Since I am slow to post because I am a slow writer, how about some of you share experiences to fill the time? I was recently corresponding with someone who shared an experience in which a woman at work acted in a very dominant way toward a guy. It was not sexual but he sensed the dominance, knew it was out of the ordinary of typical work stuff but he could not resist following her orders and was overcome with submissive feelings. I realize this is a bit general but I kept it general for confidentiality reasons. What I love about this experience is that it underscores the deep submissive desires that exist in many men and that it is not just a passing kink.
I am sure most of you submissive guys have had an experience like this, No? Let's hear it. For my fellow Goddess Women, if you've been the initiator of situation like this, please share.
After a long time lurking, my wife and I got loads out of the busy dominant wife series of posts, I had to smile at this post and decided to respond, as I have often come across dominant women in the workplace.
ReplyDeleteI am not sure if it was something I gravitated too and in my defense I did work for a dominant male boss too.
My first encounter was working for a husband and wife run company...and she was an ex-PE/Sports teacher so was pretty formidable in her expectations and the way she handled all of the staff in the office. We often joked about her husband being henpecked but in reality I think we all were as she certainly ruled the roost. We would have done anything that she asked of us, although more out of fear I think.
My next job had another example of the CEO working with his wife at the company...it was common knowledge that he wasn't allowed to go to the toilet at home only at work because she didn't like his smells...and she made him run around after their kids, etc. In those day she was just regarded as high-maintenance although I sometimes suspect differently. She definitely wore the trousers.
When I was running my own business I ended up talking with another lady that owned her own retail business. It turned out she was a genuine dominant lady with that played in her spare time and had a sub or two. This originally came about because one her suppliers let it slip that he was intimidated by her and she would make a great dominant lady just by the way that she carried herself. This led to discussions and I believe it ended up that on occasions she would have him over and spank, whip and generally satisfy her more sadistic side on occasions with the full consent from his wife as it was something he wanted but his wife had no interest in providing.
Having spoken with her, I think this is what woke me up to my own submissive nature, and whilst I am more scared by whips, etc this started my exploration down my own brand of rabbit hole! She just had a way of conducting herself. I tend to define it a strong and classy. Anyone can be loud, abrupt and demanding but there is a special quality in someone that can get what they need in a way that makes me want to give it. It opened up my eyes certainly.
Since then I have definitely come across dominant women in the workplace...there are some that can just have a look, or ask a question in the right way that pushes my submissive buttons and has me scurrying to do better. Whilst it is not a sexual thing it definitely taps into my submissive nature. Also, more recently since I have become a sub to my wife, I am more attuned to people around me...Perhaps there is a DOMDAR (dominant radar) after all. Although I would say that is a potential to dominate rather than reality.
Most of the time though people can push my buttons without the dominant person having any knowledge of it...but for me it has to be that more subtle power of someone knowing what they want and being driven to get it...rather than a more bellowing, direct "do it my way". Submitting because I want to not because I have to...that is quite something else. That "I know that you know, that I am going to do it anyway" delicious submissive feeling.
I spent more than 20 years in the Army and was expected to be ultra masculine and in charge at all times. I'm also bi and have tended to be submissive around strong, alpha men for a good bit of my life. Since I got out of the Army I and have been freed of the need to be the dominant male I have become so much happier than ever before.
ReplyDeleteMy wife has always been a wonderful woman but things got stale for a while. Neither of us was putting much effort into the relationship and we kind of reached a breaking point last year. One day we got into a fight and she slapped me. Instead of things getting worse, though, I groaned and she realized I liked it. She asked if I wanted to be slapped again and I said yes and she did. That's the only time she has ever struck me but it opened so many doors.
Now, she is my Queen and Mistress and is absolutely in charge and leads our lives every day. At first it mostly revolved around sex or sexual energy. She would call me names ,give me orders, and kept me in chastity,but it was still focused on the sexuality of it all. Don't get me wrong, the sexual energy was focused on pleasing her but it all kept me wanting something, anything, for a release. One day she went clothes shopping and left everything at the counter to be held until I got off work and paid for it all. That was all foreplay as far as I was concerned.
Then I got her a gym membership and things really started to change. She worked out and felt great and started to lose weight and get toned so we had to buy more clothes. This transition in her and the increased confidence she gained allowed her to actually take control of our marriage. Before then we seemed to be playing a game. It was nice but not complete.
Now we have a routine that revolves around her and we are confident enough that we don't try to hide it in public. That's not to say that we always flaunt it but I always walk behind her, pull out her chair, hold the door, hold her purse anytime she needs a free hand, etc. I say, "Yes, Ma'am" and "No, Ma'am" to her out of respect. When we eat out one of us will always direct the waiter to address her, not me, and she will order for both of us. We bought a car recently and again insisted the salesman address her so I could tend to the kids. I set up hair and nail appointments for her and prepay and she has become a bit of a celebrity at the salon.
At home,first thing every morning I make coffee and serve her before I even get my cup from the cupboard. At least one day each week I make her breakfast and serve her in bed. Far more often than not, before I leave the room I ask if she needs anything else from me. Our roles have truly reversed in so many ways.
And I love it this way. I am happier than ever before and all it took was to focus on my wife. As odd as it may sound, putting her happiness before my own has taken so much stress off of me and helped to calm me.
More to the point of your question, it's not that I frequently encounter dominant women but my wife has opened the door of respecting women in a way I never knew existed. I am an Executive Assistant and my boss, her deputy, and the administrative supervisor are all women. They may never know the benefit they have of my wife leading me through our lives. But I hold doors, umbrellas, and purses any time they need it. I address them all as "Ma'am". I ask, throughout the day, if there is anything they need. I never leave for the night without checking in so they can leave on time.
After writing this I suddenly feel the need to apologize to all women for a general lack of respect throughout my life. But, believe me, I am changed and will never do that again.
Love your story Joe, regards tiptease
ReplyDeleteI would like to hear more ideas from you Joe R.
ReplyDeleteI am reminded of a time when a woman was walking through a narrow hallway talking to someone behind me. I heard the “Voice” and moved into a doorway, clearing the way for her to travel unimpeded.
DeleteThat is a great example. But it's really just the basics for me. I hold doors and make way for the women around me to have free access to the hallway or to enter and exit a room. I stand when a woman comes into a room or leaves. I offer my chair to women as well. When my boss has been at an event I have held her purse and coat and have held her umbrella when it rained. I get them coffee in the morning and before meetings and throughout the day I ask if there is anything I can do for them. When walking with them I always walk slightly behind and to the left to show that the woman is deserving of respect above me. Some of this is part of the job but it doesn't just apply to my boss. I do some of these things for other women in the office and even in public for total strangers.
In my previous post I mentioned that I feel the need to apologize to women for the disrespect they have received in the past. Let me clarify, I don't go around apologizing to every woman I see. I let my actions speak for me. At times I see women get upset or offended that I hold a door or demonstrate deference and sometimes I get negative comments. At that time I will apologize and state something along the lines of "I meant no disrespect, I was simply trying to be of service." Usually this helps and I sometimes even get a smile or a "Thank you."
My obedience to my wife has opened my eyes and I have seen that, not only had I not given my wife the respect and attention she deserved, I have been subpar in the way I treated women in general. I don't really believe in "female supremacy" but I do believe that women should be treated better and offered more respect than they have received from society.