Tommy

 

1. Who am I (name, sex, approx. age, where you live)
   Tommy

I am 28 years old and live in Upstate NY

2. My position in the relationship (submissive, dominant, or switch? If switch, do you favor one over the other?

Submissive

3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation (Married and in a WLM, not married and in a FLR, not married but seeking a FLR, etc.)? What is status of your WLM (Beginners, Mature, Somewhere in the middle)

 

Kate married me a little over 3 years ago

4.  When did you first discover your submissive/dominant desires?

I have always been submissive to women.  In high school I was bullied by boys and the only friends I had were geeky girls – some of whom turned to be gay.  They teased me sometimes but were sort of accepting. 

5.  Describe how WLM/FLR was introduced into your relationship? Explain your experiences of how you went from discovering submission/domination up to the point of being in a WLM/FLR?

When we met Kate was just over a lesbian relationship.  I was thrilled with the attention I received from a beautiful powerful woman.

6.  Describe your current WLM/FLR situation
    a.       Chores

I am pleased to be a house husband.

    b.       Finances/Money

Kate has a six figure income from her job managing construction projects and takes care of finances.  I get an allowance for groceries and household incidentals.  I work part time waiting tables and have that money for clothes and personal stuff.

    c.       Rules/Protocols

No specific rules or protocols

    d.       Punishment and Discipline

Up until two weeks ago, I was never spanked.  Kate was not interested even though she knew I really wanted a spanking.  Through Strict Julie’s intervention, Kate set me up to get from her Mom.  Her Mom now has spanking rights when Kate is not around and also will give it to me at Kate’s direction.
  

  e.       Chastity/Orgasm Control

I am allowed frequent orgasms.  Kate is not interested in vaginal sex and does not care if I masturbate

    f.        Rituals, Protocols, routines

We are just a typical married couple.  (Except of course roles are reversed.)

    g.       Fetishes or kinks

We are just a typical married couple.

 

7.       How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? How do you act in public?

There is no doubt who is the Head of Household.  I always thought that we were within the normal range until that first spanking.  Mom pulled my pants down in front of a neighbor couple.  I was so embarrassed that they saw that I wore panties that I started crying even before going over her knee.  When I told Kate the next day why I cried so quickly, she simply explained that most people knew what a sissy I was so Clare and Ed were hardly surprised to see my panties.

8.       Do you have kids in the house? If yes, what age group (infant, toddler, teenager, adult)

No

9.       Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house

N/A

10.   What are some of challenges you face in your WLM/FLR?

Just regular stuff. I try to anticipate Kate’s needs and desires before I need to be told

11.   What things do you like the most about your WLM/FLR?

I am loved and cared for by a beautiful, powerful woman.  Growing up, I could never have imagined that. 

12.   How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?

Her Mom is becoming a bigger part of our lives.  Kate was recently promoted at work.  In her new position, she travels two days (one night) a week for site visits.  I stay with Mom.  She treats me as her daughter. My parents were not supportive of who I was so I am grateful to her.  

13.   If there were one or two things you could change about your WLM/FLR or one or two things new you would like to try, what would they be?

I am happy to have Kate decide.

14.   Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR?

Be yourself

15.   Is there anything else you what like to share?

 

We both loved your Happy House Husband post and think that your three elements - submission, structure, and sexual dominance are the key to a happy femdom marriage.