Below is a post from Debbie in response to my original post on "The Happy House Husband." Enjoy! (Thanks Debbie!)
David has long been doing the household chores. He does the vacuuming, dusting, cleaning, washing, and ironing, in addition to taking care of my mother and sister. He's a submissive do his doing chores is not only beneficial to me but it is a point of fulfillment and pride to him. I seldom compliment him on the cleanness of the house or the perfection of the pleats he's just ironed but when I do it's obviously very satisfying to him. It motivates him to do even more. A piece of advice though, Women shouldn't be complimenting or thinking their husbands too often; why should they? He's only serving her as she deserves and it's a great source of satisfaction for him. My David gets criticism much more than he gets praise – it works for us!
David has long been doing the household chores. He does the vacuuming, dusting, cleaning, washing, and ironing, in addition to taking care of my mother and sister. He's a submissive do his doing chores is not only beneficial to me but it is a point of fulfillment and pride to him. I seldom compliment him on the cleanness of the house or the perfection of the pleats he's just ironed but when I do it's obviously very satisfying to him. It motivates him to do even more. A piece of advice though, Women shouldn't be complimenting or thinking their husbands too often; why should they? He's only serving her as she deserves and it's a great source of satisfaction for him. My David gets criticism much more than he gets praise – it works for us!
I certainly agree that your man's having a routine is very important. David has chores to do EVERY DAY. Typically he has 3-4 hours of work to do on weekends and 6-7 hours on weekends. During the week he starts dinner, dusts, runs the vacuum, freshens the bath rooms, gathers the clothes I've worn that day to either be washed or dry cleaned, and he serves me dinner. We often talk about our work and what went on. I like to know what's going on at his office since I know women whose husbands he works with and there just might be some little tidbits that I pass along. Knowing what's happening and passing it along helps my girlfriends keep control of their man. David likes hearing what happened during my day, too.
On weekends I often go out with my mother and sister, to the mall or some other event while David does the 'heavy cleaning'. Typically we entertain or visit with other couples on Saturday night. David enjoys going out for an evening especially since he ends up serving the ladies, a point of great satisfaction for him. David does get free time and internet access each day as a reward of sorts and to simply relax.
When we get together with other FLM couples we know the men congregate in the kitchen and the women in the living room. Submissive men have competitive nature and it comes out at these parties as the men try to out do each other in serving – and pleasing! - the ladies. David always bakes some scrumptious pastries and loves the compliments received. Tom always brings along a special wine, and so on.The men always get to come and converse with the ladies but only after they have served the ladies.
So, ladies, don't ever underestimate how much your submissive man enjoys pleasing you and give him every opportunity to do do!
-Debbie
I am a male in a relationship that is not 24/7 FLR but which has some FLR elements. I do a large part of the household chores - most of the cooking, cleaning etc. As you said in a comment on the original article "The beauty of FLR is that it makes the boring tasks and chores fun and exciting." I usually do the chores dressed in just my underpants while my partner is fully clothed and I find that this makes them exciting. Unlike Debbie, she does praise me when I do chores to her satisfaction. In fact she compliments me more often than she criticizes me. When she is not satisfied her usual response is to give me a few firm swats on the seat of my briefs as a warning and urge me to do better. I do agree with Debbie's closing remark however "So, ladies, don't ever underestimate how much your submissive man enjoys pleasing you and give him every opportunity to do do!"
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Debbie, thank you for you posting. My husband and my marriage routine (daily routine) is very much like yours. I think submissive men really do like to serve and get deep gratification from it. I know my husband has felt embarrassed that he is "like this" but also knows it is in fact how he is and it works quite well for both of us.
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