Robert

Robert’s Profile:

 

1. Who am I (name, sex, approx. age, where you live)

Robert, male, late 60’s USA Pacific Northwest

2. My position in the relationship (submissive, dominant, or switch? If switch, do you favor one over the other?

Submissive

3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation (Married and in a WLM, not married and in a FLR, not married but seeking a FLR, etc.)? What is status of your WLM (Beginners, Mature, Somewhere in the middle)

Married in a WLM for a little over a year, probably Beginner Plus

4.  When did you first discover your submissive/dominant desires?

I can recall being moderately interested in “strong women” in my teens, but didn’t know of such things as FLR or WLM until my 40’s. Married over 30 years in a pretty vanilla marriage that ended in an amicable divorce 15 years ago, never having shared my interests/desires. Spent many an hour on porn sites wishing I was the guy in several of them! J


5.  Describe how WLM/FLR was introduced into your relationship? Explain your experiences of how you went from discovering submission/domination up to the point of being in a WLM/FLR?

My new wife and I both came from vanilla 30 year marriages; as noted, mine ended in divorce, she lost her husband to a horrible disease.  As we became more intimate in our relationship, we both learned from and with the other that we had a bit of a kink in the back of our minds.  I won’t go into details, but I’ve convinced her, over time, to take a more dominant role and she now does quite willingly.

6.  Describe your current WLM/FLR situation
    a.       Chores

I do the house cleaning, the laundry (including some hand-washing of her lingerie… not all, but the special panties), the yard work, and most of the cooking. When we get up, as she’s getting ready for her shower, I bring her coffee and lay out her lingerie. She lets me recommend her lingerie, with the power of veto.  I also lay out five or six pairs of my undies for her to choose for me. I’ve made breakfast by the time she comes down.  Dinner is usually my job, but she’s a good cook and enjoys it sometimes, but, of course, I do the dishes.

    b.       Finances/Money

She’s better at it than I am, but they are joint decisions.  We’ve talked about her taking on more and more but to date, it’s pretty even.

    c.       Rules/Protocols

Never lie. Always be a good boy.

    d.       Punishment and Discipline

I am occasionally spanked on my bare bottom and sent to the corner but it’s generally denial of privileges.  I may be denied the male privilege of standing to urinate, for example, for a specified period of hours or days. I’d rather wear panties, but may not be allowed to wear them and must wear male underwear as another example.

    e.       Chastity/Orgasm Control

Very little in terms of chastity, but she does enjoy watching me masturbate upon command. I am also often required to dress my boy parts in a colorful ribbon and am subject to regular inspections to make sure I thoroughly shave the entire area.

    f.        Rituals, Protocols, routines

I am occasionally required to have my boy parts exposed, simply by pulling everything out through the fly. It’s to remind me that, though they are attached to me, they belong to her. 

    g.       Fetishes or kinks
N/A

7.       How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? How do you act in public?

No one knows in our area, but we have some on-line friends.  I am VERY polite to her in public and have received comments like “now MY wife will expect me to open the door for her” or “wow, does he always help you on with your coat?”  Nothing except being a gentleman, I guess.

8.       Do you have kids in the house? If yes, what age group (infant, toddler, teenager, adult)

No

9.       Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house

N/A

10.   What are some of challenges you face in your WLM/FLR?

Finding the right balance between dominance, submission, and being a newly-married couple in our post Medicare ages.


11.   What things do you like the most about your WLM/FLR?

The fun of exploring, learning, and sharing with a wonderful woman.


12.   How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?

We have so much more fun in our sex lives than we ever did before.  Once we hit the sheets, we’re pretty much in the business of mutual satisfaction.


13.   If there were one or two things you could change about your WLM/FLR or one or two things new you would like to try, what would they be?

I’d like it if she were a little more dominant in public, even if in secret.  I’d love to try a penis leash, for example, but she says “no way.”  Maybe… maybe.. I can hope!


14.   Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR?

Take it slow, make it safe, make it fun, and enjoy!


15.   Is there anything else you what like to share?

Thanks for this site.  We’ve just discovered it and love it!