Edwin

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1. Who am I (name, sex, approx. age, where you live)

Edwin 

retirement age, upper Midwest

2. My position in the relationship (submissive, dominant, or switch? If switch,

do you favor one over the other?

submissive.

3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation (Married and in

a WLM, not married and in a FLR, not married but seeking a FLR, etc.)? What is

status of your WLM (Beginners, Mature, Somewhere in the middle)?

Long-term marriage. We have had some previous attempts at a FemDom

marriage (at my request). Our current situation is the most successful. We are

about one year into it.

4. When did you first discover your submissive/dominant desires?

As long as I can remember I have felt a strong desire (need?) to submit to

assertive and capable women. I’ve wanted to serve women, please them, and

frankly, to be more like them. It’s been hard for me to admit this to myself and

even harder for me to explain it to my wife in a way that she finally has seemed to

understand.

5. Describe how WLM/FLR was introduced into your relationship? Explain your

experiences of how you went from discovering submission/domination up to

the point of being in a WLM/FLR?

We have always had an active and “fun” sex life. I told her of my desire to wear

women’s underwear very early in our marriage. In the beginning we incorporated

this into our play, but she always limited it. Later she began allowing me to wear

panties every day (my request). I told her of my fantasies about Female

Domination and we would role play some tease and denial games and FemDom,

especially when we were on vacation. Eventually I asked her for more.

We had a couple attempts at incorporating a FemDom marriage into our day-to-

day lives, but it never lasted … it just seemed to die from a lack of maintenance

and energy, enthusiasm on her part. It was one thing to play-act in the bedroom

and another to make it work day-to-day. I would be disappointed, and she would

say that she just wasn’t that into it, and I’d let it drop for another few years.

Once we retired, I asked her to try again. We had the most open discussion about

it that we’d ever had. Some of it hurt me, but she said some things that I

obviously needed to hear. I sulked a bit at first, then realized she was right and

accepted what she told and that if I truly wanted to submit that I needed to

listen, understand her, and accept. She told me what she really needed. She told

me that if I wanted her to be in charge of the house, I was going to have to show

that I would take the time to really listen to her – show her that her ideas and

feelings were important, that I had to learn to really listen without giving my point

of view.

That was a real lesson in humility, and I have really worked on keeping my mouth

shut when she is talking except to show her that I understand and accept her

feelings and point of view. Then she told me something else that was very hard to

hear and accept. She said that she was no longer interested in penetrative sex. I

was stunned by this. She went on to tell me that, since menopause (which had

been some years earlier) it just had not been that pleasurable, and that, if I

wanted her to be in charge, that I would need to accept that I would not be

allowed inside of her. I asked if I would still be able to make love with her. She

laughed and told me that there was one way of making love to her that she

enjoyed, that she thought could use more practice. I knew what she meant!

We agreed to try, and I have done my best to show her that it is worthwhile for

her. I really work on listening, really listening to her. I have accepted that I am not

allowed to have intercourse. She has since told me that she experiences far more

pleasure, more frequent and more intense orgasms, with the way I now express

my devotion to her during sex. And, she has come to understand that keeping me

denied amplifies my enthusiasm.

6. Describe your current WLM/FLR situation

a. Chores I have taken on most of them, although there are some that she likes to do. For

example, she loves to cook and is very good at it. In the kitchen, I am her

assistant, and I clean up after she cooks. She relishes the thought that she will

never clean another toilet the rest of her life. I have asked her to teach me how

to do cleaning tasks up to her standards. I love doing chores for the two of us,

love giving her more free time to do what she wants, love doing mundane tasks

while she reads or talks with a friend on the phone.

b. Finances/Money Handling finances, paying bills, etc. is something that she dislikes and 

something that I have always done, so I continue to do it. We have always made major

financial decisions together. This hasn't changed.

c. Rules/Protocols There aren’t many, but what we do have reinforce her authority:

1) When she is pleased with me, she will allow me to help her into her panties

and bra as she dresses for the day.

2) Each morning, I ask what jobs she has for me for that day.

3) It is my job to keep her lingerie drawer neat and orderly.

4) I am not allowed to ejaculate without her permission. To avoid any

“accidents,” I must put on a panty girdle before any sexual contact or oral

worship.

d. Punishment and Discipline She is more of a believer in rewards. The primary punishments are delays in my access to body worship and orgasm denial.

e. Chastity/Orgasm Control I am allowed about one every 3-4 weeks. I am not allowed penetration.

f. Rituals, Protocols, routines

g. Fetishes or kinks I love women’s clothing (not just lingerie). I admitted this to her early in our

marriage... I wear panties every day and have for many years. She controls what

else she might let me wear. I must ask permission. Most often I am allowed only

to underdress (wear lingerie under my male clothes), or dress in female clothing

to do cleaning while she is away from home.

My biggest trigger is erotic humiliation. She has become masterful at using this to

control and stimulate me. She knows that there are certain words, a certain tone

of voice, and a certain demeanor, that are extremely powerful. For example, she

likes to remind me that she has so many more orgasms now that I am not allowed

penetration. Sometimes she will take me panty shopping and require me to bring

her selections to the checkout counter. She will use this verbal erotic humiliation

when it is my time to ejaculate, as she finds it amusing how quickly it happens

once she gives her permission.

7. How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? How do you act

in public?

We are private and discreet with a couple exceptions. While panty shopping, she

has made it obvious that she is selecting panties for me. Also, when with friends I

have been instructed that I am to go out of my way to demonstrate that I treat

her better than any of our friend’s husbands do their wives. She will say, “I want

them to see how pussy-whipped you are.”

8. Do you have kids in the house? If yes, what age group (infant, toddler,

teenager, adult)

Empty next.

9. Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house

10. What are some of challenges you face in your WLM/FLR?

I know that it has been a challenge for her to accept that I am not like “other

men,” or traditional men and that I like feminine things. However, I believe she

has come to see advantages in this in that I am so devoted to her and want to be

like her. For me, there are times I would like her to be more demanding. I think

that in some ways she has become perhaps too accustomed to my submission

and doing so much that I miss out on the control and discipline that I crave.

11. What things do you like the most about your WLM/FLR?

I love serving her and I love it when she tells me that I have pleased her. I love

seeing her relax while I am doing mundane tasks that she no longer needs to

bother with. I love being teased by her and being allowed to worship her.

12. How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your

WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to

how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?

We rarely argue. When we do, it is resolved quickly. We are better companions

and share a lot of our free time together in fun activities. I believe we are both

happier. I know I am.

13. If there were one or two things you could change about your WLM/FLR or

one or two things new you would like to try, what would they be?

I wish I had been more successful in approaching her earlier in our marriage. And

I do wish that she would feel more comfortable punishing me: spankings, corner

time, humiliating clothing, etc.

I would like to try being put into a chastity device – especially since she does not

allow penetration anyway (although she does like her vibrator – which she will

remind me is more reliable as it does not ejaculate prematurely).

14. Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR?

Communicate – even if it feels embarrassing to say out loud!

15. Is there anything else you what like to share?

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