Discover Your Feminine Power

Feminine Power is often described as an energy within women which influences men.  Probably what comes to mind for most people is the image of a beautiful woman walking into a room and all heads turn her way.  You have no doubt seen a blooper video where a guy walks into a wall or rides his bike into a parked car because he is distracted by a woman in a bikini or short skirt.  I a always get a a good laugh when I see this.  It is funny but it is proof of the magnetism that women have to men. Just our bodies alone can disrupt a man's thoughts to the points that he loses his own awareness and common sense.

Men crave women.  They crave to be with us, to impress us and to make us happy. There have been studies on how often a man thinks about sex.  Did you know that men thing about sex on average 1 to 3 times an hour?  That means if you have spent an hour with a man, there is a good chance, a sexual thought about women went through his mind while he was with you  (maybe even a thought about you).   I wonder what all those men are thinking during meetings at work :).

Thomas has pretty much validated this for me.  In fact, with him sexual thoughts are more often since he is teased and denied regularly by me. If you are still in doubt, do a little experiment.  Next time you are in a public place, stand back and quietly observe the men.  When a girl walks by, you will almost always see their heads turn and follow. It does not matter whether he is married, single, young or old; they all react the same way. All the men reading this right now are nodding their heads in agreement,  right? If I point out a pretty girl to Thomas or make a comment to Thomas about a girl in a skimpy outfit, 99% of the time, Thomas has already noticed the girl, even if she is on the opposite side of the room.  It's pretty amazing actually. lol!

My point to all this is that men are wired to crave women and that gives women power.  As a woman, you can get upset by this and be disgusted by a man's behavior or you can understand that it is part of how men are wired.  With this understanding, you can be smart and leverage your feminine power to channel their cravings in a productive way.  Think about a man's cravings as a flowing river with lots of energy.  Left unchecked it does what it wants and can lead to erosion and destruction. However, if you put a damn in place, you can control the flow and energy and use it for productive purposes such as generating electricity.  Ladies, we need to be the damn for our husbands and have their energy flow through us and direct it in a way that benefits the relationship. 

I want to point out that feminine power is more than just sexiness or a physical body.   It encompasses softness, nurturing, vulnerability and love. All of these attributes working together create an energy that has a profound influence on men. A women who needs help (vulnerability) can command the attention of men just as much as the woman who turns heads.  Now think about when you were dating before you got married.  Wasn't your man falling all over you and doing things to please and impress you?  I bet when he first was attracted to you, he gave up valuable time with his guy friends just to be with you.  Did you ever feel like you had him around your finger?  That was your feminine power at work.

If you are married, then you already know that your feminine power has been effective on your husband.  Otherwise, he would have never spent his hard earned money on a ring for you and asked for your hand in marriage. If you are married, it is safe to assume that your husband is attracted to you and sees great qualities in you.  Therefore, you can be confident that your feminine power is strong with him.  Most women do not realize how much power they have over their man.  One reader commented to me that she was so angry at her husband over something that she ordered him to stand nose-to-wall quietly. She was not sure what made her do this and she was surprised that in that moment he obeyed without question. This was before she was even in a FLR!  That is a fantastic example of feminine power at work.  He was compelled to obey her because of her display of authority and because he wanted to please her and not make her any more angry.

A FLR is a great way to get in touch with your feminine power.  As my FLR evolved through trial and error, and with regular talks with my husband, I discovered my inner feminine power.  Ladies, let me tell you, if your husband is submissive, you most likely are underestimating the influence you have over him.  He will do just about anything you want and love it when you turn on the feminine charm.

The FLR journey for me, has made me much more confident and sure of myself.  With my husband I have complete influence over him and know what things make him weak, excited, mad, etc.  Knowing which levers to pull or not pull obviously has great benefits.  This discovery process has also benefited me outside of the marriage.  I am also more confident at work and am very sure of myself in the company of other men and women.  This has made me a more effective communicator in everyday life.  I feel more empowered and respected.

Understanding and embracing your feminine power, not only builds confidence in you, but it also builds a respectful and positive character that is noticed by others.  Below is a link to a beautifully written article on feminine power which I think is worth reading.

http://www.thefemininewoman.com/2010/03/the-power-of-femininity/

-Mz Kaylee