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-Mz Kaylee
-Mz Kaylee
Sunday, January 15, 2017
Taking A Fresh Look at your FLR
The beginning of a new year is a time when many people set goals for themselves and strive to make positive changes in their life. It is also a good time set goals for your marriage and how you can positively improve upon your FLR. Or perhaps you are not in a FLR but have been thinking about it. Why not give it a try in 2017? At the end of 2015 I wrote a post about setting goals for your FLR in the new year. I re-read the post last week and thought it was still very relevant for 2017. I've already begun to think about it in my marriage. I encourage you to read it and act on it. Below is the link. Here's to a great 2017!
Thursday, January 5, 2017
Hen pecked husband versus Submissive Husband
A recent post on the I'm-Hers blog posed the question of what is the difference between a hen-pecked husband and a submissive husband. This is a great question to think about. I believe there are two big differences: 1) perspective and attitude of the husband and wife and 2) the consequences of obeying or not obeying the wife.
Many of the readers who commented on the post mentioned item 1 above. I'd like to dig deeper into this thought. In my opinion, the perspective of the hen pecked husband is that he is following orders because that is the role he fell into in the relationship. He is obeying simply to follow orders and maybe keep peace in the house. He may or may not be happy with this. I think many men are perfectly content in this situation. There are probably also men who do not like being hen pecked and feel nagged and are unhappy. I would imagine the wife in the hen pecked relationship feels a bit frustrated as she has to constantly tell her husband what to do. The consequences of the husband obeying is that he keeps peace and avoids more nagging, at least until the next thing comes up. If he does not listen to the wife, then there is probably even more nagging which may lead to arguing and yelling.
In a FLR, the submissive husband takes pleasure and enjoyment in serving the wife. He wants to please her and wants to treat her like a queen. An order from his wife is not seen as nagging. In fact the submissive husband enjoys being given orders. The submissive husband obeys to please his wife and not simply to keep peace. The wife in the FLR also takes a different approach. The 'nagging' wife is more reactive to things whereas the FLR wife is thinking ahead and setting ground rules and expectations for the husband so that she does not have to nag him about things. If the submissive husband does not follow her orders, he is punished or disciplined. In most cases, the husband knows he is wrong and feels bad about not obeying. There are also positive rewards for the submissive husband for obeying the wife. When she is pleased, he is happy and she may also decide to treat him to some fun teasing or an orgasm for good behavior.
A change in perspective can make a world of difference in a relationship. It's not easy to make that change but if you can do it, it can be a life changer. One of the great things about FLR is that it creates fun and excitement out of everyday chores and tasks.
https://im-hers.blogspot.com/2016/12/whats-difference.html?zx=bf454409c096b344
Many of the readers who commented on the post mentioned item 1 above. I'd like to dig deeper into this thought. In my opinion, the perspective of the hen pecked husband is that he is following orders because that is the role he fell into in the relationship. He is obeying simply to follow orders and maybe keep peace in the house. He may or may not be happy with this. I think many men are perfectly content in this situation. There are probably also men who do not like being hen pecked and feel nagged and are unhappy. I would imagine the wife in the hen pecked relationship feels a bit frustrated as she has to constantly tell her husband what to do. The consequences of the husband obeying is that he keeps peace and avoids more nagging, at least until the next thing comes up. If he does not listen to the wife, then there is probably even more nagging which may lead to arguing and yelling.
In a FLR, the submissive husband takes pleasure and enjoyment in serving the wife. He wants to please her and wants to treat her like a queen. An order from his wife is not seen as nagging. In fact the submissive husband enjoys being given orders. The submissive husband obeys to please his wife and not simply to keep peace. The wife in the FLR also takes a different approach. The 'nagging' wife is more reactive to things whereas the FLR wife is thinking ahead and setting ground rules and expectations for the husband so that she does not have to nag him about things. If the submissive husband does not follow her orders, he is punished or disciplined. In most cases, the husband knows he is wrong and feels bad about not obeying. There are also positive rewards for the submissive husband for obeying the wife. When she is pleased, he is happy and she may also decide to treat him to some fun teasing or an orgasm for good behavior.
A change in perspective can make a world of difference in a relationship. It's not easy to make that change but if you can do it, it can be a life changer. One of the great things about FLR is that it creates fun and excitement out of everyday chores and tasks.
Please share your thoughts on this topic and I encourage you to visit the I'm Hers blog and contribute to the discussion there.
https://im-hers.blogspot.com/2016/12/whats-difference.html?zx=bf454409c096b344
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