How Things Have Changed

My last few posts talked about changes that I made with Thomas.  I wanted to post a follow-up to let you know how the changes are progressing.  It took me quite awhile to write the posts (I am a slow writer). It's been several weeks since I first announced the changes to Thomas.

Overall, the changes have gone great. The teasing and fun approach that I used to announce the changes had an energizing effect on our relationship.  It helped us get back into some of our routines and for the first few weeks afterwards we were much more intimate and loving with each other; almost like newlyweds. Thomas even bought me flowers and wrote me a note to thank me for planning the day and to tell me how much fun he had with me and how exciting it was for him to be teased and dominated by me.  During all the fun, there was no orgasm for Thomas so he was quite horny, which kept him focused on wanting to please me in order to get attention for himself.  We are still busy with work and other stuff, but now we are a little more inward focused on ourselves, which makes us gravitate together during the few free moments rather than go separate ways.  

The discipline jar is going very well for me and not so well for Thomas :).  He reached the $10 punishment threshold rather quickly the first time around.  Because of how easy and quick it is for me assess fines, I end up giving him fines for little things that in the past I often forgot about or neglected to bring to his attention during his discipline session.  If I see he did not put his shoes away - $1 fine; cleaned the kitchen but did not wipe the table - $1; put a shirt or sweater away in the wrong spot - $1; food scraps in the sink drain - $1; Smart remark to me - $2!.  These are the little things that I'd forget to track previously or would even tolerate a bit. The nice things is it is quick and easy feedback for Thomas.  He is now paying more attention to these smaller things and doing a better job.  When $10 was accumulated in the jar, I laid out his punishment panties to wear.  That night, I called Thomas to the room, took him over my lap and spanked him for each dollar in the jar. The discipline session was quick and efficient.  I did not have to explain each item.  We talked more in general terms about how things were going and what needed to be improved.

I have to admit that it is a bit fun to assess fines.  Several of his fines have been delivered via text message when he was not home and I discovered something I am not pleased with (see how easy it is!).    I have to be careful not to get too picky and take advantage of it.  The good thing is that Thomas has had fun with it too.  He will smile and show me the dollar as proof of his payment whenever he is on his way to deposit it in the jar. He even fined himself once.  He did not put laundry away one night.  When I saw the full basket in the morning, before I could even say anything, he said "I know..." and pulled out a dollar and put it in the jar.  We both had a laugh over it.  It has been fun for both of us and Thomas has said that he likes receiving the quick feedback.  He knows he is often forgetful and can be lazy every now and then and this new system has helped him focus better on getting things done. He accumulated a lot of fines initially, but by now his fines have decreased quickly because he is learning to do better.  Now he may only get assessed a fine or two during the week.  This is proof to me that the system is working so I am very pleased with the results.

The food shopping training has gone well also.  For the first few weeks it was more work for me but it was enjoyable.  I decided that Thomas was to continue to wear panties, stockings, and garter belt for the food shopping until I felt he was fully trained.  This would make the training fun.  Just prior to the shopping trip he would have to put these items on (his shopping outfit). I made it a habit to be in the room when he was putting on his shopping outfit. He always had an erection when putting on his shopping outfit and I could tell he felt a bit embarrassed by this, which I thought was cute and sexy.   I always made some type of comment of how cute, pretty, or sexy the outfit looked, or how soft the stocking were.  While shopping in the store I might make a fun comment like, 'how's my housewife doing.'  This was all just me having fun with him. After shopping was done and the groceries were put away, he was allowed to remove his shopping outfit (actually, this was required.  I wanted the outfit to only be associated with shopping).  During his training period, when he was done putting the groceries away, I would purposely hug him, kiss him, and get him a little aroused and thank him.  I would tell him how excited I am that he is taking over the food shopping responsibility.  I believe that doing things like that make it fun and rewarding for him, which makes him want to do it even more.

We do food shopping weekly.  For the first two weeks I went to the store with Thomas for the 'on-the-job' training.  It was also a learning experience for me as I had to learn to be more specific with some of the items on my list.  It is amazing how many different brands and sizes of products there are or how many similar products. On my list, I may write 'jelly.'  I know that means Welch's grape jelly but Thomas would have no clue.  However, I made it clear to Thomas that part of his training was to learn these things. I would be a little more specific with some items, but I was not about to spend a lot of time writing out a detailed shopping list.  It was up to him to learn and remember the specifics about the products we buy on a regular basis. My plan is to eventually get Thomas to the point where he is making the list and coming to me for any additional items to add.

The third week was a test for Thomas. He went on his own but I was available by phone.  He called me just once to be sure he got the right item.  When he arrived home, I supervised him putting the groceries away.  He did well except that I noticed a few things on the counter that were not on the list. He bought doughnuts and snacks for himself to take to work. I reprimanded and fined him for this ($1 for each item).  I told him he was not allowed to buy things that were not on the list without my permission unless he was using his own allowance. If he saw something in the store that he wanted to buy, he needed to call or text me for permission to buy it.  I am sure I will relax this rule a bit in the future, but while in training I needed to be strict.  Because of this issue, his training was extended another week and he would have to wear his shopping outfit again.

The following week everything went well so he was allowed to put away his stockings and garter belt for good (or until I decided otherwise).  However, I designated the panties as his official shopping panties.  He already has punishment panties so why not add another category.  On the days he does food shopping, he must wear these all day. Now that he is trained, I am enjoying the extra time.  It was fun for both of us during the training. We both agreed that it was nice shopping together.  I may  join in on his shopping trips every now and then in the future just to spend time with him.

Monitoring of his spending has been a bit challenging.  He has already had to ask for additional money.  There is a time each night when he is kneeling for me. I thought it was cute that he chose that time to ask for more money.  His allowance was being used up quickly by the combination of me being more strict with the credit cards, him getting assessed discipline fines, and his allowance being reduced due to the payback of the "unauthorized charges" I discovered when reviewing past statements. Considering all these circumstances, I granted him additional allowance with no recourse but I told him this should not become a habit and he had to figure out a way to make it work going forward.  Thomas has admitted to me that it is hard but he is glad that I am doing it.  He likes the added control and he thinks it will make him spend his allowance more wisely.

Throughout the week I have received a few calls and texts from Thomas asking for permission to charge something to the credit card.  So far, everything he has asked about has been acceptable and I have approved the request.  I like having this added control.  It is another way to stay connected with Thomas during the week and reinforce my control over him. It also keeps me abreast on the purchases he is making.

I am happy with how things are progressing with Thomas and am glad that I planned a full day to announce the changes.  The day did cross over a bit into the fantasy world, but it was fun and re-energized our relationship.