A Time for Change - The Discipline Jar

Before I continue with this topic, I would like to encourage everyone to read the comment from Sandra in my Bringing in The New Year's post. Her comment is well thought out, informative and has many great tidbits of advice and techniques.  Please read it.

Now, back to my changes.  After I was done with the financial talk and Queening Thomas, we took a little break.  It was getting close to dinner.  I had planned on going out somewhere for dinner but by now I was relaxed and having fun with Thomas in the house so I was in no mood to go out.  Instead we ordered takeout from a nearby restaurant.  I had Thomas order the food and then go pick it up.  To make the trip fun he had to wear his panties and a butt plug when he went to get the food.  While he was gone, I slipped on a comfortable silk night gown.  There was no need for the latex anymore. It already had the effect on him that I wanted.  When he returned with the food he stripped back down to his panties and served me the food.  He was not allowed to remove the plug yet, so I enjoyed watching him waddle around serving me completely aroused. 

After dinner I enjoyed another glass of wine while Thomas cleaned up dinner and did the dishes. Then I ordered him to the bedroom to get ready for a discipline session.  He was allowed to remove the plug, wash it and put it away.  For the discipline session, he knows to retrieve my riding crop and then move our discipline chair out from the corner of the room and kneel by it and wait for me.  He was in position when I entered the room.  For this session, I had him kneel on the seat of the chair and hug the back of the chair. This session was a little different than our usual session. We spent most of the time just talking while I walked around him, using the riding crop to tease him with soft playful slaps or light traces across his body; I added hard slaps to emphasize key points or express dissatisfaction.  We talked about how we were both busy and some aspects of our FLR were slipping a bit, such as my pampering, discipline sessions, and spending more time together. We made plans to get back into those routines again.  I explained to him that with how busy we were at the moment, there probably would not be time for the regular discipline sessions so I was going to try something new.  This is where the discipline jar came in. I showed him an oversized plastic jar. If you ever bought pretzels in bulk that come in a big plastic jar, this is the type of jar I used. I explained the concept to him.  Below is how it works.

Discipline Jar
The idea is that for every item that he would normally be disciplined for, he would instead be assessed a $1 penalty at the time of occurrence and would have to immediately put the dollar in the jar.  So for example, if he did not do a good job cleaning the kitchen, I would say to him, 'You did not wipe down the table.  Put a dollar in the jar."  Once a certain amount of money is accumulated, he would be punished.  I set the punishment threshold at $10.  We'll see how it goes. I may need to adjust once I get a better feel for how fast or slow the dollars accumulate. Here are the basic rules I put into place:

1. For each infraction, a $1 penalty is assessed.  However, I may increase the penalty for a particular infraction if I feel it is warranted. 
2. The penalty must be paid from his allowance immediately into the jar.  If he has no allowance money left, he will put an IOU in the jar at the double the amount and pay it back immediately when he receives his weekly allowance.
3. All money in the jar becomes my money to spend as I please
4. For every $10 accumulated, he will receive a discipline spanking (or be punished if warranted).

The benefit of this approach is the he receives immediate feedback and penalty when he is doing something that is not up to my expectations or satisfaction and I do not have to keep track of these things for the discipline session.  I also get a little bit of extra cash for myself :)  It is important to note that this is for discipline related items and not punishment.  If he does something unacceptable such as talking back to me or ignoring an order from me, then he will be immediately punished.

In my next post, I will explain the change with grocery shopping and also some additional items I talked to Thomas about regarding his allowance.