I have no doubt that there will be large following of men on this blog. Mention the word 'femdom' and they come in droves. Therefore, I think it is only fitting that one of my first posts provide direction to men on their behavior and attitude.
One of the most common mistakes you boys make when you first dabble in femdom is that all you think about is yourself and what you want. It is not too surprising since porn and commercialized femdom focuses on things like leather, whips, chains, and spanking. On most femdom forums and chat rooms a complaint among the women is all the 'cheez-ball' comments they get from guys. I've even seen forums that have a topic that is locked for men, where women can post these comments for their own amusement and laughter.
Let me spare you from embarrassment and ridicule. Do not send your first e-mail to a Mistress asking her to spank you and order you around. Believe it or not, she does not want to hear this from some stranger that she does not even know. Start out with a normal introduction of yourself or make an intelligent comment about her profile or a comment she posted. Get to know her a little bit before you dive into the kink.
When it comes to a real life relationship, your attitude should be about serving her. What can you do to please her and maker her happy? Go out of your way to please her. If she is pleased then she will turn the focus back on you and you will be rewarded with the domination that you crave so much! I will admit that I have over simplified this a bit. There are many factors that contribute to a healthy FLR such as communication, respect, and trust. However, changing your perspective from 'what do I want' to 'What can I do to serve her' is a key step towards building a strong FLR.
Dear Mz Kaylee
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely right.
As my wife says:
Always think of me first.
I believe this is the bedrock of a strong FLR.
Kind regards
M. Toads