Scott

 1. Who am I (name, sex, approx. age, where you live?

Scott

Male

In my 60’s

Southeast

2. My position in the relationship (submissive, dominant, or switch? If switch, do you favor one over the other? 

Submissive to my wife Ms Lee

3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation (Married and in a WLM, not married and in a FLR, not married but seeking a FLR, etc.)? What is status of your WLM (Beginners, Mature, Somewhere in the middle)

Married and in a WLM.

We have been in a WLM off and on for 3+ years. 

I would describe our status as evolving beginners, ready to take the next step toward a more committed WLM.

4.  When did you first discover your submissive/dominant desires?

Recently, my memories were jogged by a comment from a friend about finding his fathers Penthouse magazines and reading the letters in the forum section and later reading the letters in Penthouse Variations.

There were a lot of letters concerning Female Domination and I believe that is where the seed for my kinky desires was planted. These desires lay dormant for many years and only showed up in fantasies that were sporadically shared by me with my wife.

5.  Describe how WLM/FLR was introduced into your relationship? Explain your experiences of how you went from discovering submission/domination up to the point of being in a WLM/FLR?

In the summer of 2018 my wife was away on an all girls weekend. I was home alone and discovered a porn site dedicated to lovingly tying up and dominating women with the purpose of bringing them great  pleasure. 

To try and make a long story short, when she returned home, I convinced her to let me do some light bondage play without binding her hands or feet. The rope, the blindfold and lots of sensory stimulation made for a very erotic and satisfying experience for both my wife and myself.

A few days later, with great  anticipation, I tried again but this time I wanted to step things up and tried to bind her hands behind her back, to my chagrin she did not take to this stepping up of our play very well. What followed was a huge uproar, with me accusing her of not trusting me and so on and so on… it was not my finest moment.

And so, after taking a few days to calm down and reflect on what had taken place, I approached my wife and apologized for my behavior and offered myself up to her, “to do with as you please.” She accepted  my offer and to my surprise at the time, I found out that I was a lot more submissive than I had ever thought I could be and that my sweet and loving wife could dish out more punishment with a stern hand than I had ever thought possible…and so for us, this groundbreaking revelation put us on a path, that hopefully someday will lead to a full time 24/7 FLR!

There have been ups and downs, starts and stops, a lot of frustrations, but also some very mind blowing experiences. 

It seems we have arrived at a place in our WLM where we have a better concept of what a WLM can bring to our marriage, but unsure and a little fearful of what it would mean for us individually to truly let go and embrace a WLM 24/7.

6.  Describe your current WLM/FLR situation

 

   a.       Chores:

 We have a maid that comes in twice a week and she cleans the in-laws suite, kitchen, living and dining room, hallways and guest bathroom. I take care of the rest of the house and do the laundry, dishes, make the bed and do outside work. There is a lot of work that needs to be done around our home and I’m steadily learning how to manage the workload, but my wife helps when she sees that it’s needed, otherwise she leaves the chores to me 

    b.       Finances/Money: 

We both handle different areas of our finances, but with complete access and transparency between our separate areas.

    c.       Rules/Protocols:

I’m only allowed to use her commode for #1 and I must be sitting, for anything else I use the guest bathroom. I open doors for her. I start her car on cold mornings. I must speak in respectful tones. I come to her when called for. I listen when she talks. This is an evolving area of our relationship. Mostly the rules are to be respectful, thoughtful, and helpful.

    d.       Punishment and Discipline: 

She’s not big on punishment and discipline. In the past when I have  annoyed her or showed frustration with her lack of discipline for me she became angry and really laid into me with a cane or paddle! I respect her right to use me in this way, but I have this need to be molded and taught how to serve her in a way that she desires. Submitting to her orders, bowing down and kissing her feet, feeling her contempt for my humiliation gives me a certain strength and desire to submit even further and try harder to make her life just a little easier. This is an area in which I have to be patient and allow her to move at her own pace.

    e.       Chastity/Orgasm Control: 

Relies on me to self police myself. I have to let you know I’ve not been very successful in this area, even though when I do manage to go a week or two without a climax, it’s been truly rewarding.

    f.        Rituals, Protocols, routines: 

I make sure I’m awake at least a half an hour before her alarm sounds. I checkout our schedules for that day. I prepare the bathroom for her by turning on the bathroom heater, turn on the tv and set it to the local news, make sure she has her white towels and washcloths ready, and that the tub is clean for her when gets out of bed.

I then kneel beside her bed and massage and kiss her feet while reciting my morning litany. 

I bring her coffee every morning.

 I rub her body with lotion every night.

    g.       Fetishes or kinks :

 I wear her old thong panties every day and they are very tight! 

7.       How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? 

How do you act in public? 

We have not directly talked to anyone about our WLM, but people who have known us for a while can see a difference in our relationship. At this point in my life if it were up to me I would be comfortable living this lifestyle in a more open way. Not in your face, but not hiding everything either. When we’re around family and friends and I’m wearing a thong and maybe a buttplug, and she doesn’t ask me to get her a glass of wine, she tells me to get her a glass of wine. Well, that’s a tremendous turn on for me!

8.       Do you have kids in the house? If yes, what age group (infant, toddler, teenager, adult)

We have my wife’s aging parents and my 19 year old son has returned home. Fortunately, the parents have a mother-in-law suite and my son stays in the room over the garage, both on the opposite side of the house from our master bedroom. This gives us some privacy.

9.       Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house:

 

It’s not the fact we’re sharing a house with her parents and our son. It’s the stress and responsibility of caring for aging parents with serious medical conditions and an teenage son who’s dropped out of college. Also our 25 year daughter just gave us our first grandchild and we look forward to taking care of him every chance we get.  What can I say, life’s good, but time is precious.

10.   What are some of the challenges you face in your WLM/FLR?

The WLM does not conform to the way my wife was raised and has lived her life, the concept for the most part is foreign to her, I on the other hand have fantasized and studied the subject a lot, so finding the time for her to practice and research about the benefits of this lifestyle has been a huge challenge.

11.   What things do you like the most about your WLM/FLR?

The lines of communication that  have opened for us, if we never get to the nirvana of this lifestyle, I’ll always treasure what we’ve learned about ourselves and each other! 

And, of course, learning about the intrinsic differences between panties and boxer briefs!

12.   How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?

Our house is a lot cleaner and more organized.

We fight less and love way more…

13.   If there were one or two things you could change about your WLM/FLR or one or two things new you would like to try, what would they be?

I would ask that my wife be more petty and less concerned about my feelings. ( When I read over that last sentence, it still makes me want to say, “WTF.”)

I would like to have more structure in our WLM. Requirements on how I address my wife, more episodes of power transfer; kissing her feet, corner time, being used as furniture…and a weekly review session.

14.   Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR? 

Patience and Persistence!

15.   Is there anything else you would like to share?

I would like to thank my wife for all the effort she has put into our WLM despite all the burdens and responsibilities she carries on her shoulders.

Thank you Mistress, and you Mz Kaylee for your wonderful blog!