Transitioning from Work to Home

I expect my husband to be obedient to me at all times.  When he is at home his focus is to be on serving me and making me happy. As strange as it may sound, this is what makes him happy. After a hard day at work, he finds relaxation and joy in serving me. However, sometimes it is not so easy for him to let go of the work day. There have been times when his attitude has been a little terse with me or that he has spoken with a bit of authority towards me, which is not acceptable in our house. In fairness, I must confess that I have my moments when I am short with him because of a bad day at work or I am not paying attention to him because my mind is occupied with work related thoughts.  When the "home routine" starts off on a negative it can unfortunately spoil the rest of the day.

Something new I put in place this year was a transition routine for my husband to help him get into the right mindset when he arrives at home. When he comes home from work each day he changes into panties and then puts on a cock ring. This simple routine has been very effective at resetting his mind so that he is focused on serving me. I chose the cock ring because it is symbolic of his submission to me and my control over him. In the FLR lifestyle it is no secret that men think with their cocks and that their strong desire for pleasure is a key part of their submissive needs. Therefore, having him physically put this symbol around his cock each day sends a clear message to his brain that he belongs to me.

I made panties a part of the transition because panties have a submissive effect on him. Whenever he slips on a pair of panties it mentally softens him. If I am in the room when he slips them on, he always gets aroused. Sometimes it's just a little swelling down there and sometimes it's a full on hard-on. I'm pretty sure this happens when I am not around as well. The combination of softening his mind, arousing him, and reminding him of his submission to me is a perfect mix of emotions to make him forget about his workday and shift into submissive husband mode.

One of the nice things about the routine is that it is simple, quick, and does not require me to be there. He knows what to do and he does it even when I am not home. Since the routine has been put in place, I've noticed he is more calm and more consistently looking for ways to please me.  When he comes out of the bedroom, I know he has transitioned and knowing that helps me shift into Goddess mode for the night.  Having this transition routine has been a good change for our household. 

I also have a transition routine to help me forget about the work day and to remind myself to give my husband some attention. This is imporatant because submissve men are very needy of their wife's attention. Our house gets very busy during the school year and it is so easy for me to come home and get caught up in other things that I don't even pay much attention to my husband.  This is fine for a little while but I have learned that over time, it has a negative impact on him and his obedience to me. My transition routine helps remind me to spend time focused on him during the week. When I arrive home, I immediataly change out of my work clothes. There's just something relaxing about shedding the work clothes and putting on someting comfy to lounge in. Then I close my eyes and take three deep breaths and think of something that makes me happy.  It's usually something silly that my kids have done or my dog. Then I visualize my husband kneeling before me, waiting to serve me.  That's my routine.  Easy and simple but it is very effective at shifting my mindset away from work and into Goddess mode.

I would encourage you all to think about a transition routine.  You can have separate routines for your husband and you or a transition routine that you both take part in together. There are many options that you can put in place. Some examples include having your husband kneel at the door whenever you enter the house or having him always greet you at the door and ask how he may serve you. Wearing a particular piece of clothing or jewelry is another method to transition. A collar worn by the husband is a good example or something more discreet would be to have him put on a ring or necklace that is symbolic of his submission. If you have your husband in chastity, you could wear his chastity key around your neck at home.  This not only helps you transition but also presents a powerful image of ownership to your husband.  A more discreet option would be for you to put on an anklet egraved with the word Mistress. If that is even too racey for your lifestyle, any type of anklet or necklace will do. Having a physical symbol to put on, of your dominance or his submission, is a great way to help you mentally shift into Goddess mode and shift him into obedient mode.

For my male readers, think about suggesting this to your wife and let her know it is a way to help you better serve her. Don't get carried away with an elaborate ritual. Keep it simple and remember the objective is to help you get in the right frame of mind to be a good submissive husband; it is not about your pleasure. If she does not latch onto the idea, then come up with a simple routine of your own to help keep you focused being a good husband. It is something you can do quietly for yourself.

For the Female readers, I reccommend you give it a try with your husband. It has worked well for me. Make sure you pay attention each day to ensure he is following through on the routine.  If he forgets, a stern warning is effecitve.  If he continues to forget then discipline and punishment is in order until he is trained properly. Also, think about a routine for yourself.  I find it helps me destress and also reminds me to givie my husband attention.