I made a "to-do" list of things that I wanted to get done for the day. One of the items I wrote down was 'have an orgasm.' In the evening I ordered my husband to strip naked and lie on his back. I had a night gown on but I did not not take it off. I sat on his face and rode him hard while he licked me to an orgasm. It only took a few minutes. As soon as my orgasm ended, I got up, crossed off 'have an orgasm' from my list and went to bad. Hubby was still lying on the floor fully aroused. He crawled over to the side of the bed, kissed me, told me how incerdible it was, and thanked me for queening him and letting him give me an orgasm. Ahhh, the Female Led Lifestyle is amazing! If you haven't given it a try, you don't know what you are missing.
Hope everyone had a great summer.
-Mz Kaylee
So happy to see you post again!!! Your blog and all of your posts are all so incredibly well written and spot on accurate, perceptive,informative...and did I mention... incredibly hot! Your blog is my number one goto place for REAL insight on flr from the female perspective. Please continue to do what you do so well. You inspire me! I've read and re-read all of your fabulous posts many times now. I am learning something valuable each time I read through and I see so much of my own real world experiences in what you write. I hope that your other readers, and I know there has to be very many, chime in here and express their genuine appreciation for all of your hard work on this site. There are far too little quality sites such as this one. We need to support and encourage those who have gone the extra mile as you have. Happy Orgasm and keep cracking that whip on Thomas!
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Absolutely beautiful :) ... that's what it's all about!
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DeleteMz Kaylee, great blog you have..thank you for your insight and information please keep it up. I would love your, and your followers, input on a question please?? I'm a man with submissive desires that I've had my entire life . I'm happily married to a wonderful, beautiful and sexy woman. For about 15 years now, once I learned about FLR, I've been trying to convince her and seduce her in to taking a dominant lead in our marriage . One sticking point she has is that she fears she would lose respect for me in some way. I appreciate how you explained the difference between realistic FLR vs kinky fantasy as I definitely have an active imagination. I know I haven't always been the best in my delivery or tactics when trying to persuade her to be the dominant wife/master over me. That's my fault for sure. While recently listening to a popular family/marriage therapist, a caller was asking about the therapist's thoughts on him being a stay at home dad while his wife works. The female therapist criticized the male caller saying that eventually his wife would view him as a weak male and grow tired of this role reversal. She believes his wife will eventually lose respect for him and possibly, at some poimt, seek the companionship and attention of a 'real' man to take care of her. I'm just curious what your thoughts are about this concern?? How do you, and other women, reconcile the techniques used to train your submissive male (feminization, spanking, CBT, etc..) while still respecting him?? I would really appreciate any input, advice and counsel you can share with me so I can share it with my amazing wife . thank you. Scott .
ReplyDeleteI can understand your wife's concern. I think most people who have not experienced FLR have a hard time understanding its true nature. It's not easy to explain. You really have to live it to understand it. Those of us who are emerged in the lifestyle understand that submissive men are strong, compassionate, and caring men. Through my FLR, I've grown closer to my husband, fallen deeper in love with him and respect him even more. I feel lucky to be married to him and very lucky to have him serve me. We have many friends, neighbors, and family who have experienced divorce, but our relationship is strong and our marriage is better than ever. I see others look at us with envy because the see how happy we are. I attribute our strong marraige to our FLR.
DeleteRegarding the therapist, I have to assume you are taking words out of context or there is more to the situation with the guy that what we know. I can't imagine any therapist saying that. I was a stay at home mom so does that mean my husband lost respect for me? It takes dedication and sacrifice for any parent to be a stay-at-home parent. I actually made more money than my husband when I chose to stay home so financially it was a pretty big scarifice for us but well worht it. Frankly, I think if more people made that scarifice, the world would be a btter place.
You're probably right that I may have used words to describe the therapist's reply that she didn't actually use. I do remember her her really driving home the point that his wife would lose respect for him if he didn't fulfill his role as the 'provider'. This therapist is actually a very strong proponent of women doing what you did in giving up your career to be a nurturing stay at home mom. I totally agree that our world would be a better place if that was the case. It doesn't mean women are 'less than' or incapable of being the provider of a family...women are just much better and natural at nurturing children. Do you believe there are some women who just won't take on a more dominant role, or FLM, because it doesn't feel right to them?? Thanks again for your reply and great blog with your insight and experience.
ReplyDeleteTo be clear, I am not advocating that the man should not stay home. I think it's fine if either the husband or wife chooses to be a stay at home parent. Every couple is different and should make the decision based on what's best for them. I disagree with the therapists view as I believe both husband and wife are providers in a marriage in their own way.
DeleteRegarding your second point, yes- I believe some women won't take on the dominant role by choice. It is not for everyone. However, just because a woman is not dominant now, does not mean she can't take on the dominant role in marriage. I am proof of that. It just take an open mind, time, and trial and error or as Jim noted in his comment, baby steps and patience. Great advice Jim.
@Jasbo: All positive effects are exactly as Mz Kaylee - and so many others - described. It's all about love and trust, in an everyday's relationship.
ReplyDeleteFeminization, spanking, CBT etc are not the core of an FLR. They are some kind of additional kinky games, but not essential. They should bring fun, and maybe a little bit of "training". But if either of you doesn't like them - for whatever reason - : stop it.
The only essential thing from this kinky stuff is stopping the male orgasms. (That's not! about her controlling him, being mean or strict. It's about changing his hormones which is - after about 2 weeks - an unbelieveable experience for both!!! partners. Read also "Exerting your Dominance" here by Mz Kaylee!)
There's no reason for the woman to lose respect for her man who is deeply loving her, adoring her, serving her, working for her, worshipping her, fulfilling all her wishes, doing errands, massaging her, cuddling with her, organizing for her, giving her advice, and endless more. Never arguing, never lying, never leaving her. A man who's making her the center of his life and her happiness his top goal. He's giving everything he has - for her. Why the heck should she lose respect for him?
My wife tells me often how happy she is and how much luck she had to meet me. And how much she appreciates my part in our female led relationship. We are a very happy couple, and will be until the end of our lifes.
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ReplyDeleteWe also had a good relationship for 15 years. Fair and both equals. And that improved dramatically after turning to flr, on my suggestion. It's hard to describe how our love got deeper. But every couple reports it.
Also every couple (mostly the guy) reports about the difficulties to get it going.
The key for us was to make small steps. Very small, ultra small steps. Usually the guy's thoughts are light years ahead of his lady, so wait for her and be patient, very patient. And don't ask for kink if you don't have a kinky lady.
Jim, great analysis, input and advice. I do have a tendency to run a mile with any inch she's willing to give me while exploring her dominant side. I will try harder to exercise more patience in this adventure of ours. We have a great relationship and friendship with above very good communication...and I'm sure my excitement over any kink at all clouds my patience and I push too much for more. For years now I've been doing most of the shopping, cooking and cleaning in our home (i have a flexible work schedule) and its been great!! In all honesty, at times I feel like she's taking it all for granted as she just finds other things to occupy her thoughts and time. I have a ways to go yet. Thx again and great blog .
ReplyDeleteJasbo. Isn’t it a sign that she is moving towards a FLR when you feel that she is taking it all for granted? When you are taking care of the mundane chores in life while she is finding other things to do with her thoughts and time? Isn’t that what a female led relationship is striving for? For her to be happy? It sounds to me like you and she are on the way. Remember your goal is not to push her into your fantasy but to help her become the woman you know she can be. It is said that all women have a dominant streak. You just need to coax it out. Once she gains more confidence you might find her exceeding your expectations. We feel for you. We have been there or we still are. As Mz Kaylee states, communicate. But don’t whine. In a perfect world what would your list of desires look like. What do you desire from her? What one thing do you need right now? Acknowledgment? Recognition? Ask her for it.
DeleteJasbo - if you feel she is taking it for granted, you should talk to her about it. FLR is a two-way street. If she is not embracing her role as dominant and investing time in you and your needs, then you will just keep getting frustrated. Both the Dominant and Submissive needs have to be taken care of in order for the FLR to be sustainable.
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