Devotional Activities

 As promised, in this post I am sharing ideas on rewards and devotion activities for my husband, which are designed to strengthen his devotion to me. These are activities that he will enjoy, mainly because of the dominance aspect, but also because they will make me happy, which is what drives his devotion. The devotion aspect is new to me, but I’ve done research on devotion and have come up with some ideas based on the research. I researched both the meaning of devotion in general and how people have used devotion in a Wife Led Marriage or a Female Dominate relationship.  As you can imagine, most information on devotion related to religion and most of the Femdom devotion topics were fantasy and kink, with themes of worshipping the Female. The fun part for me is merging the two aspects together to create something that is meaningful, effective, and fun for our WLM.

Devotion Activities

I’m envisioning three major types of devotion activities. The first, and most important type, are activities that make my life better. Anything to do with pampering me, such as massages, bathing me, shaving my legs, or buying me gifts falls into this category. Other examples are washing my car, organizing my shoes, and running errands for me.

The second type of devotion activities are activities whose purpose is to reinforce his submission and devotion to me. These activities appeal to his submissive desires and have a mental impact on him. Examples include hand washing my panties, body worship, and kissing my feet.

The third type of activities are rituals of devotion, such as reciting a mantra, writing, or reciting words of praise, and incorporating a ritual approach or routine in some of the ways he serves me.

He already does many of these activities and we currently have a few rituals in place. What is different now is that he has a deep devotional mindset when he is doing the activities and I am going to do more to encourage and expect devotion from him. My plan is to incorporate into his weekly schedule, a few additional devotion and ritualistic type of interactions with me. For example, I will have him kneel before me more often, such as when I want to talk to him about tasks or errands he needs to do for me, upcoming social or family activities, serious topics, etc. When watching TV together, I may order him to sit at my feet. I may even text him if I am on my way home and order him to kneel and wait by the front door for me. How great would it be to have him kneeling when I enter, ready to welcome me home, take off my shoes, and give my feet a nice worship kiss? We’ll see how it goes. I enjoy taking a slow approach to change because it is fun to mold him into something new. It is also a good way to properly train him without him fully realizing his fate. In the beginning, I’ll have him kneel for a few things but over time, I’ll introduce more and more kneeling, and eventually It will become a normal part of his life for him to be kneeling or sitting on the floor when he talks to me or is around me.

Kissing and worshipping my body is another activity that will become more common for him. Currently he massages me several times a week, and that is already a body worship activity for him as he does it in a ritualistic way, kissing my body as he massages me. Nothing about that ritual will change.  Something else I currently do is have him worship my ass with his tongue. Ass worship is an occasional indulgence for me, but I think I’ll look for ways to incorporate it more often as a devotional activity, such as at the end of my massage or before we go out to a social event with friends. Can you imagine the effect it will have on him, if right before we are ready to leave, I order him to kneel and then I pull down my shorts or lift my skirt and order him to worship my ass with his tongue? Even if it is just a minute or two of tongue worship, it will be enough to switch his brain into full submissive mode and help him stay focused on me all day or night, especially if I tell him I will expect more when we return home.

Scent of a Woman

I’ve read where having guys kiss and lick your armpits can have quite an effect on them. It sounds silly to me but apparently there are guys that get aroused at the scent of a women’s armpit. For submissive men, I can see how it can be used as a domination technique. Ordering a guy to smell and kiss your armpit can be demeaning and a turn on for him. Supposedly it can be very arousing for the woman to be kissed and licked under her arms. I may have to give that one a try!

While we are on the topic of scents, another devotion activity that I will require him to do is sniffing my panties. I’ve discovered over the years that it is exciting and arousing for guys to sniff a woman’s scent from her worn panties. My husband is not shy about admitting this. I’ve gagged him with my panties before and have allowed him to sniff them. In the past, it’s been more fantasy play and a great way to get him into submissive mode. However, now under our new “devotion regiment,” inhaling my scent becomes a form of worship and deepens his devotion to me. I plan on placing my panties over his face on occasion and ordering him to worship my scent while he kneels or lays in bed and meditates on how to stay devoted to me. Maybe that becomes a once-a-month activity for him. I might even have him start and end the panty sniffing by taking a deep breath to inhale and then recite a short mantra or truth. I really like the idea of making the panty sniffing a ritual as opposed to just some kink. This way it attaches some meaning to the activity, that ultimately benefits me because his mind is focused on me during and after the ritual.

Worshipping the scent of my feet is another devotional activity that I read about, which I thought sounded fun. As many of you know, I occasionally use Thomas as my footstool. He kneels before me on hands and knees and I rest my feet on his back. This new activity I read about is to have him lie on the floor on his back with his head at my feet. This way I can rest my feet directly on his face and he can inhale the wonderful smell of my beautiful feet while he serves as my footrest. I can read or watch TV while he quietly worships my feet with each breath he takes. I also like that in this position, I can easily tease his cock with my feet every now and then. Similar to the panty sniffing ritual, I can order him to take a few deep breaths and recite his truth before each breath while my feet are on his face.

Those are some of the fun things I’ll incorporate into our existing activities to keep his devotion strong.  In addition, I will plan on at least one “devotion night” during the week that he must be 100% focused on being devoted to me. To get his mind focused properly on devotion night, I will require him to do a transition ritual as soon as he is done work. The ritual will involve him changing into a devotion outfit and reciting a truth.

The Devotion Outfit

I love having special outfits for Thomas to wear and so I am excited to come up with a new outfit for him for his devotion activities. I have the brilliant idea of getting him white bridal panties; the kind with a veil/silk bow on the back. A sexy bridal garter to wear around his thigh (or perhaps one on each wrist, symbolic of cuffs) will be a perfect accessory for his outfit. He would look so cute in them! The bridal theme will be a nice reminder of the day he devoted his life to me; except back then he had no clue that when he said, “I do,” it would lead to him being my devoted slave.

The change into his devotion outfit will help him mentally transition from work mode to devoted slave mode. Once in devoted slave mode he will not be allowed to speak the rest of the night except when directed by me.

Reciting A Truth

One idea that intrigued me when researching ideas for devotion, was to have a “truth” for him to repeat over and over again. A truth is a short and simple phrase that the devotee says, which reinforces their reality or something that they want to strive to be or do. Examples of truth’s that I thought of for Thomas:

• I always obey and yield to you
• I exist for your pleasure (or I exist for Goddess Kaylee’s pleasure)
• I live to be your slave.
• I am devoted to serving Goddess Kaylee and making her life better.
• I am your property now and forever

 

I can also use truths to help correct bad behavior. I have a feeling I will be using this strategy often. For example:

• It is my duty to make the kitchen spotless every night
• I will fold Goddess Kaylee’s panties neatly when I put them away 

I plan on coming up with a new truth each week and writing it on a sticky note and leaving it with his devotion outfit.  As part of his transition routine, I will instruct him to repeat the truth over and over again in his mind while he is dressing and preparing for his devotion night. When he is properly dressed, he is to find me and quietly kneel before me.  When I am ready, I will order him to recite his truth to me (and will probably make him repeat it a few times for me).

Then I will give him his assignments for the night. There will definitely be one or two assignments in the “activities that benefit me category.” I will likely also include one activity to strengthen his submission and devotion. The transition ritual takes care of the “ritual activity” but I may throw another one in by the end of the night.

Potential Devotion Activities

Category 1: Activities that make my life better

1. Organizing/refolding my clothes
2. Washing and cleaning my car
3. Waiting on me hand and foot all night – 100% focused on me and waiting for me to give an order.
4. Running errands for me (or chauffeuring me around)
5. Cleaning/polishing all my shoes, sneakers, and sandals.
6. Pampering me
7. Buying me a gift or buying me flowers
8. Planning a fun day for me or a fun activity to do with me. 

Category 2: Activities that reinforce his submission and devotion

      1. Hand wash or sniff my panties
      2. Body worship – feet, ass, arm pits, or whole body worship.
      3.  Give up something for a period of time as a sign of devotion to me
      4.   No talking
      5.   Not allowed to sit on furniture
      6.   Kneeling, meditating, corner time

Category 3: Rituals of Devotion

       1. Recite a mantra or truth
       2. Write and sign a short letter of devotion to me – how will he be a better slave for me, what                      will he do to make my life better, what does he appreciate about me, etc.
        3.  Create a formal ritual in how he does something (such as the transition ritual noted above). 

Our weekly schedule could change often, so instead of having a fixed weeknight for devotion, I will inform him during his weekly review, which night will be the devotion night for upcoming week. Depending on my schedule and what I want, I may inform him of his devotion activities the night before. The beauty of all this is that I don’t always have to be present on his devotion night. I could have a night out with the girls while leaving him with a list of activities and rituals to do.

When trying something new, I think it is important for the wife (not the husband!) to be flexible in the approach.  I’ve listed a bunch of ideas but I may only give a few a try. I do not plan on doing all ideas every week. I will try to stick with the weekly devotion night, but if it is too much, I may space it out every few weeks. Hopefully we’ll settle into a schedule that works well.

Lastly, I want to reiterate the message from my last post, that true devotion is driven by the devotee (my husband). I would expect my devoted husband to do many of the category 1 activities on his own throughout the month, without prompting from me. The strategy I outlined above is my way of encouraging and supporting his devotion and making it even more fun for both of us. And the rewards….well…worshipping my feet, body, and ass, sniffing my panties, being allowed to pleasure me and serve me – They are his rewards! If he is truly devoted, there will very little reasons for punishment, which allows for more time for devotion activities.

-Mz Kaylee