Gary

1. Who am I (name, sex, approx. age, where you live)

Gary
Male, 65, Pennsylvania

2. My position in the relationship (submissive, dominant, or switch? If switch, do you favor one overthe other?

Submissive

3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation (Married and in a WLM, not married and in a FLR, not married but seeking a FLR, etc.)? What is status of your WLM (Beginners, Mature, Somewhere in the middle)?

Married in a WLM for 1+ years. Beginners

4. When did you first discover your submissive/dominant desires?

About 2 years ago I began to understand my submissive desires. I was submissive my entire life but either didn't understand it or when I started to think maybe I was submissive I didn't want to be. The stereotype that I saw submissive men in I didn't want to be.

5. Describe how WLM/FLR was introduced into your relationship? Explain your experiences of how you went from discovering submission/domination up to the point of being in a WLM/FLR?

About a year and a half ago I approached my wife about starting a WLM. I am retired but my wife works part time. I told her that her days off should be just that, days off to do whatever she wants. She was very open to it. But about 2 years ago I started reading many different web sites, but 2 really changed the light I saw submissive men in. They were yours (Femdom Think Tank) and Mrs. Scarlet Blog. They showed me submissive men were not all like the stereotypes I thought they were. I then knew I was submissive and wanted to live that type of lifestyle. That's when I approached my wife about it. We still have a long way to go. At times it like pushing rope uphill.

6. Describe your current WLM/FLR situation

a. Chores I do most of the household chores inside and out. My wife is trying to get interested in some hobbies. Just started to keep her car filled with gas. Yard work, cooking and grocery shopping.

b. Finances/Money No change here. I've always paid the bills. My wife doesn't show any interest in taking over the finances, yet!

c. Rules/Protocols We have some rules/protocols. The days my wife works I get up to make her lunch for work, fix her drink to take, a breakfast sandwich and if it's below 32 degrees outside to get her car out of the garage, warm it up, turn on the heated seat and have her favorite Sirius radio station playing. My wife has daily pills she needs to take and it's my job to have them ready to take. Clean towel and wash cloth ready for her shower. Full roll of TP always. Kitchen has to be tidied up at the end of every day.

d. Punishment and Discipline This is starting to change in this area. Last week I was sent to the store to pick up a few things and told to take my phone in case she needs to add anything. Well I forgot my phone and my wife tried to reach me but couldn't. When I got home, she said you forgot your phone and I tried to reach you but couldn't. That makes me mad. You have to be
punished. We have a cane but was never used, but it was that day. Wasn't hard, but it was a start.

e. Chastity/Orgasm Control No chastity device used. I cannot wear one for very long before the pain is too much and not a good candidate for a piercing so on the honor system. Last time I went 3 months between orgasms.

f. Rituals, Protocols, routines Nightly foot and leg messages. Bath are run with lit candles, glass of wine, magazine or book, servants bell, wash cloth and towel and sometimes music.

g. Fetishes or kinks
Sleep naked. Have not introduced much fetishes or kinks yet. We do have a fully equipped dungeon in our basement but it gets very little use. We use to play Mistress/slaves games back in the 90's so I built the dungeon. I would like to get more use out of it. I feel we need to add more fetishes and kinks.

7. How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? How do you act in public?

Very private about it. My wife recently said how much she would like to help other women start a WLM., but has a lot to learn herself.

8. Do you have kids in the house? If yes, what age group (infant, toddler, teenager, adult)

No kids.

9. Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house

N/A

10. What are some of challenges you face in your WLM/FLR?

My wife is not naturally dominate so it's hard for her to stay in dominate mode. She is not consistent with her dominance. Also, I think when I do all these nice things for her, she wants to do nice things for me. But that doesn't work for me. I want her to be selfish.

11. What things do you like the most about your WLM/FLR?

Well as a submissive male and my wife is being a dominate woman it doesn't get any better. We both get our needs met. When she hits my submissive buttons, I see my wife as a goddess. We are more close and loving now than before, if that was possible.

12. How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?

We are much closer to each other. We are both happier. My wife really enjoys being in charge. An example, my wife saw this pandemic coming before it ever reached the US. She sent me to Sam’s Club to fill our pantry before everyone else starting hording.

13. If there were one or two things you could change about your WLM/FLR or one or two things new you would like to try, what would they be?

My wife would be more at ease with her dominance. More kink and sexual things.

14. Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR?

Start slow, small steps. But with my wife, at least, I have to keep pressure on to keep moving forward, otherwise things more backwards. Remember you have been fantasizing about this for a long time, but she hasn't been. Do not show her things you want that would shock her. Baby steps. Once she is hooked on the pampering and housework you do, she will not want to go back to the old way.

15. Is there anything else you what like to share
If you are a submissive man and want this type of lifestyle, just talk with your wife or girlfriend. What is the worst that can happen...she will say no. But she may be interested if presented in a way that does't shock her. Be empathetic, slow and nothing crazy. Tell yourself that this is going to be a long process.