Kratz Leatherman

 

FEMDOM THINK TANK PROFILE

1. Who am I (name, sex, approx. age, where you live)
kratz Leatherman (Cosmiccowboy)

Male, 69, Manchester, NH

2. My position in the relationship (submissive, dominant, or switch? If switch, do you favor one over the other?

I am the submissive in our relationship, though that has not always been the case.

3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation (Married and in a WLM, not married and in a FLR, not married but seeking a FLR, etc.)? What is status of your WLM (Beginners, Mature, Somewhere in the middle)

My wife and I have been happily married for 31+ years. We started on this journey last spring to put together a WLM. So we are somewhere in the middle, though closer to beginners.

4.  When did you first discover your submissive/dominant desires?

Though wanting to have a FemDom relationship has been on my mind for the last 20+ years when I realized I needed to be chastised, it has not been possible until last year after I was forced to retire in 18’ due to a bad back. It has been more difficult because my wife has been very vanilla until recently.

5.  Describe how WLM/FLR was introduced into your relationship? Explain your experiences of how you went from discovering submission/domination up to the point of being in a WLM/FLR?
I have been the primary source of information due to my fascination with FLR/WLMs through the usual femdom and related sites. I spent many hours looking for material to masturbate to. My wife tolerated this behavior for way too long, but never knew what to do. Eventually, I stumbled on to an FLR site or blog, and I knew this was where we had to go. This was our answer. We are very open about most things, yet had grown into another rut where we weren’t talking sexually. We have spent many hours discussing WLMs, my need to be chastised, and my desire to experience an FLR/WLM.

6.  Describe your current WLM/FLR situation

    a.       Chores: I now do all the laundry, vacuuming, dishes, sweep and wash kitchen floor, clean bathroom, make bed, cook many meals, and a couple personal services, but my wife has not taken advantage of most of them.

    b.       Finances/Money: We share financial responsibilities. I don’t anticipate that changing because I am better with some aspects of our finances; my wife other aspects. Although, the prospect of being so dependent on my wife for money, needing her approval for any purchases is, on the one hand erotic and arousing, on the other rather scary and threatening.

    c.       Rules/Protocols: Though we have rules I must follow, and they are added to now and then, we’re only in the formative stage of our WLM. Mostly due to my wife’s reluctance and lack of confidence in herself. She is making progress and is dedicated to making our WLM work. In fact, she makes me shiver sometimes as she won’t tell what she’s planning.

    d.       Punishment and Discipline: To aid in helping my wife gain confidence in her abilities, I have the same attitude as LadyLocksLuv husband, who won’t resist when he needs to be tied down, or otherwise confront her. I have always reinforced what she says and does, so she knows she is on the right track. I have always reinforced the idea that there is no right or wrong way to have an FLR/WLM. She hasn’t done much with discipline, but she is learning how to punish me.  This has been extremely difficult for her because of her deep love for me. She just hadn’t been able to spank me with any degree of lasting pain.

By divorcing herself from the spanking, she was able to deliver “meaningful punishment”.

    f.        Rituals, Protocols, routines: We haven’t established much of these. I must serve her coffee naked in the morning. I open her door and must stay with her when shopping. Bedtime is set for Midnight and going over means bedtime is reduced by each hour, or portion over.
One protocol is how Goddess lets me know she has gone into “Active WLM”. She will say, “Boy” before saying what she needs to say. Usually, she does this because I have mis-spoken, raised my voice to her, or otherwise said or done something she doesn’t like.

Goddess has started using cornertime.

    g.       Fetishes or kinks: Not sure. Being treated like a dog, caged, restrictions of talking, cuckolding(but never done in reality), chastity (to be chastised within next 3 weeks

7.       How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? How do you act in public?  

Aside from a couple people online, who aren’t local, no one knows. Goddess may do a couple subtle signals, or telling me to not move from where I am We can be at a family event, and I will behave as if we’re at home, getting her drinks, food. Generally waiting on her. So, for me, our WLM is 24/7.

8.       Do you have kids in the house? If yes, what age group (infant, toddler, teenager, adult)  

No other people.

9.       Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house
N/A

10.   What are some of challenges you face in your WLM/FLR?

Our challenges are my MS, diabetes, mobility. Compared to others, my biggest challenge with MS is fatigue, so my wife takes that into consideration when assigning chores or other things that fatigue could make difficult to perform.

My wife’s challenges are her weight and digestive issues. Living in an apt. means we have to be careful of being too loud when being punished.

11. What things do you like the most about your WLM/FLR? 

We’re living our WLM, and are in and out of it depending on my fatigue, my wife, maybe family events. I find myself being very satisfied when doing chores, particularly while Goddess is sitting and reading, or resting, or other activity.  I sometimes find myself not feeling the arousal/excitement I feel when looking at FLR photos, then suddenly realize that where once I was looking into the picture, I am now the male in the picture. I smile and am happy again. I really want this to succeed because it can mean much more sexual gratification for my wife, and give her control over me; a toy she can play with.

FLRs represents a more gentle approach to female domination without the negative connotations.

12.   How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR? 

Prior to the start of our WLM, though we were still avidly in love, we hadn’t had a sexual relationship for some years. I wanted that to change. Just the talking about FLRs and different parts of it, especially my submission to my Goddess, lead to more interesting times. It wasn’t easy talking to her about FLR’s as I didn’t want to push her away, so could only talk so much. I am not naturally submissive, though I have been subservient to Goddess for many years. So, a WLM was just a logical extension.

I think I will learn to be more submissive, less argumentative and quieter. I think it will make my wife more assertive, not that she wasn’t as an RN.  One advantage we have is living in an apt, so we don’t have outdoor chores to do. That is also a downside as we have limited space.

13.   If there were one or two things you could change about your WLM/FLR or one or two things new you would like to try, what would they be? 
For my wife to have become more confident sooner and more in charge. I could use a good dose of a professional Disciplinarian/Dominatrix to Fastlane my submission. L would like to try cleaning a pussy that’s just finished peeing, being in deeper service to my Goddess, but that is not possible. Also, licking her asshole, but alas that isn’t possible either.

14.   Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR?

I think the scariest part of an FLR/WLM is the possibility of going too far. I’ve read a few FLR novels where the wife become increasingly harsh, then cruel with subsequent loss of respect for her husband and finally loss of the marriage. There is no rule as to what an FLR/WLM should be. It’s what you make of it. This is for both of you, in different ways.


15.   Is there anything else you would like to share?

We’re just starting out. We are learning, and have a lot more to learn than we have learned so far, but we love each other intensely, and this is a unique journey, unlike any we’ve taken before, with many twists and turns.  I don’t know how long we can go on this journey, but it’s the journey, not the destination. I don’t even know what that would be.