1 Who am I?
Pudsweda
Female
2. My position in the relationship (submissive, dominant, or switch? If switch, do you favor one over the other?
I am the dominant!
3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation (Married and in a WLM, not married and in a FLR, not married but seeking a FLR, etc.)? What is status of your WLM (Beginners, Mature, Somewhere in the middle)
married 38 years
4. When did you first discover your submissive/dominant desires?
I guess my husbands saw it in me before i could see my personality.
He realize my assertive personality and lead me towards your site. Also he deeply loves me and wants to make me happy. He has always been a man that wanted to remain in the background. He’s a very unselfish, simple and kind hearted man. Deep in thought and always wanting to please me.
5. Describe how WLM/FLR was introduced into your relationship? Explain your experiences of how you went from discovering submission/domination up to the point of being in a WLM/FLR?
At first I did not like it and felt it was weird and against my personality. it’s taken many many years for me to realize that it benefits me and him and I get so much out of it now. Buit didn’t come easy for me. .
6. Describe your current WLM/FLR situation
a. Chores He does most chores
b. Finances/Money. He does all the money
c. Rules/Protocols. He must wear panties every day. He also must ask before he kisses or touches me before he has any kind of outing or job he asked my permission.
I dictate what the plans are for the day and how he is to respond. This is helped his anxiety and depression because now I insist that he stay away from news Twitter things that bring him down.
d. Punishment and Discipline. Some spanking but now I do very little of that. Now just a stern talking to.
e. Chastity/Orgasm Control yes. He can only come if I allow it. I tease him and don’t allow him to come. But. I do allow him to come more often than most submissive due to his personality.
f. Rituals, Protocols, routines. Panties ever day. Sometimes I put him in a nightly, paint his nails. Totally make him a woman.
g. Fetishes or kinks.
7. How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? How do you act in public?
Not really it’s pretty private we have another couple that’s been friends with us for over 30 years and they see the way he waits on me and I think they have put some things together and kind of know. I have told them that I have taken over our finances and other aspects of our life!!!
8. Do you have kids in the house? If yes, what age group (infant, toddler, teenager, adult) with the pandemic we have an adult son here but he moves out soon.
9. Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house.
10. What are some of challenges you face in your WLM/FLR?
Mostly not getting lazy since I am older I have to keep him aroused and in his happy space. I can sometimes forget to tease or put him in his place. I need to read your site more.
11. What things do you like the most about your WLM/FLR?
The freedom and the love he shows me everyday.
12. How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?
He is much happier and I can tell he’s doing what he wants to do he calls me queen and treats me so wonderfully
13. If there were one or two things you could change about your WLM/FLR or one or two things new you would like to try, what would they be?
His fantasy is for me to be with another man and to go out and be with other men but I have no desire for that I have told him but he seems to fantasize about that a lot.
14. Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR?
Sometimes it’s awkward and it doesn’t seem normal but I don’t really care anymore we’re happy I’m getting everything I need and so just relax and go with it. I used to feel like it was mean to do this but then I saw how happy it made him.
15. Is there anything else you what like to share?
I guess in conclusion . I realized it’s a total act of love. I want to make him happy and he wants to make me happy and isn’t that what relationships are all about
Thank you for sharing. I do believe that happiness is what it's all about. My wife also thought it was a little awkward in the beginning, but she soon realized that we were both much happier and has embraced it over the years.
ReplyDeleteI am curious, is the cross dressing some thing you make him do, or is it something he likes? Except for a pair of panties on occasion we have never really gotten into it. I think I would enjoy it if I was forced to do it. Take care-Alan
Thank you for the question. Both!!! He enjoys wearing them. I have insisted he wear them daily and I check that he has them on. I also purchase them for him when he has been obedient. I will surprise him with a new pair.
DeleteI have on occasion put him in a nighty at night but that is on my request only.
I remind him often that wearing panties is a privilege not a right!
Men actually look so much better in a tight pair of panties!
Pudsweda
DeleteI enjoyed reading your profile on the Femdom Think Tamk site. You and your husband have a wonderful FLM.
I'm Debbie and have been in a FLM with my husband, David, since college. See my profile in the Femdom THink Tank blog.
David does not work outside the home. Rather, he's focused on doing what pleases me including all the house work, caring for my car, doing the grocery shopping - all those kinds of things. David also does housework for my mother and two of my girlfriends. All the added houswork helps the women and keeps David busy.
I still find it necessary to discipline and punishment David from time to time, although, like you, a stern talking to is often all that is needed.
David can only cum with my or my mother's approval.
We have numerous rituals in place. David must wear panties and nighties and he is required to wear a feminine apron when doing his chores. He MUST respect all women and show them courtesy and deference. I have a personal objective to feminize David. I'm working on this gradually. At home he has to wear a dress and high heels. I'm also teaching him makeup. He has to apply light makeup each morning before he serves me breakfast. He's to touch up his makeup throughout the day and when I return home.
David is inadequate in the bed room so I have been seeing other men. I told David I wanted to have other men and he was OK with it. He regards my cuckolding him as his ultimate act of submission and female dominance. David is never involved with my lovers but knows when I'm going on a 'date'. David helps me prepare for my dates. If I'm going to have a man to our house I spend the evening at my mothers so he doesn't get in the way.
You mention that your husband wants you to see other men but you have no interest. No interest is fine now but perhaps you will find some one later.
Debbie