walt (SW)

1. Who am I (name, sex, approx. age, where you live)

walt also sw 

Male

Mid 60’s

Indiana

2. My position in the relationship

Submissive/slave

3. What is your current marriage status and WLM/FLR situation?

Married in WLM

What is status of your WLM?

Mature

4.  When did you first discover your submissive/dominant desires?

Looking back I now know I have always been submissive but the wake up moment came when I saw a picture in a Playboy Magazine of a dominatrix standing beside a spanking bench with a paddle in her hand. At that moment my relationship focus made a dramatic shift.

5.  Describe how WLM/FLR was introduced into your relationship?

Tough question. WLM was introduced slowly, very slowly with me giving my wife Elise Sutton’s “The Femdom Experience” to read. From that we talked and talked and after a while began taking small steps to our WLM relationship which we now call our Queen Led Marriage (QLM)

Explain your experiences of how you went from discovering submission/domination up to the point of being in a WLM/FLR?

By taking small consistent steps.

6.  Describe your current WLM/FLR situation

    a.       Chores

I am responsible for all household chores with the exception of all of the cooking as my Queen enjoys cooking dinner - it’s her hobby and she’s a great cook - and washing her clothes. She puts her clothes in the washer and then I’m responsible for drying, ironing, folding and putting them away. Cleaning the house, making the bed, picking up are all my responsibilities.

    b.       Finances/Money

My wife controls all financial matters. I receive a weekly allowance.

    c.       Rules/Protocols

My wife in the morning is to always be addressed as My Queen.

I am to always be in my slave suit in the morning(naked and collared).

Do exactly what my Queen wishes.

    d.       Punishment and Discipline

I am paddled severely when I reach 20 demerits.

    e.       Chastity/Orgasm Control

Kept in chastity almost 24/7.

    f.        Rituals, Protocols, routines

Every morning I wake up at 5:00 walk and feed the dog. I then strip except for my chastity cage and put on my “slave suit.”Then I empty the dishwasher, make the coffee, clean up the kitchen and if there are any clothes in the laundry I begin folding and ironing them. When my Queen wakes up I immediately report to the bedroom and give her her morning massage. After her massage I bring her her morning coffee then straighten her bathroom and lay out fresh towels. When I have finished those tasks my Queen is normally ready for her second cup of coffee which I bring to her. After delivering her coffee I stand at attention and ask my Queen what she would like for breakfast. After she tells me I make her breakfast and bring it to her while she lies in bed. I then remain standing at attention beside her bed while she explains to me what jobs I have for the day and what she expects me to accomplish that day. It’s during this time she reviews my performance from the day before and discusses any demerits I need to record. The demerits are kept in a small notebook and when a total of 20 are recorded I am told to bring her the paddle and “assume the position.” Early in our QLM demerits came frequently but the paddlings were so unpleasant i refocused my efforts and now I am paddled normally only a couple times a year (I have 17 demerits at the time of this writing). After she has discussed her expectations and my prior day’s performance I remove the breakfast dishes, put them in the dishwasher and wait for my Queen to take her bath at which time I make her bed, and straighten her bedroom. When that task is finished I am allowed to get dressed and prepare for my day.

    g.       Fetishes or kinks

I do have a fetish about being pegged by my Queen but I don’t believe that will ever happen.

7.       How public is your WLM/FLR – do others know about it? How do you act in public?

Our QLM remains private with the exception of possibly one good friend of my Queen’s. I’m not certain if she has told her or not and I can’t ask because I may earn a demerit.

In public I am expected to act like a gentleman to my Queen- open doors, carry her packages, assist her with her chair, ask to be excused and always ask her permission.

8.       Do you have kids in the house? If yes, what age group (infant, toddler, teenager, adult)

No the kids they are all grown.

9.       Describe how the WLM/FLR works with kids in the house

Not applicable.

10.   What are some of challenges you face in your WLM/FLR?

To keep on keeping on. Like everything there are days when you’d rather not but that’s not an option and after I think about it I’m glad it isn’t.

11.   What things do you like the most about your WLM/FLR?

I absolutely love my Queen’s control over me.

12.   How have things evolved or changed with you and as a couple in your WLM/FLR over time since starting the WLM/FLR? How does this compare to how you were prior to the WLM/FLR?

We both are comfortable with our reversed roles with the Queen leading and her slave following. That comfortable level took us sometime to find.

13.   If there were one or two things you could change about your WLM/FLR or one or two things new you would like to try, what would they be?

As I mentioned before I would like to try pegging but I realize that most likely will never happen. The other thing I would be interested in would be to find another couple practicing the same dynamic, but I’m also doubtful that will happen.

14.   Do you have any advice for others who are starting out in a WLM/FLR?

Commit, take it slow and enjoy the ride.

15.   Is there anything else you what like to share?

For the submissive I’ve found i needed to recognize my wife was superior in every way.