Phew! I finally finished this series. Hopefully, you found the posts informative and thought provoking and I hope you've gotten a few good ideas to use. I am thrilled with all the comments and discussion on the posts. I was away on vacation for awhile so I apologize for not getting some of the comments published in a timely fashion. They are all published now. I encourage all of you to go back to the comments sections in each of the posts and read what others have posted and continue the discussion. Often times the comments from others provide great additional insights and ideas.
The last few posts in these series touched on the kinkier aspects of FLR. This was purposeful as I have learned that using kink and playing into a man's sexual side are powerful tools for motivating men. Tapping into these tools when you are busy are great ways to keep his attention on you and motivate him to serve and obey you when you don't have a lot of time or energy to give him the usual attention. In the comments on this series of posts, some of the submissive boys pointed out that not all the tasks need to be kinky or sexually related; that a simple order or assignment to help the wife would motivate them or make them happy. That advice is helpful to keep in mind, especially when you are overworked and need help. Commanding your husband to do something for you is a way to bring out his submissive happiness. Take note that I used the word 'Commanding." Commanding him to do something is much more impactful than asking him to do something.
Many of the ideas I shared I have used and some I have not. I encourage you to try a few of the ideas that were presented in the series. I even recommend that you pick one or two that seem off the wall and give them a try. You may be surprised at how excited your man gets and how submissive he becomes. You may even be surprised at how excited you become. I remember the first time I used a butt plug on Thomas. It was his idea and I thought it was strange but I did it to humor him. However, his reaction/emotional language from having the plug in him struck an erotic nerve in me and really excited me. I did not expect it. Sometimes the strangest things turn into the most exciting things. If you try something new and it does not work, no harm done. You can laugh about it and move on.
The kinkier ideas are fun but certainly should not be what your relationship is based around. The most important point that I would like you to take from this series of posts is that it is critical to find one-on-one time with each other. No matter how busy you are, you need to set time aside where you can talk regularly and where you can just have fun together. This will keep your relationship strong and a strong relationship with your spouse will help you flourish in other areas in your life and get you through the tough times.
The next important point that I want to emphasize is to lean on your husband during the busy times. If you try to get through the busy or tough situations by yourself, he will feel isolated and will be desperate for your attention, which will most likely lead to relationship issues that you will have to deal with on top of the other stress. Instead, make him work for you. Focus your efforts on training, disciplining, and if needed punishing him to get things done for you. Initially this may take some work on your part to get him 'trained' on what needs to be done. However, in the long-term he will become a big help to you and ease your stress. This managing approach makes you an even stronger leader, elevates your authority over him and will bring out the submission in him even more. He will love helping you.
Many of you wrote me and told me that you share the posts with your spouse. It makes me happy to hear that and I hope this leads to more fun for you and a stronger relationship. If you use any of the ideas from my posts or you discover that your wife is suddenly using them on you, please share your experiences, good or bad. I want to know how it went or if it led to even new adventures.
-Mz Kaylee
Thanks for posting this series. I enjoyed reading your perspective and thinking about your ideas.
ReplyDeleteI too, would like to echo the comments of I'm-Hers. I appreciate your time to write about these things.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much for the series and for sharing your experience and insights. I could learn a lot from Thomas. Thank him too please.
ReplyDeleteThanks all. I appreciate the feedback and am glad you are getting value from my posts.
ReplyDeleteDear Mz Kaylee,
ReplyDeleteThanks for a very interesting series of posts and a great blog which provides a good source of information.
As you say in previous posts if they did degrees in FLR you would probably have one would you please explain how you came to be in a FLR? was it your idea? or as in so many cases that I have read about and certainly in our experiment, your husbands?