Thanks to all who participated in the discussion from the last post. There were quite an array of responses - some agree, some disagree and some in the middle. A few people took it a step further and talked about men actually being treated like a child or baby, which was not the intent of my question, but I enjoyed the comments and hearing about the experiences. I was glad to see differing opinions because that makes a good discussion and leads to more thought provoking comments. More people disagreed than agreed with the statement that "dealing with men is like dealing with a five year old." I think that is because more men responded than women. Special thanks to the few women that responded. It was disappointing that we did not hear from more women because the question really is aimed at women. While I enjoyed reading all the comment from the guys, the reality is that guys can not fairly comment on the subject because it is the women who have to deal with them.
The idea of posting the question came as a result of correspondence I was having with another woman who is in a WLM. As we shared our experiences and dynamics in our WLMs, we both concluded that many of the things we do with our husbands are similar to what you would do with a child. Examples include: having to punish or spank them, sending them to the corner, being very specific and authoritative when telling them what to do, having to regularly monitor the tasks that they do to ensure they are done correctly, telling them "good boy," regularly questioning them on things they've done, and talking with them, using a motherly tone.
Some of the reactions and things that submissive men do also reminded us of what a child would do. The guilty look on his face when I question him about sitting in my chair, the sad look when he is punished, or the pouting when he is not happy are examples. Another common example is how submissive men are constantly vying for our attention and will do silly or bad things just to get it. We can see right through that boys! On the positive side, when I use a strict and demanding tone he responds immediately, similar to a child who knows not to disobey his mother in that moment.
I am not implying the submissive men are the same as a five-year old and that men have the same maturity level of a five-year old. There are moments when they act like a child but overall submissive men certainly are more mature than than a child. My earlier post on the "Strong Submissive Man," emphasizes the the many great qualities of submissive men and those strong qualities are clearly above the level of a five-year old. What I am merely stating in this post is that there are similarities in dealing with children and dealing with submissive men,
Dealing with submissive men is like dealing with a child but that is not necessarily a bad thing. It is just something for women to understand as the embark on a WLM. Women need to feel comfortable punishing their husbands, being authoritative, and acting in a motherly way toward them. It may seem strange at first but the more you accept and do these things, the more natural it feels and the better results you will get with your husband.
-Mz Kaylee.
My Wife is of the opinion that only Women are really adults and boys go from boys to bois. Femsup
ReplyDeleteI was frequently put in the corner, in the WLM before the current one. I miss that. It was supposed to be a punishment, too. Mind you, when she punished me, I never forgot it.
ReplyDeleteHello M Kaylee, Debbie here. My mother always says that "men will only do what's right if they don't have any other choice". I agree and understand that it entails strict control of her husband. And, you are so right that women need to feel comfortable punishing their husbands and being strict with them. Even on a good day David knows I'm in charge and acts accordingly; if not, he suffers the consequences.
ReplyDeleteHi Mz. Kaylee,
ReplyDeleteA confident woman in charge is hard to resist. A 5 year old has no choice but a 15 year old does because he is likely physically stronger than his mother. A mother who did a good job raising her children and exerts herself will always be obeyed by her children forever. Why, because she is confident and uses her feminine authority.
The feminine authority translates to all relationships given the right circumstances. If a wife exerts herself with confidence her husband will obey, but he has to have a quid pro quo at some point. Some men will just obey because they are truly just beta males. A beta male is different than a submissive male. A submissive male gains peace through obedience but the quid pro quo is sexual in nature. The wife must understand this otherwise all he has is someone telling to do things he may not want to do. That works for a beta male (who could all be submissive), but does not for a sub who is alpha in nature (like me). The cool part for the wife, is she will gain a husband who is focused in pleasing her, if she stirs up and directs his sexual energy.
Some women may not like this concept, but the truth is a healthy male has a lifelong commitment through hormones or otherwise to want to have sex. If the wife is lucky enough to have a sub, then this energy is easily directed if she gets understand what "makes him tick".
A healthy male without the ability to act on his his sexual needs will eventually fall into porn or the arms of another. That sucks. Women get turned off, or use withholding sex as a weapon. This also sucks. Rather than use sex as a weapon, use it as an incentive to please each other with he woman in control at all times. So simple, but very you couple get to this place for a I'm sure litany of reasons.
Sooooooo, back to the 5 year old question. A man under the control of his mistress wife, will at times look like a 5 year old to her, because she is respected on the same level as a 5 year old and that is how we look when we are caught! The difference is the husband has (sort of) submitted by choice, which really only works if she understands how to maintain the dynamic. If she really understands her man and acts accordingly, it really stops being a choice if she truly becomes a confident, in charge mistress wife. That is exciting, maybe fantasy, but maybe not!
That is what is cool about your blog here. You have a rare place where women can go if they choose to learn how to take charge of willing male. But perhaps even bring out the sub inside a man who does not even know he has that in him. I believe most men (guessing 70%) can be handled my a capable dominant wife for their mutual benefit.
Alright, kind of ramble on there.
Thanks for what you do Mz. Kaylee.
KL