More on the Discipline Jar

How I use the Discipline Jar has evolved a bit so I thought I would give an update. If you've read my previous post, you know that I instituted the jar as a way to discipline my husband rather than having regular spanking sessions.  The way it works is that if he does something not to my expectations, I fine him $1, which goes into a jar by my bed side and becomes my money.  Once the jar reaches $10, he is disciplined and spanked one time for each dollar in the jar.

The jar has worked out well but how I use it has evolved into something more and some of the rules have changed.  I have found that after the initial introduction of the jar, the $1 fine is not as impactful. Therefore, I have doubled the fine to $2 and I use my discretion much more to increase the fine amount.  For example, previously if Thomas forgot to put dishes away, I would fine him $1.  Now, I fine him $1 for every dish that was not put away (well actually it is now $2 per dish.).  Another example is that twice he did not put his shoes away.  The first time was a $2 fine but the second time I doubled it to $4 and told him the fine would continue to double each time he did not put his shoes away.  I have not had a problem with his shoes ever since.

Since the fine has increased, I also increased the punishment threshold from $10 to $20.  However, the beauty of this is that now when he is punished he gets spanked 20 times instead of 10.  I have found that spanking in sets of 2 or 3 spanks instead of one spank at a time is very effective and also fun for me.  I also added a twist.  If at the time of his punishment, there is more than $20 in the jar, he will be spanked for the total dollars in the jar, but the excess dollars still count towards his next spanking.  As an example, if there is $22 in the jar when I administer the spanking, he will get 22 spanks and he will already have $2 applied towards his next spanking.  Only $18 more in penalties and he is due for another spanking!

In addition to the typical discipline items, I have begun to use the penalties as a tool to train him on specific things.  This methodology just seemed to happen naturally for me.  As an example, I focused on how he cleans the kitchen. I became very strict about wiping down the sink and the timing of when dishes get washed and put away.  These are things that annoyed me a bit in the past but it was not always worth the effort to enforce.  However, now I can fine him easily with little effort.  Once I was satisfied with the kitchen, I moved on to how he puts clothes away.  I am not sure which area I will hit on next :). Little-by-little I am molding him into my perfect little submissive husband.  Not only is he getting better at pleasing me, I am also making money in the process. Thomas has even admitted that he enjoys how strict I have become.

I have learned that issuing the discipline and/or punishments when he hits the dollar threshold is important. Otherwise, the penalties become more of a game for him.   I notice he is much more obedient immediately after discipline or punishment. The standard approach is that when he reaches the dollar thresh hold, I will instruct him to begin wearing his uncomfortable punishment panties and he will have to wear them until we have the discipline session.  I only do these sessions on the weekend.  Therefore if he reaches the thresh hold on Monday, he will be wearing them all week. 

 He will always be spanked at least one time for each dollar in the jar.  What is different about his spankings now compared to the biweekly discipline sessions that I did prior to the discipline jar, is that our discussion is more general. Previously he would receive spanks for very specific items that I noted.  However, now that he is fined immediately, I don't mark down each item. When I spank him, I will mention a few of the key areas of improvement needed that stuck out since the last spanking.  I will also talk about how quick or how long it has been since the last spanking.  If it has been a short time, he's going to feel a little pain but if it has been a long time since the last spanking, my spanks will be more playful. On one occasions, I was not in the mood for discussion and so he just got 20 hard spanks with little remarks other than, "this is what you earned."  I may tack on a punishment if I feel it is necessary.  Usually the spanking and punishment panties are enough.  However, if I feel he hit the punishment threshold too quickly, I will add a punishment.  If needed, I will still issue punishments outside of the discipline jar process. If at any time he purposely disobeys me or does something that I feel is completely inappropriate, he will be punished (and fined) immediately.

All-in-all, I am glad I instituted the discipline jar.  The immediate feedback from the fines has helped improve Thomas's obedience.  It has also become an effective training tool for me while at the same time, requiring less effort from me.  Finally, I've gotten a little extra spending money through the process. I am always happy to show off to Thomas what I bought with the money.

MzKaylee