This past
weekend, my husband received a special treat. He was allowed to orgasm during
sex with me. This is a rare occurrence for him. It might happen twice a year if
he is lucky (and good!). He did not know it was going to happen until the very
last second when I gave him permission. I could tell he prolonged his orgasm as
much as possible and savored every second of it. I savored the moment too and
it was amazing and wonderful. It is a very special and deeply intimate moment
when two people in love orgasm together. It’s like you are touching each
other’s souls and connecting on a deep emotional level. Perhaps I was tuned
into that feeling because it is something that is a rare occurrence for me also.
Often times when we do something frequently, we take it for granted and forget
how special it is or lose touch with the good and positive feelings it
generates within us.
Thomas gave
up his right to an orgasm the day he agreed (or rather begged 😊) to be submissive to me. His orgasms are a
privilege and not a right. Sex with me is an even greater privilege for him and
only allowed when I decide. Most of the time he satisfies me through oral
pleasure. When we do have sex, I am on top and in control and he has been
trained to not move and not to expect an orgasm. As mentioned above, it is a
rare occasion when he is allowed to orgasm during sex. This may seem strange
and even cruel but it works for us. I have to admit that I get a rush out of using
him for my orgasms while he is straining hard not to orgasm. It was not always
like that for me. It took me awhile to realize that type of control and
‘domination’ is actually what Thomas craves. It took me awhile to let go and be
selfish in my pleasure without worrying about his. In the end, it really is not
selfish because as crazy as it sounds it is an even bigger rush for Thomas to
be denied orgasm while I have one. It drives him wild and he loves it.
One final
thought on the topic – I have read where some women will deny their husband sex
altogether or may never let them orgasm during sex. There are two big reasons
why I think it’s a better approach to limit sex rather than prohibit it. The
first is the I believe the deep connection that occurs during sex when you
orgasm together is beneficial for the relationship and a very special and exciting experience. Second
is that it makes the denial of orgasm for the husband that much tougher
afterwards. When you give him a taste of something great, it’s hard to resist
wanting more. The denial becomes harder and the hope grows within him that it
will happen again. It’s a bitter-sweet motivator and so much fun!!
-Mz Kaylee
Thank you, Mistress Kaylee
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your second reason is indeed bitter sweet but too cruel, really. Well, who's the Superior Sex anyway?
ReplyDeleteHi Mz Kaylee. So very hot...
ReplyDeleteThe way you describe it is practically identical to how my Wife (and as a consequence, me) approach sex, and Her and my orgasms. Masturbation (and touching my penis without Her permission) is strictly forbidden. I always thaught I would never muster this level of discipline for more than a couple of days without being put in a chastity device. Yet here I am, I obey completely, even when there is a month or more between my orgasms. And I used to ejaculate daily and even more frequently up to just five years ago.
I am exceedingly rarely allowed vaginal sex and hardly ever to cum from it (three times last year I think). Like you said, it is a rare privillige to be allowed to enter my Wife's beautiful vagina and I cherish every opportunity. 90% or more of Her orgasms are the result of my oral administrations (I am good at it, I really am, and proud of it) or me using Her favorite vibrating dildos on Her. I am still waiting for the first time when I will cum just from pleasuring my Wife and witnessing Her resulting orgasm (the most rewarding experience for me, honestly, She cums so beautifully and is exhausted afterwards). I have been pretty close a few times, nearly orgasmic for me. I love it and so does She, we are both enjoying my complete sexual submission, including rare occasions when She wants to be taken roughly and fucked violently. If I can last long enough...
Sounds like things are progressing nicely for you. Keep up the good work.
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ReplyDeleteI believe you are spot on,
Love tiptease
Mz Kaylee,
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful post! I think the rate of orgasm denial will be different for every femdom couple but the point is is that it occurs - that the woman decides when, where, how and if a man will cum.
The Woman-on-Top position is also our favorite for sex. I'd be interested in hearing your extended thoughts on the appropriateness of this position for dominant women and their submissive husbands. Maybe some of it seems obvious, but maybe some of your thoughts would be totally new. Either way we'd love to hear them.
Agree that orgasm denial varies for different people and I reccomend that the wife be on top during sex. A submissive husband's natural position is beneath his wife and to be used for her pleasure. The queening position is another powerful position for the wife and is one of my favorites.
ReplyDeleteobviously the Woman on top. I can't imagine it any other way, it'd be super weird if it wasn't like that. And I wholeheartedly agree - the function of man is to be used for the pleasure of Women
DeleteThe Woman who introduced me to femdom certainly preferred to be on top, she liked to have me tied hand and foot to the bed posts and completely helpless.
ReplyDeleteAs we all sadly know, the Femdom101 blog is on life support, so I'll ask a question about what was posted there here.
ReplyDeleteShe posted that "For the submissive husband accepting female control is a sign of maturity."
To me that is a beautiful phrase. But it can mean so many things! This question is for Women:
What do you think of this phrase?
They are fantastic words of wisdom from Kathy. Accepting female control is a big commitment and is absolutely a sign of maturity. It takes a strong man to accept this because he may actually be perceived as weak to his friends and family. The mature man recognizes that this perception is wrong and that his true path to happiness is in yielding to woman's control. The mature man take comfort and pride in his submission.
ReplyDeleteI've been thinking for a while about the last paragraph, since it's been a source of some disagreement between me and my wife recently.
ReplyDeleteWhen I first approached her about being submissive in certain aspects of our relationship, mostly sexual, I really liked the idea of giving myself to her in a limited way that aligned with my fantasies. In my mind, that meant being available in as exclusive a way as possible, but it also meant fairly regular "full" sexual encounters involving mutual orgasm -- several times a month or so, really wild encounters with lots of creativity and dress-up and novelty. I would definitely agree that there's something powerful about the feeling of a shared orgasm, as periodic renewal of the marriage. That was my dream sex life.
For the first eight years of marriage, that was exactly what I got. It felt like a good balance, and seemed to work pretty well most of the time. I don't recall it being an unhappy marriage by any standard, although my level of submission was mostly limited to the bedroom.
Over the last two years, my wife has gotten much more interested in other forms of authority, and less interested in creative or elaborate sexual encounters. What she mostly seems to want is oral sex, a few times a month, in exactly the same way every time. And nothing else.
It's been about 20 months since my last approved orgasm. My willpower isn't great, and after a few unapproved orgasms I'm now restricted to a cage device permanently. My wife REALLY seems to like this arrangement. She says I'm much more obedient and respectful, more receptive to forms of submission I rejected before (like financial control and household chores), and more affectionate in non-sexual ways. All of this is very true. We both had a "good" marriage before. Now she has a great one on exactly the terms she wants, and I don't want to take that away from her. It's hard to explain how I'm simultaneously dismayed over the complete elimination of my sexual experiences, but also desiring to be in total surrender to her authority in a way I wasn't before.
I've made a few overtures for giving me some kind of sexual outlet, on rare occasions. So far she's confused by this, and mostly just laughs at me. I'm so affectionate and well-behaved now, better than before, and she has a minimalist sex life that meets all of her needs. Her sex drive is diminishing in middle age, and mine is totally under control and channeled into productive bedroom and kitchen service. Why go back?
Even though I agree with Mz Kaylee officially about "few" being better than "none", I also feel like I need to trust my wife completely and so I feel protective of her decision even though it's different. She obviously thinks this is best for us. And I have full confidence that she loves me deeply, understands me better than I know myself, and wants me to have the best marriage possible. So I am going to continue letting her decide for me. Maybe things will change again in the future. Maybe they won't. But my desire to be controlled and obedient is much stronger than my desire for sex, and for the current seasons of life, this is what obedience means.
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