Edward

 1. Who am I (name, sex, approx. age, where you live)

    Edward

    I am 34 years old

    Canada

2. My position in the relationship (submissive, dominant, or switch? If switch, do you favor one over the other?

   I am definitely the submissive.

3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation?

    I’m married for my second time, five years now.  We were married in 2015.

4.  When did you first discover your submissive/dominant desires?

I discovered my submissiveness while we were dating.  She is more dominant than my first wife, and I discovered there was no arguing whenever I went along with what she wanted, while agreeing with all her decisions.  

5.  Describe how WLM/FLR was introduced into your relationship? Explain your experiences of how you went from discovering submission/domination up to the point of being in a WLM/FLR?    

In 2013 as we were dating as a couple, and two years prior to our wedding, I began research on this phenomenon I was experiencing and found FLR websites and blogs which I read incessantly. I then spoke with her about this, and showed her all my research. Since we were not yet married, and still in a dating situation we were able to test different ideas out, move forward, and step back without the potential pressure of being locked into what is supposed to be a permanent relationship. We both knew if it wasn’t working out we could go our separate ways easily, or take time to reassess.  She kept exerting more control over me during our time prior to the wedding, and I very much enjoyed these changes as they kept coming at me.The wedding was entirely her telling me what she wanted, and me taking care of the details while keeping her informed of everything. By the time we were married I was already very proficient at ironing, washing dishes, scrubbing a bathtub etc.    

 6.  Describe your current WLM/FLR situation 

a.       Chores - The household chores are entirely mine, and we both want it this way, and they must meet her standards.One detail I want included here is the house she decided we would be buying had a dishwasher when we bought. It was removed the first month we were moved in. She wants to see me washing dishes by hand.  No dishwasher sitting full of dirty dishes, and      none on the kitchen counters either.  I do the ironing, folding, vacuuming etc.  All of it.

     b.   Finances/Money -  Once we were married, we set up a ‘joint’ bank account that my income is deposited into.  As is        commonly done, I have no access to this, and do not know the balance of this account.  This gave her immense power over me, and the reality sunk in soon. I do have a bank account with a debit card that she transfers an allowance into weekly.

    c.       Rules/Protocols - There are many rules regarding checking with her prior to doing things.  Another rule is I am not allowed to have any locked drawers, and I give her the password to unlock my phone so she can check what is on it.  Same with my personal laptop.

    d.       Punishment and Discipline -  I made a 22 inch paddle of three quarter inch thick oak, for her.  Also we hit a few flea markets together  to buy a couple of wooden hairbrushes.  I am bent over a chair, or the edge of the bed for these.  Also I am sometimes made to sit in a chair, and say nothing while she lectures me if she feels I have been slacking at my household work.

    e.       Chastity/Orgasm Control -    “ None

    f.        Rituals, Protocols, routines -  Not sure what to put here, but one protocol is her car is to have gasoline in it at all times,Serviced, and ready to go always.  She may look at the gas gauge but will never tell? me if it’s close to empty.  It’s my job to be sure it gets checked, and filled for example.

    g.       Fetishes or kinks -     None.

7.       How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? How do you act in public?

  If our family suspects anything, they don’t say nothing. We both live a few hours froM our extended family.   It’s a large city we live in, so when out, and about we don’t meet people we know by chance, so my deferring to her isn’t a big concern for either of us.

8.       Do you have kids in the house? If yes, what age group (infant, toddler, teenager, adult)
        (No kids)

9.       Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house
         N/A 

10.   What are some of challenges you face in your WLM/FLR?

 We are still working out what decisions I should make without checking with her, as this can get tedious, and ridiculous for both of us.  However this could be a small issue forever.  But we are getting better at finding a suitable balance for both of us.

11.   What things do you like the most about your WLM/FLR?

 I’ve discovered I love being under a woman’s thumb, micromanaged, and strictly controlled.  Yes it’shard at times, but I absolutely love it.  

12.   How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time      since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?

 Going back to 2013 when we first began talking about doing this, things have changed a lot .  Her life has much less stress, as we no longer disagree often.  For me, my time is now fully occupied because if I’m not at my Chartered Accounting firm, I’m busy being the house husband, and so there is little free time for me. This is as it should be.  Before I was wasting money, and heading to the golf course after work with coworkers perhaps.  My circle of friends has drastically  changed since then.

13.   If there were one or two things you could change about your WLM/FLR or one or two things new you would like to try, what would they be? 
      

 I want very badly to spend an entire day waiting on her to learn patience. Naturally, under orders to NOT ONCE ever look bored, or whine about heading home.  Wait in the hair salon for two hours with the ladies while she gets highlights put in.  Go to ten different clothing stores, and be made to wait inside the store while she tries on fifty outfits, and have to be interested as she asks my opinion on them all.  Knowing it’s my money paying for itl.  This would really teach me patience.  My second dream would be to do the above while wearing blue, and silver Gymshark leggings to amp up the embarrassment on me, as I endure everyone’s staring.

14.   Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR?
 

Yes.  It is very difficult at times, but so very worth it.  My biggest advice would be to politely ask for things but never demand, or expect them.  In my case, her word is always final.

15.   Is there anything else you what like to share?

 Yes.  I made it explicitly clear prior to our wedding that she was to never say thank you for anything I do for her.  It is expected of me, to serve her, and she is in charge. This reinforces this concept. We have a deep love for one another, but it must be clear that she is in charge at all times.