The New Year's Post

It seems to be a tradition for me to write a New Year's post as a reminder to include your Wife Led Marriage (WLM)/ Female Led Relationship (FLR) in your 2022 goal planning and 2022 resolutions. This is the time of year that many people look forward to the coming year and think about what will they do better and how will they improve as a person. CNN recently shared the top resolutions for 2022. Drum roll please......

• Exercise more
• Eat healthier
• Be a better person
• Save more money
• Spend more time with family
• Get a new job
• Quit smoking

https://www.cnn.com/videos/us/2021/12/24/new-years-resolutions-ath-enten-vpx.cnn

Nothing surprising here, is there? These are the typical ones you hear year-after-year. Wouldn't it be great if people thought about resolutions for their marriage?  It's not something I ever thought of until I transitioned to a WLM. One of the fascinating things for me about WLM, is that I am constantly assessing and re-assessing how things are working and looking for ways to make the WLM better (i.e. what can hubby do more of to make my life better :). Maybe not everyone does this, and if you don't, well I highly recommend that you do.

With a new year starting, there is no better time to take a step back and assess how the WLM is going, and then look forward and think about how you want your WLM to be in the next year. If your WLM went off the tracks and fell to the wayside, the New Year is a great excuse to bring it back to the forefront and try it again or revive it. Maybe you  are not in a WLM, but you have been thinking about giving it a try. Now is the time to dive in! And if your WLM is humming along good, there's always room to try new things to keep the marriage exciting and fun. I enjoy trying new things throughout the year or changing up some of the rules and routines. It is fun and it helps keep Thomas motivated to serve me.

For the dominant wife, think about:

• What can I do better to motivate him to obey me and be my ideal submissive husband?
• What can I have him do to make my life better? 
• Added chores, activities, and/or responsibilities
• Better attitude; more listening.
• Being more proactive in serving you
• More pampering
• How can I be more dominant and strict with my husband?
• How can I add more structure to the WLM in a way that caters to his submissive desires while making my life easier?
• What new rituals or routines can I add to increase his devotion to me and improve his performance?

When thinking about these questions and what you want, also think about specific actions you can do to make your resolutions and goals happen. Then set specific goals of how you will improve your WLM and dominance over your husband, and the steps you will take to achieve these goals. It's important to be specific and to identify the steps to achieve your goals. This will increase the probability that you will follow-through on your goals. For example, suppose your overall goal is to be more strict with your husband. If you set that goal and did not think about anything else, you are not likely to achieve the goal because it's very general and you've not identified the action items you need to do to be more strict. A better way to write the goal is: 

I will be more strict with my husband by doing the following:

• Telling him what to do and not asking
• Making a weekly list of tasks for him to complete 
• Providing him feedback immediately when I am not satisfied with his performance
• Disciplining or punishing him when he slacks off or disobeys.
• Holding him to high expectations.

The above goal is specific and contains action items and therefore, sets a clear path for you to achieve the goal, as well as measure how well you are progressing to achieving it. It also important to write your goals down. Those who write their goals down are more likely to achieve them. Writing out your goals also provides a mechanism for you to review your goals regularly so that you stay on target. On a monthly basis, read through your goals to refresh what your plan is and refocus as needed. Finally make sure your goals are achievable. Don't try to do too much at once, or you'll stress yourself out. Think about spreading things out over the year.  I like to break the year up into quarters (every 3 months). If you want to keep it simple set goals for the first half of the year and goals for the second half of the year. Here's an example of quarterly goals:  Q1 (Jan-Mar): Become more strict, Q2 (Apr - Jun): Train him to do the laundry, Q3 (Jul - Sep): By September, he will be able to go 1 month without orgasm, Q4 (Oct - Dec): He will bathe me at least once a week. 

Don't get too worked up if you get off track or if something does not work out the way you planned. It's ok to be flexible and adjust goals if your situation changes. The key is to regularly review your goals and get back on track if you've gone off the rails a bit. Believe me, my WLM has gone off the rails several times in the past. The way I got back on track was to reset and re-establish rules and routines with Thomas. Usually I started with a punishment or tough discipline session with Thomas because that always gets him to refocus. Something I learned over the years is that the sooner you react to issues or challenges, the easier it is to recover and that it is never to late to get back on track. For example, In the goal above, I listed 5 action items. Suppose you started off the year and only did one action item. Don't let that discourage you. That is still progress. Doing one thing is better than doing none. Instead of giving up or beating yourself up over not doing the other four items, keep moving forward with the goal and try to do more.

It is rewarding when you set goals and achieve them, and for the WLM, it has a very positive impact on you and your marriage. Every year, I feel like my WLM progresses to a new and exciting level and that my husband and I grow closer together. When I look back over the years, I am amazed and how far I have come as a dominant wife and how much our marriage has changed for the better. It does not happen by itself. It takes commitment and planning, especially in the early years, but the payoff is well worth it.

Happy New Year!

-Mz Kaylee

The Submissive Sales Pitch

So you want your wife or girlfriend to dominate you...what do you do next? The questions comes up often on my blog, how do I get my wife or girlfriend to dominate me?

The biggest mistake that most guys make when asking their wife to dominate them is to make it all about themselves.  “I want to you to dominate me…..I want you to control my orgasms…..I will do whatever you want.” Guys just assume the wife is going to enjoy dominating them. There are two major problems with this approach: 1) Your wife probably does not know what it means to dominate you, and 2) Most women do not get the same pleasure out of domination that guys get out of being dominated. Therefore there is little motivation for her to want to do it. She may agree to do it initially to appease you or for fun but she will have little reason to make it a regular thing. 

If you are serious about wanting to be submissive to your wife or girlfriend then you have to think about how it will benefit her. What is she going to get out of it? Saying “I will do anything for you” is too generic. Think about specific things that she likes or would enjoy. Also what are things she hates to do or things that make her unhappy? 

Once you make a list of all the likes and dislikes, put some thought into how you can make her life better by giving her more of the things she likes and removing the things she dislikes. This is going to require sacrifice on your part. You are going to have to work for her and give up some of your time to make her happy. You may need to do things you don’t like, such as committing to cleaning the bathroom. However, in return you are going to get the domination you crave. Do you see how this works? It is a bit of a negotiation. You need to make it worth her while and then develop a sales pitch to get her onboard.

What’s even better is to act on your plan before you give her the sales pitch. It’s like the free trial tactic. How many of us have gotten hooked onto something because of trying the free trial? Hulu is one that got me! My husband used this tactic on me and I guess it worked because here we are 20 years later in a full blown WLM. I love to be pampered and so he started offering to give me foot massages at night and he even offered to bathe me. At the time this was very uncharacteristic of him to suggest these things but I certainly loved it. When he finally approached me about being dominate to him, I was not completely surprised because I knew something was up with the way he had been acting. I liked what he was doing so it made it easy for me to agree to take on the domination, knowing that I could get endless pampering from him. 

The second thing my husband did was to provide me with information on how to be dominant. In that first conversation he explained some of it to me and provided me with an article or two to read. A few weeks later he bought me Elise Sutton’s book, ‘Female Domination, An Exploration of the Male Desire for Loving Female Authority.”  This information was helpful for me to understand his submissive desires and to learn how to be dominant. My husband did a good job at presenting me with the right amount of information. It’s a little overwhelming and confusing for women to learn about the concept of domination. I do not recommend that you unload all your submissive desires and kinks all at once or that you give her tons of information to read right away. This could intimidate your wife or girlfriend or even turn her off to the idea. Start off with things that you think will resonate with her and over time work your way up to the more kinkier hard core things. Everyone is different so pay attention to her reactions. Certainly if she is excited about the idea, and is having a blast with domination then you can move at a quicker pace.

It’s also ok to admit that it is a little crazy and that you are not sure why you like it but for some reason it excites you. This honesty can put her at ease. When my husband gave me the articles and book he told me some of it was going to sound extreme and that he was not expecting me to do it all. This helped me be open to reading the information. I know now that he would have easily jumped at the chance to do the extreme stuff but he was smart by holding back and taking baby steps with me because I was not ready to dive right into extreme domination. 

For many women it takes time and learning to understand the benefits of being dominant and how to be dominant. The submissive husband needs to be supportive, patient, and lovingly persistent with his wife as she learns how to be dominant. This is not always easy to do because of the large gap between what the submissive desires and the wife’s inexperience with being dominant. The submissive has spent most of his life fantasizing about being dominated. He has spun up thousands of scenarios in his mind, which have formulated his ideal way to be dominated. Now, enter his wife who is completely new to domination. She may surprise him and totally blow his mind with a night of exciting domination. If that’s the way it plays out then great- you are heading down right path. However there is a good chance her dominance will not live up to the submissive’s expectations. I would guess the first few sessions would be very exciting for the couple because it is new fun. It is when you get past the initial honeymoon phase that the disappointment sets in. That’s when the submissive can easily fall into the trap of constantly criticizing the wife’s dominance and asking her to do more. This can quickly demotivate her.  

Instead of criticizing her or constantly asking her to do more, the submissive should celebrate small achievements in her dominance and encourage her to explore more. For example, if she was strict but not strict enough, sometimes it’s better to say ‘thank you for being strict with me’ rather than saying ‘you should be more strict with me.’ This reassures her that it is ok to be strict and builds her confidence to be more strict in the future. You are celebrating the fact that she took the step to exert control over you.  Give her time to build her confidence. If after awhile she does not change, then have the conversation with her about being more strict. The key point here is to create an environment of support and encouragement instead of constant criticism and asking for more.

Hopefully I’ve given you some ideas on how to inspire your wife to try out the WLM approach. What is your sales pitch going to be? For those of you already in a WLM, if you had to start all over again, what would your sales pitch be? Feel free to share so that others can learn or to get feedback on how it sounds.

-Mz Kaylee 

Guided Masturbation

Guided masturbation is an exciting and fun way to exert dominance over your husband. All boys have spent many years masturbating themselves exactly they way the want in order to achieve self-pleasure and orgasm. To suddenly find themselves standing before you naked and masturbating according to your commands is thrilling for them and as they quickly discover, very challenging. 

There are two simple rules he must follow: 1) Follow your orders exactly and 2) Do not orgasm unless given permission. These two rules force him into a strange new position that will no doubt fuck his mind inside and out until it is mush. He is used to stroking any way he wants with the goal of achieving orgasm but now all the dynamics have changed. He must only stroke as instructed and he must not orgasm unless given permission. During this fun game, he will surely experience moments where he wants to stroke faster and harder because that is what is mind and body are telling him to do in order to increase the pleasure and achieve orgasm. However, he will have to force himself to ignore the pent up pleasure and keep stroking lightly and slowly in order to obey you. He will also experience moments where he will want to slow down or stop because it is becoming harder and harder to hold back an orgasm, but he will need to continue stroking in order to obey you.

There will inevitably come a point where one of the 2 rules will have to be broken. Which will one do you think your subhy husband will break? Will he be weak and selfish and give in to the pleasure or will he disobey your commands and stop stroking or slow his stroking, in order to stop the orgasm?  Breaking rule 1 gives him orgasmic pleasure but results in the game ending and a severe punishment. Breaking rule 2, in order to prevent an orgasm, keeps him in the game but shows his weakness and may result in a punishment. Breaking rule 2 may seem like the wiser choice at first, but as the game goes on and on, how much sexual teasing can he handle? Will he even get an orgasm after enduring all the teasing? 

Are you having trouble following or figuring out the right choice? Imagine these conflicts swirling through your head while in a prolonged and heightened aroused state? That is the wonderful mindfuck that guided masturbation creates. The longer the game goes on, the more mush his mind becomes. He grows more mindless and weaker by the minute!

For a guy new to teasing and denial, guided masturbation is a great training tool to teach him self-control and to build his stamina. For the more experienced guys, it is just a great mind fuck and a fun experience for the wife to exert control and spice things up.

I've learned a few things in doing this with my husband and lucky for you , I am going share some tips, tricks, and strategies to make your guided masturbation session out of this world.

Tips, Tricks, and Advice

1.  First, a few basics: Fast strokes and hard strokes (more pressure around his cock) build his arousal quickly. Slow strokes and light strokes slowly build his arousal or keep him at a steady arousal state. Finally, the tip of his cock is very sensitive when he is aroused. Teasing just the tip can be both pleasurable and frustrating for him.

2. Get him to a heightened arousal state quickly. Guided masturbation becomes very fun and challenging for him, when he is very aroused. Many of the stroking techniques I mention below, are much more pleasurable for him when he is fully aroused.

3. Using a variety of strokes drives him wild. There are some strokes that will feel too good for him and he may only last a few seconds. There are other strokes that he can do for a long time. Some of this will of course depend on his state of arousal. Varying the speed and pressure of his strokes will also affect how long or short he lasts. To keep the game exciting and unpredictable for him, change up the type of strokes or the speed every minute or two.

4. To cum or not to cum? It is your decision as to whether or not you allow him to cum. If you keep your subby locked up, imagine how mind blowing it will be to unlock him, force him to masturbate for you for 20 minutes, then lock him up again with out allowing him to cum.  Allowing him to cum is just as fun. You could give him a count down to cum (4-3-2-1), bring him to the edge and then order him to cum, or test his will an keep him stroking until he can not hold back any longer.  If you are feeling cruel, order him to stop stroking as soon as he starts to orgasm.

5. Enhance the teasing with visual and verbal erotic cues. The words you use while he masturbates and what he sees, all add to his aroused and submissive state. Telling him things like 'good boy' or 'you are so weak' add to his submissive state. Adding 'for me' to your commands (such as "stroke slowly for me"), makes it clear that he is obeying you and not masturbating for himself. Visual cues that add excitement include wearing lingerie or a fetish outfit and playing with yourself while he masturbates. Sometimes I'll lower my top for a minute or two so that he can worship my breasts while he strokes and then I'll cover them back up again.

6. Have a punishment ready for disobedience. You may want to let him know in advance what the punishments will be. I like to make the punishment severe for an unauthorized orgasm and mild for disobeying stroke commands because I absolutely do not want unauthorized orgasms. For example, an orgasm without permission will result in confinement to the house for several weeks (no time with his friends) whereas disobeying a command in order to prevent an orgasm will result in corner time or spanking. Each time he disobeys, the corner time or number of spanks increases. Another option is to keep a paddle handy and if he slows down stroking without permission, give him an immediate spank and tell him how weak he is.

7. To keep yourself from having to constantly give orders or guess when he is about to orgasm, give him goals to achieve such as, stroke until you are hard for me, bring yourself to the edge for me, keep yourself on the edge, or squeeze out precum.

8. Have fun. Don't get caught up in knowing all the different stroking techniques. There are many different ways you can have him stroke and the techniques below are just a few examples. You only need one or two to get started and then just tune into his emotions and arousal and have fun. 

Stroking Techniques

Strokes to get him aroused or to "the edge" quickly

1. The Traditional Stroke-Fast: We all know this one. One fist around his cock, stroking up and down. Order him to do it fast and hard to get his arousal going. If he is already aroused, this will get him to the edge fast and he will be begging to orgasm or begging to to stop so that he does not orgasm.

2. Hand-Over-Hand Down Stroke: My husband usually does not last long at all with this one. He uses both hands for this stroke, but sliding each fist downward only, one at time, one after the other. He continues to do this without pausing, applying firm pressure around his cock with each downward stroke. You can also order him to do this with upward strokes only. The upward strokes are a great variety but does not have as strong as an effect on my husband as the downward strokes. To add more pleasure to this stroke, order him to squeeze the head of his cock at the end of each upward stroke.

3. Two-Hand Stroke: This is the same as the traditional stroke, except he uses both hands at the same time, one fist on top of the other, and moving them up and down together. This causes more coverage of his cock and more pressure around his cock, resulting in more pleasure.

4. Fist Hump:  Just like it sounds, he creates a fist and humps it. Instead of moving his fist up and down his cock, he keeps his fist still and humps it. This works great when he is leaking precum because it lubes up his fist, adding to the pleasure. For me, it is entertaining to watch. My husband usually does not last long at all with the fist hump. When he is begging for relief, I like to make him hump really slow. That drives him wild too. Then I will tell him to loosen his fist a bit so that his cock barely touches his fist when he humps. This really blows his mind because he can last longer and even keep himself close to the edge, but he is also tempted to squeeze his fist a little tighter to increase the pleasure. Another fun strategy I use is to have him hump hard until he begs for relief and then order him to stop, only to order him to hump hard again in about 20 seconds. Each time he starts again, it takes less and less time before he begins to beg for release. 

5. The Hot Dog Twist: This is a fun one. Two hands on his cock and he firmly twists them side-to-side in opposite direction - just like he is wringing out a wet towel. This is one to do when his arousal is heightened. Twisting side-to-side is not a normal feeling for guys and so this technique creates strange new pleasures.

6. Stroke and Ball Squeeze: This technique builds his arousal, but seems to do it at a slower pace then the other techniques. It tend to make his precum leak more, probably because he is squeezing it out of his balls. With this stroke he strokes his cock with one hand while lightly squeezing and rubbing his balls with his other hand. Squeezing and rubbing his balls creates additional pleasure sensations compared to just stroking. To make it even more pleasurable, order him to hump his hand while doing it. To tone down the pleasure, have him just rub his balls without stroking his cock.

Strokes to Maintain or Reduce Arousal

7. Traditional Stroke-Slow:  Same as stroke #1 above, but at a slow pace and/or lighter pressure around his cock. With the right speed and pressure, he can stroke endlessly for you without an orgasm. I've heard this referred to by dominant women, as 'Worship Strokes' because he  can stare at his beautiful wife and worship her body with his eyes while he strokes and stays aroused. There are a few fun ways to use this. You can lay or sit in front of him and be entertained watching him worship you. You can pleasure yourself while he worships you, which will surely add to his excitement but will also be pleasurable for you. You can use this stroke to allow him to calm his arousal down if he is getting to close to the edge. It's also fun to make him stroke extra slow after being aroused for a long time. It is very un-natural for a man to stroke very slow so this can be a torturous tease for them.

8. Fist Pulse: I enjoy doing this technique to him myself. It really messes with his mind and tests his will power when he is on the edge of orgasm. I will make a firm fist around his cock and just squeeze lightly. I will often go right into the squeeze when he's begging me to stop stroking to prevent orgasm. Instead of stopping all together, I just stop the stroking and then lightly squeeze. He is literally teetering on the edge of orgasm when I do this, struggling to hold back his orgasm. I will lightly squeeze every 5 to 10 seconds. Sometimes I am barely even moving my fingers, and it drives him wild.  Even just holding a firm grip around his cock without moving, drives him wild when he is on the edge of orgasm. He tells me the firm pressure with no movement is mind blowing because for a few seconds, the slightest of movements by either him or me, would send him over the edge. He mentally has to fight hard not to move and not to orgasm for several seconds, until he comes off the edge.  For the guided masturbation, he is the one who puts his fist around his cock and you can either order him to squeeze each time or you can order him to pulse his hand every few seconds. You can increase or decrease the speed of the pulses, depending on his arousal level.

9. One or Two Fingers Only: Having him stroke up and down using only one or two fingers is a great way to keep him in a steady aroused state. When using two fingers, you can have him put one on each side of his cock or put two fingers together and rub them up and down the side of his cock.

10. Finger Tips Only: Lightly stroking up and down with just his fingertips, causes a continuous pleasure without taking him over the edge. If he is close to the edge, this is a great torturous tease because he can ride the edge and will have to exert willpower to not go too fast or apply too much pressure in order to prevent the orgasm that his body wants so bad. A variation of this is to have him put all his finger tips at the tip of his cock a slowly spread them out over jus the tip of his cock.

11. Balls Only: Order him to lightly rub or squeeze his balls. This is a good one to help him calm down when his arousal is starting to boil over into a potential orgasm. It feels good for him but is usually not enough to send him over the edge and often times brings his arousal down, but not all the way down.

12. Stop!  When all else fails, order him to stop stroking, hands at his sides or behind his back. Give him a minute or two to calm down and then start the self-teasing all over again.

When to Use Guided Masturbation

For fun and to spice things up - Whether you have a WLM or traditional marriage, guided masturbation is a fun activity for both the husband and wife. Guys will enjoy the prolonged erotic tease and being the center of attention of a woman. It is exciting for women too. I find it exciting to watch my husband masturbate and even more exciting when I am in control of it. It is a thrill to push him to the edge and watch him struggle not to orgasm. When he's super aroused, he loses his ability to think and he becomes focused on his masturbation, following my commands, and trying not to orgasm. It is thrilling for me to see this transformation and to watch him obey my commands without thought. He is not the only one that is aroused during this activity :).

Training - It is a great training exercise for someone starting out in orgasm denial. Guided masturbation trains him to hold back his orgasm or know when to ask for permission to orgasm. He learns to edge himself longer and longer without going over the edge. You may encounter failures in which he fails to hold back his orgasm but with each failure, he learns and becomes stronger. Your are also conditioning him to obey your orders without hesitation.  

For females wanting to take control of their man, guided masturbation can be a good starting point to seduce him under your control. In other words, you are training him to be under your control, without him realizing it. Very few guys will turn down the offer for a guided masturbation session, and once they experience it.....well they are sure to want more. Each sessions gives you a little more control over him. When you are ready to take the next step in controlling him,,,,read the subspace section below.

Get him into Subspace - Use guided masturbation to prep him for domination and manipulation. After 15 or 20 minutes, his arousal will be so heightened that his mind will be complete mush and he won't be able to think straight. This is the perfect conditions for domination and manipulation. It is the time to try new kinky things that he might otherwise resist, or get him to promise to do things for you. If I am in the mood for dominating him, I will often start with a nice long cock tease to get him into the obedient submissive frame of mind. Using guided masturbation is one way to do this. Sometimes it is as simple as ordering him to stroke to the edge for me. Once he does that, let the domination begin!

To Learn - What better way to learn about what drives him wild then to experiment with different stroking techniques. Try all different strokes and observe how it affects him. Ask him how each one feels. The best thing about all this, is that you can learn from this and then you can use the stroking techniques on him another time (instead of him stroking). Your strokes will be even more torturous for him because he can not control the speed and pressure. I have learned that the same stroke technique can have varying effects on him depending on how aroused he is and his mood. Be sure to try the techniques more than once as you may get a different reaction sometimes.

I hope you learned a few thigs from this post. If you decide to give it a try, let me know how it goes, and what strokes worked the best.

-Mz Kaylee

 

Submissive Daze

I've learned a lot about the submissive mind over the years. I've become quite good at understanding how to push my husband's hot buttons, knowing what things drive him wild, and anticipating how he will react to various things. Like a well trained Ferrari driver, I can take his arousal from 0 to 60 in seconds and hold him there without letting him spin out of control. Controlling him and getting him to do what I want is second nature to me now. While I may know how to do all this, I still find the submissive mind to be a mystery. The biggest mystery being 'why does he react the way he does? Why does being forced to wear panties turn him into an aroused and docile heap of clay that I can mold any way I want? Why does ordering him to kneel at my feet easily send him into a submissive spiral? I know what these things do to him, but the 'why' is a mystery.  

I'd like to share an excerpt from an e-mail I received from Mary, whom I correspond with regularly. Her e-mail spurred my thoughts in this post. I completely relate to what she describes below, as I experience the same with my husband.

"There is this "thing" it seems. I guess the only way I can say it is the more I demand of him the more he seems to need/desire/attend to me in some weird way. I cannot quite describe this. Sometimes I am a bit tough on him in terms of "chores and tasks". All I can say is it "does something" to him when I am demanding or give him a lot of direction and demands. It is like it "orients him to me" or something. Like the more I direct him the more he needs me or desires me. I know he has a drive to me in general and is very drawn to me sexually - that has always been but "something happens" in this when I demand things or "calmly direct him". It is hard to describe but I totally, totally feel it. 

This is an example. The other night was a nothing night and we were just watching TV. I was going to take a hot shower before bed (I like that!) and it crossed my mind to have him clean the bathroom. At first to be honest I was just thinking of telling him to get out my towels and robe - that is all. But I thought about it and thought it would be nice to have a sparkling bathroom. It was not what you would call "dirty" just not "sparkly". I tend to give him his chores or errands in morning or first thing in general and lay off more in evening unless it is something smaller or personal for me - get me snack or something. But I had him clean (really scrub!) the whole bathroom at about 10pm at night. I kept watching TV while he spent about a half hour or more doing that and then getting my things out. Kaylee, I honestly cannot quite describe it. I think it excites him to task for me but it is more than that. I think it also calms him or something? Is it "not having to think"? Just "do as told"?"

Mary touches on a few of the submissive mysteries. What I find commendable about Mary's example is that on a whim she challenged the norm and exerted strict control and high standards to a simple task in order to tap into her husband’s  submission. This is not easy to do for many women, because it doe not seem intuitive or right. However, when exploring domination, the best way to learn and grow is to step out of your comfort zone and explore the mysteries. For me, part of the thrill of domination, is seeing the mysterious reactions in my husband. It is exciting to push his submissive buttons and know that I am going to have an emotional and erotic impact on him. Perhaps knowing the 'why' is not important. After all, we never think about why the car goes. We just press the pedal and know it is going to go and that is what's most useful to us.

-Mz Kaylee