Maintaining My Authority and Dominance When We Are Apart

There are times throughout the year when Thomas and I spend a night or a few nights apart from each other.  This could be due to business travel, me visiting my sister, or even a weekend away with the girls (or him with the guys).  When we are apart from each other overnight I have a few ground rules for him and I usually also have a list of tasks for him to do.  I do this because I want him to feel my presence and my authority even when I am not there.  I want him focused on me.  It also helps to keep him out of trouble.  Even the most loyal husbands can stray when put into a tempting situation.  Thomas has told me that he enjoys the rules and tasks that I give him.  It keeps him from getting lonely and he enjoys staying focused on me and being under my control.

I choose to always have him in panties when we are apart.  Panties have a different feel than his normal underwear and I want him to notice that throughout the day as a subtle reminder of his submission.  If he is traveling I will pack his bag and choose the panties for him to wear. Sometimes I will surprise him with a new pair.  I will also lay a pair out the day of his travel for him to wear.  If he is home and I am away, I will let him choose what to wear each day but he must send me a text each morning identifying the panty of the day.  I also require him to sleep in the panties.  Normally he sleeps naked but when we are apart I want him to feel the tightness of the panties around him at night.

In addition to the panties, some things that I have done when he is traveling include:

• Making him wear a cock ring or plug
• Having him buy a pair of panties when he arrives at his location
• Requiring him to buy me a gift
• Packing a pair of my used panties and having him inhale my scent every morning and every night before bed.  He must also sleep with them on his pillow. He confessed that this was one of his favorite tasks.
• Requiring him to strip down to his panties whenever he is in his hotel room.
• Having him masturbate while thinking of me every night and every morning (no orgasm)
• Requiring him to kneel whenever he texts or calls me (if he is in a private room).
• Have him write a 500 word essay.  Topics I’ve used include why he loves worshipping and serving me and how he can be a better slave husband
• I also require him to text me at certain times of the day (morning, lunch, by 5:30pm, before bed).  I will text if I want him to call me or not.  He must reply to any of my texts within 10 minutes.  No excuses accepted for being late, no matter how legitimate they seem.  If he fails to do any of the above, he will be punished when he gets home.
• If I am feeling a bit frisky, I will call him and tease him over the phone. I once used a vibrator while I teased him and it drove him wild.

What I choose to do depends on the mood I am in, the type of trip he is taking, and the length of time he is apart.    If he is traveling via plane, I will not send him with any toys other than a rubber cock ring that we have.  Sometimes I send a note in his suitcase with his tasks, sometimes I tell him before he leaves or sometimes I text or call him with assignments throughout the day.

If I am the one traveling, the above items are all fair game.  I expect the house to be spotless when I arrive back home and I expect to have a gift or flowers waiting for me when I arrive home (I am a Goddess after all).  I will give him extra chores to do such as straightening up my shoes, re-folding my panty drawer, or organizing my closet.  Since I am not there for him to serve, he should have plenty of time for these extra chores.  I may require him to sleep in the extra room as a symbol that the master bedroom belongs to me and it is a privilege for him to share it with me.  I will usually lock him in chastity when I am away.  I do not do this when he travels for safety reasons and also I do not want an embarrassing situation to arise at the airport.

By instituting these ground rules and assigning him tasks, it ensures that my authority and presence are felt by him when we are apart.  It also serves as a mechanism to keep him out of trouble. A final benefit is that it adds a little fun to the situation.  We are apart but still connected through this interaction.  His arousal level is pretty high when we get back together which leads to even more fun.  I often look forward to these times apart because it is nice to get “alone time” every now and then and it is fun to tease him with these rules and tasks.