Saturday, October 16, 2021

Topic Ideas?


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I have written about so many topics related to Wife Led Marriage over the last few years. I am honestly running out of ideas of things to post.  What are some topics that you all would like to hear about?


I would love to pose a question to everyone and have people submit opinion posts providing different view points to answer the question.  What are some good questions that can be posed that would generate a good discussion and different opinions?

Monday, October 11, 2021

WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?

There are several great insights found in Evan's profile, which I recently published in the profile pages of my blog.  One item that I'd like to mention is the sentence highlighted below in purple. 

How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?

Worlds better. Instead of constantly complaining about what I wish I could have, I've learned to accept my role with joy and humility. Earlier, she would try to accommodate me by giving me what I thought I wanted, but eventually she figured out that what I really wanted was to be forced to do whatever *she* wanted.

This is a challenge for many couples new to WLM. Notice that there are two distinct issues embedded in Evan's statement: 1) the wife catering solely to his submissive desires, and 2) the "what I thought I wanted" issue. So many guys think they know what they want when it comes to domination and submission, but really do not understand what exactly they want or need. It is quite a dilemma because when you think you know it all, it becomes very difficult to see the truth and change. The end result of not figuring out the right path, is that submission is unfulfilling to the husband (he's constantly searching for the next "fix") and the wife becomes tired and disengaged.

Evan is very fortunate that both he and his wife figured out that him serving her needs and desires is the true path to happiness and fulfillment in a WLM.

Thoughts?

-Mz Kaylee

Monday, October 4, 2021

House Husband

When I came downstairs in the morning, there was Thomas, in the kitchen, barefoot and in his robe, wiping down the counter. My coffee and breakfast were made and both were packed in "to-go" containers sitting next to my lunch bag- all ready for me to take to work. He had already loaded my work bag into my car. He greeted me with a cheerful "good morning Goddess." How wonderful for me. He is so well trained. This is how my week day mornings start every day.

I couldn't help but think of how much Thomas is like the 1950s housewife. He is my housewife....err...I mean house husband. Except that I think the house husband is an improvement over the housewife.  Who say men can not do chores? They just need proper training. Not only does he do chores, but he takes care of the house, yard, and cars. On top of all that he holds a job, which is not something the 1950s housewife did. Ladies, you need to rethink the role of your husband in the marriage and expect more of him!

Below is a list that has been published from a 1950s High School Home Economic textbook on hoe to be a good house wife. I chuckled a little bit reading some of these, but I see many of these applying to my house husband.

1. Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal — on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

3. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.

4. Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

5. Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.

6. Some Don’ts: Don’t greet him with problems or complaints. Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.

7. Make him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

8. Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

9. Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

10. The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.

Thursday, September 30, 2021

Devotion Update

So we had one of our devotion nights the other day. I had my husband get naked and put on a studded collar and cuffs. I've not yet gotten him the devotion outfit that I described in my earlier post. For now I am satisfied with the basic slave look. His truth that he had to repeat while changing and several times during the evening was, "I am your slave husband now and forever."

I was delighted and amused to see that he had an erection simply from changing into his slave attire and repeating his truth. He spent a few minutes kissing my feet then I had him clean out and organize the closet in our extra bedroom that has collected a lot of clutter over the years. He did a fantastic job with this.

Next I had him get on all fours in front of the couch and I used him as a footstool while I read a book. I had him alternate between being on all fours and laying on his back so that I could rest my feet on his face or chest. His cock remained erect the entire time! Once done reading I teased his cock while he was still on all fours. I find this to be a great position for teasing because I can access his boy bits from both underneath and behind, which turns him to putty in my hands. I brought him to the edge of orgasm several times and had him begging for orgasm. This got me aroused too so I ordered onto his back on the floor. Then I sat on top of his face and queened him, with my legs pinning down his arms. I love this position because he is helpless beneath me and I can control the pace and can control exactly where he licks me. I also get a bit of a power rush by suffocating him with my sex. I have become very comfortable with riding his face hard when I queen him. It feels amazing for me and it drives him wild too! 

After my orgasm, he thanks me profusely for queening him because it is one of his favorite ways to worship me. I love that! Next, I order him to draw me a bath. He bathes me, dries me off, and then it is into the bedroom for a massage. Before massaging each foot, he kisses it and recites his truth. This is repeated for my legs, arms, calves, back, and ass. After he is done massaging me, he is trained to kneel by the bed until I release him. I lay for several minutes, enjoying the relaxation and peacefulness. Then I order him to fetch my pajamas. His cock is still hard and even a bit drippy. I hold his cock while he dresses me in my pajamas. He recites his truth three more times for me and then I tell him he can change out of his slave outfit and finish with his end of night chores. I happily drift off to sleep. It was a wonderful night of devotion.

I am happy to say that my husband's devotion mindset remains strong. He continues to keep the house clean without much direction from me and regularly checks in with me to see if there are other things he can do for me. I am lucky to have a wonderful devoted submissive husband and the devotion nights become his reward for his unfailing devotion to me. If you are not submissive or a new dominant to the lifestyle, this may be hard to understand. On the surface, what I described above appears to be all about me; but if you are submissive, you know that my devotion night is designed to bring my husband intense mind blowing submissive pleasures that he craves. It is reward for him.

-Mz Kaylee




Thursday, September 23, 2021

The Power and Pleasure of ‘No’

 

‘No’ is a powerful word. When used it is an act of authority or an act of defiance. It is a word that almost always creates emotion and reaction in others.  It can make someone stressed, angry, happy, or even excited. For the dominant Female, ‘No’ should be viewed as a tool to use in exerting her control over her submissive partner.

My favorite use of the word is when Thomas asks for permission to orgasm. He only asks this question when he is fully-aroused and on the verge orgasm. For him to reach that point, he has spent several minutes enjoying the pleasure of my teasing, or if he is lucky, the pleasure of being inside of me. He has also spent the last part of those minutes struggling not to cum and struggling in his mind whether to ask for permission to orgasm or to try to hold onto the pleasure for a few seconds longer. When he has reached the point where he asks (or sometimes begs) for permission to orgasm, I know he is at his wits end and desperate for release and it so powerful and fun to simply say ‘No.’ One would think this response results in disappointment and frustration. Not in the case of my husband…well maybe sometimes that is the result, but most times the denial from me ignites his arousal even more and his body tenses and he struggles hard not to orgasm even though I have stopped touching him. Such fun and excitement for the both us.  I do believe Thomas enjoys the ‘No’ more than the ‘Yes.’ I sure hope so because he does not get many yes’s!

There are many obvious situations in which the dominant wife uses ‘No.’ You know those times- when he is whining, trying to get out of chores, or just asking stupid questions. No! No! and No! Each time you tell him ‘No,’ you are exerting your authority and tapping into his submission. I recommend that as the dominant partner, you purposely tell your husband ‘No’ from time to time, just to exert your power over him. For example, my husband needs to ask permission to go out with his friends. If he is not in good standing with me, he pretty much knows the answer is going to be no. It’s actually quite cute when he asks me half heartedly because he knows what I am going to say. That is power!  However, there are also times when he is in good standing and I still say ‘No’ simply to exert my power and remind him of his place at my feet. This brings disappointment for him and maybe even a twinge of anger but he knows not to react negatively or there will be consequences. This is all part of the deal and commitment he agreed to when he asked me to take control of him so long ago. Using the ‘No’ like this is, every now and then, is healthy and beneficial to the WLM. It reinforces your power over him and brings reality to his submission, which brings out deep submissive emotions within him. Some guys will feel the submissive rush instantly and may even get aroused on the spot. Other guys may experience feelings of anger but once the anger subsides, those submissive emotions arise after it sinks in that they are being controlled and dominated. Remember ladies, submissive guys crave the feeling of being controlled and dominated. The more real it is, the more exciting and long-lasting the rush. Telling them ‘No,’ making them work extra hard for you, and putting them under stress ever now and then, brings out their deep submissive emotions.

‘No’ can also be fun and sexy in the bedroom. Having him beg to pleasure you over and over again while you tell him no, can be fun. We all know that when you forbid something from someone, it makes them want it more. When, or if, you say ‘Yes,’ he will be so eager to please you. What’s even more fun is to tell him ‘No’ and then redirect him to something else.  For example, if he asks, “may I please lick your nipples,’ you can reply, ‘No, but you can get on your knees and kiss my feet.’ Once he complies, what I like to do is spout of additional orders before he can gather his thoughts. ‘good boy…..keep kissing them….put your hands behind your back…..that’s it….now kiss my thighs….” Using this technique is a great way to take complete control of him and keep him focused purely on pleasing you.

I hope this article has been thought provoking for you.  I challenge to tell your husband ‘No’ tonight and redirect him to serving you.  Please share his reaction and how things went.

-Mz Kaylee.

Tuesday, September 14, 2021

"Alone Time" For Couples

I believe that it is very important and beneficial for couples to spend quality alone time together. By this I mean time doing activities and talking with each other without kids, family, or friends present. The concept sounds simple, but many couples fail to do this. I am sure you know some people who never even transition into the married life after the say "I Do."  These are the ones that continue to maintain active social lives and hobbies separate from their spouse and put a higher value on those activities then spending time with their spouse. Those relationships are destined for failure unless something changes. 

Even those who start with great intentions and a love for doing things together can fall into the traps of being consumed by their job, consumed with raising kids, or consumed with a passionate hobby. Those are all very important aspects of life, but if you focus too much on one aspect or you neglect an important aspect of your life, then your life becomes out of balance. Sadly, often times a long-term consequence of this imbalance, is that a couple that was once in love, finds themselves drifting apart from each other and potentially on the verge of divorce years later. 

Life gets busy. That is inevitable. That is why it is important to plan time together so that you can stay connected and experience life together or re-connect as a couple and fall in love with each other all over again. A great benefit of the Wife Led Marriage (WLM) lifestyle, is that it creates many opportunities for alone time. My husband and I have many intimate times together on a weekly basis such as when he massages me or gives me a bath, when I do weekly reviews of his performance, or when he pleasures me. These are special times that we connect on a very intimate level and bond with each other. Prior to our WLM, we spent much less time on these types of activities. I've really enjoyed how the WLM has created these special moments for us and I feel strongly that it has brought us closer together and strengthened our marriage.

In addition to those moments, we also plan several getaways with each other each year. This is something that we did both pre and post WLM. When the kids were younger we would get a baby sitter for the weekend. These are typically overnight trips or long weekend trips. The types of getaways have ranged from a night at a nearby bed and breakfast to a weekend cruise. Most times we stayed within a few hours drive from home and explored the local town or went to a festival. No friends and no family- just us two. We also made it a point to be inward focused with each other during the getaway. In other words, we were not interested in socializing with others. We still engaged with people we encountered, but we kept it to a minimum. Yes, this was anti-social, but the point of the getaway was to connect with each other. 

On these trips, I pack our "toys" and some fetish gear and this always excites Thomas. Sometimes we use them and sometimes we don't. It all depended on my mood. I will confess that most times my inhibitions disappear and my inner dominatrix comes out on these trips. When I am away from home, it is easy to destress, forget about real life, and step into a fantasy world. On these getaways I am often pushing my sexual limits more than I am pushing his. It was on one of these trips that I first demanded that Thomas worship my ass with his tongue. That was so out of character for me at the time, but now it is something I do regularly. Thinking back over the years, I've realized that my comfort level and confidence in being dominant increased tremendously after these trips and so they have played an important part in shaping our WLM.

Although the getaways for us are sexually charged and concentrated on my authority and control over him, they are also an enjoyable time of hanging out together doing fun 'normal' activities. I find that on these trips we reconnect with each other on a deep intimate way, and we remember all the wonderful things about each other that made us fall in love so many years ago.

Whether you are in a traditional marriage or a WLM, I encourage you to do activities together and plan regular alone time together, including overnight getaways. It is so important to carve out time for each other no matter how busy life becomes.

-Mz Kaylee


 


Sunday, September 5, 2021

Comment Issues

 It has come to my attention that some of you are having issues with commenting. The issues seems to be specific to those not posting under a Google Account. I have learned that this issue is probably tied to cookie tracking.  If you are posting under anonymous or using a generic name instead of your google account, then you need to allow for cookies to be tracked and saved. You can adjust this setting under your browser property settings, under the privacy and security menu.

Hope this helps and I look forward to reading your comments!


-Mz Kaylee