Who am I (name, sex, approx. age, where you live)
Richard
35 yr old Male Northeast US
2. My position in the relationship (submissive, dominant, or switch? If switch, do you favor one over the other?
(Submissive)
3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation (Married and in a WLM, not married and in a FLR, not married but seeking a FLR, etc.)? What is status of your WLM (Beginners, Mature, Somewhere in the middle)
3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation (Married and in a WLM, not married and in a FLR, not married but seeking a FLR, etc.)? What is status of your WLM (Beginners, Mature, Somewhere in the middle)
Married 6 years in a newly redefined WLM. We are at the beginning and are currently under a new 1 year contract that began April 5, 2020.
4. When did you first discover your submissive/dominant desires?
High School, I had a mean dominant GF whom belittled me at times. I had a very hard time getting over her.
5. Describe how WLM/FLR was introduced into your relationship? Explain your experiences of how you went from discovering submission/domination up to the point of being in a WLM/FLR?
Well I am the luckiest man on the planet. My wife is very introverted but deep down kinky. She used a strap on our honeymoon for goodness sake. However, with me the only one working, I took a more paternal role in our relationship during the early infant years of our 2 children. Although I definitely wish we had started this earlier, I feel these years were important for us to learn what it was like with me in control. (Not as good as now).
6. Describe your current WLM/FLR situation
a. Chores- I do as much of the house work as time allows. My wife is a stay at home mom right now. I wake up first and make sure the kids are fed. I make her coffee and bring it to her in bed and usually from there head to work. After work, I finish whatever laundry she started and make dinner usually, unless she wants to. I give the kids a bath and we brush their teeth together. I have done this even prior to our contract.
b. Finances/Money- All me, I recently left my full time job to purchase a small business. We talked about this briefly but she is not a numbers girl. For right now we both agreed I should maintain this. However, I did share your and Thomas’ story of when you took over.
c. Rules/Protocols. We have a small set in place now but I would like more.
d. Punishment and Discipline. So far, the only punishment or discipline is controlled with my chastity cage. We are going to try the every two week discipline session after our first two weeks.
e. Chastity/Orgasm Control- I brought this to my wife for New Years and we have been testing them since. She has had both keys but it was somewhat relaxed at times. However, under the new contract, she found I was still looking at porn and touching, I asked her last night when I would get to try freedom again, she responded maybe in 3 or 4 months if ever. I definitely think this was the ticket for her, having that power.
f. Rituals, Protocols, routines. We just this week started a ritual of me worshipping her every night and thanking her for allowing me to serve, obey and worship her.
a. Chores- I do as much of the house work as time allows. My wife is a stay at home mom right now. I wake up first and make sure the kids are fed. I make her coffee and bring it to her in bed and usually from there head to work. After work, I finish whatever laundry she started and make dinner usually, unless she wants to. I give the kids a bath and we brush their teeth together. I have done this even prior to our contract.
b. Finances/Money- All me, I recently left my full time job to purchase a small business. We talked about this briefly but she is not a numbers girl. For right now we both agreed I should maintain this. However, I did share your and Thomas’ story of when you took over.
c. Rules/Protocols. We have a small set in place now but I would like more.
d. Punishment and Discipline. So far, the only punishment or discipline is controlled with my chastity cage. We are going to try the every two week discipline session after our first two weeks.
e. Chastity/Orgasm Control- I brought this to my wife for New Years and we have been testing them since. She has had both keys but it was somewhat relaxed at times. However, under the new contract, she found I was still looking at porn and touching, I asked her last night when I would get to try freedom again, she responded maybe in 3 or 4 months if ever. I definitely think this was the ticket for her, having that power.
f. Rituals, Protocols, routines. We just this week started a ritual of me worshipping her every night and thanking her for allowing me to serve, obey and worship her.
g. Fetishes or kinks- Just like most guys I have a list. I have a stocking/nylon fetish and overall just a kinky guy. I enjoy the idea on being dominated anally but we have only done it twice.
7. How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? How do you act in public? In public I am very dominant more or less due to work and business. My wife is very introverted and allows me to do most of the talking. This is one area I would like to see her grow.
7. How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? How do you act in public? In public I am very dominant more or less due to work and business. My wife is very introverted and allows me to do most of the talking. This is one area I would like to see her grow.
8. Do you have kids in the house? If yes, what age group (infant, toddler, teenager, adult) 2 awesome children 5yr and 4yr.
9. Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house. This creates a challenge suppressing it at times. You need to set clear expectations and rules in this area. My wife was very big on their lives being unchanged .
9. Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house. This creates a challenge suppressing it at times. You need to set clear expectations and rules in this area. My wife was very big on their lives being unchanged .
10. What are some of challenges you face in your WLM/FLR? The most challenging thing was explaining all if this to my wife. However, she was amazing. She is not into the crossdressing aspect (yet), so we defined a clear set of hard limits. We both always agreed no matter what we do, only the two of us. No cuckolding or cheating. I understand it, however, we have a strong moral bond between the two of us that should never be broken.
11. What things do you like the most about your WLM/FLR? I love less fights. One thing we adopted early was her role as the boss and the way I need to treat her. I first brought it to her in the Queen, Knight metaphor where I needed to treat her like my queen. I have never raised my voice to her and never argue. That is since we started this.
12. How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?
Our story is great. We met very young, were very good friends in HS and then went to the same college. I had the same HS girlfriend my first year of college but she was still 10 hours away. My wife and I hung out everyday our freshmen year but never dated. We lost each other the next 4 years of college, seeing each other every now and then. We both graduated, returned home and fell in love. Funny thing she ended up chasing me. But now it’s me chasing her forever.
12. How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?
Our story is great. We met very young, were very good friends in HS and then went to the same college. I had the same HS girlfriend my first year of college but she was still 10 hours away. My wife and I hung out everyday our freshmen year but never dated. We lost each other the next 4 years of college, seeing each other every now and then. We both graduated, returned home and fell in love. Funny thing she ended up chasing me. But now it’s me chasing her forever.
13. If there were one or two things you could change about your WLM/FLR or one or two things new you would like to try, what would they be?
At this time I would not change anything. I am very happy my wife has allowed me to open up to her about my sexual fantasies. I would love for her to one day take over the finances because I do waste a lot. As far as something new to try, I would like for her to make me do something embarrassing or naked. I have a funny thing about being naked in front of anyone but my wife so this may get the blood flowing.
14. Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR?
14. Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR?
Absolutely be as open an honest as you can from the beginning. However do be careful what you chose to share at what time. It takes a long time until your wife or GF will be ready for the crazy Sex Fantasies list I just handed mine. The crazy part is I may never experience one of them and that is ok. It feels great to get them out there.
15. Is there anything else you what like to share
15. Is there anything else you what like to share
Yes, do not ever be afraid to be who you are. I have opened up to my wife about many fantasies that may gross some out, but I hope it helps her understand some of the crazy ideas that come through males heads.
One of the best worst rules we have is no porn. I am 35 and have looked at porn probably everyday for the last 20 years. This has been the hardest pill to swallow. However, everyday that passes I feel less and less stressed about the crazy things that used to pop in my head.
Great read. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you think are the next steps for you and her?
Mike, honestly I am not sure. I have been in control and even was asking for more control up to 6 months ago until I quit my job. So every piece of control she takes back is amazing. I sometimes try to tell her kind of how to act/talk and this obviously is backwards and she hates it. I honestly don't want to move to fast. I like the little steps we have taken so far because it has been a huge adjustment. I mastebated everyday sometimes twice before this year and that has been the hardest part.
ReplyDeleteThat's great.
ReplyDeleteWe're going slowly as well. That's good as it gives way to settle in to what you both like and don't, as it's not forced or rushed. The masturbating is tough but gets easier after a few months. Keep up the good work.