrix profile, but our femdom has required me to submit to my Queen from the bottom of my heart, my soul and my mind.

Name (alias): khorina