As I noted in a previous post, some of the rules and protocols that I used during Boot Camp with my husband, I decided to continue outside of Boot Camp. One rule that I've used regularly since Boot Camp is the no talking rule. At least once a week I designate a time frame when Thomas is not to speak unless I ask him a direct question. Sometimes it occurs on a weeknight after work and a few times I've used the rule all day on Saturday or Sunday. On days when talking is allowed, I've been working with him (code for training him) on only speaking when he has something of value to add that I want to hear. In other words, I don't want him to insert his opinion when it's not needed and I don't want him to talk about things that annoy me or that I have no interest in. The training is going quite well!
I have to admit that it is fabulous to have him sit quietly next to me and only talk when I ask him a question. It is also enjoyable that I can order him to do something and he can not question me or add his own commentary. He just obeys without a word. I like that a lot!! In that past he has frequently told me that he feels owned by me. Well I can tell you that his obedience without comment gives me the feeling of ownership of him.
Recently, on one of the evenings in which the no talking rule was in effect, I was in the mood for sex. When I gave him permission to pleasure me, I also reminded him that he was not allowed to talk. The only words he was allowed to say were "please stop," if he was about to have an orgasm. I also decided not to say much so he had to pay close attention to my body language and follow my lead on how to pleasure me. Eventually I ended up on top of him, riding him until I had an orgasm. When I was done I told him how great it was and before he could respond, I told him again in a firm tone, that he was not allowed to talk. He was to remain silent until the morning. He was fully aroused but all he could do was lay silently next to me while I read in bed.
It was fun and exciting for me to tease his cock and use him for my pleasure without him being allowed to talk or orgasm. He was silent before, during, and after sex. This made him completely submissive and 100% focused on me and my pleasure. He existed as my sex toy to play with and use anyway I wanted. This parallels the concepts written about in the guest post a few weeks ago from Mistress Kym on objectification. In particular, her words "you own it, and use it as you desire or need," resonated well with my experience.
It was an exciting experience for both Thomas and I and one that I will most definitely do again!
-Mz Kaylee
Have you tried this rule out in public yet, Mz Kaylee? I think that it would be even more exciting for you.
ReplyDeleteI have but it does not always work well. I've had to make a few exceptions. For example, when we go out to eat, it is no fun for me to sit quietly so I do allow him to talk then. Also, when we are with friends or family, I relax the rule. However, it works well when we are out shopping or doing errands together.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great rule, it takes no effort on your part and keeps him thinking of you constantly. I think my wife feels the same about the chastity device. She knows every time I try to touch myself, get excited, or have to sit to pee, that I am thinking of her and it takes no effort on her part to achieve this.
ReplyDeleteYour description of your lovemaking brings back memories. Some of the deepest subspaces for me was laying in bed after sex. She would have had several orgasms and be casually flipping through her phone or reading and I would be hard and wanting, knowing we were finished. Even though nothing was being said we were both thinking the same thing. Take care-Alan
My wife rule is simple, Children are to be seen not heard. So when I get a spanking, I'm allowed to respond to if directly spoken to. Facing the wall, especially if her mother or best friend happen to drop in I best not say anything, another trip over her lap will be the result. When going out to eat, I try not to squirm, but if the waitress notice and ask I must say I was spanked by my wife. Interesting comments follow. Jack
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post, Mz Kaylee. As a sub, many times i just want to express how much submissive, obedient or pleasing i want to be for my Queen, and this definitely expresses all that without a single word :)
ReplyDeleteGreat post Mz Kaylee...I can't see myself lasting too long in this scenario, so kudos to your husband. Did it take some training? I'm thinking it might be one way I can get back into "her" bed again, by promising not to orgasm.
ReplyDeleteTim- if you referring to him not orgasming during sex, then yes it took some training for him and patience by me. Sometimes I have to stop and give him a break but most time he is able to last without stopping.
DeleteHe's lucky you have such patience. If you don't mind me asking, any advice for men whose wives aren't so patient? Back when I was allowed in my wife's bed she would try this with me but it rarely worked. Eventually she grew tired, she said, of stopping to punish any transgressions, which she felt was necessary to reinforce her expectations but which also sort of ruined her mood.
DeleteYou exude power, authority, and control, Mz Kaylee. You have taken a basic freedom of speech and turned it into a privilege which must be earned by unselfishly obeying, serving, and pleasing you. Objectification is a powerful technique for focusing a man’s thoughts and actions on pleasing his Goddess. Power and control by a woman is very arousing.
ReplyDeleteAs mere men our total purpose for existing is to please our Female Owner. Nothing else. That alone can justify our existence. Thank you Mz. Kaylee, femdom101 is offline now. Glad I found You...slave billy
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ReplyDeleteI enjoyed you post on the 'No Talking Rule'. It's certainly something that every female-led-relationship should have in place - men just don't know when to shut up! LOL!. I have a 'No Talking Rule' that applies to David and beta-male visitors. Mom also had a similar rule in force, as do my sisters and aunts. I have established times when David is allowed to speak, otherwise he is only to speak when spoken to by me or another woman. And his answers are to be direct and to the point I don't want to hear his opinions or rambling points-of-view. Like you I don't want to be bothered by things that are annoying or in which I have no interest. My No Talking Rule applies inside my home as well as in public. No matter where we are I can - and do! - evoke the No Talking Rule.
David is a full time househusband so I have to speak with him regarding his chores. I have regular times set up when he is allowed to speak but these times aren't carved in stone - I can make changes when I want. Weekday mornings from 6:30 to 7:30 are talk times as are evenings from 5:30 to 6:30. These times should be more than adequate for managing his daily schedule and for him to brief me on how his day went; all the more important since he manages - read 'cleans' - our home as well as those of mom and three of my girlfriends. A few things Mom, my sisters, and I do:
- No talking after 5:30 PM. I want my quiet time
- On weekends David serves me breakfast in bed - No Talking!
- If I'm working from home no talking as long as I'm engaged in work activities even if my conversation extends in to talk times
- No talking if female visitors are present with exception of extending them common courtesies
- Saturdays are laundry and ironing day - in the interest of efficiency, no talking!
- When cleaning mom's and my other girlfriend's homes, no talking, unless receiving instructions or critique
- No talking when ever I say so. David understands that my saying “ENOUGH!” or, in more extreme situations, “SHUT UP!” is to elicit no more than a “Yes, Ma'am” to say he understands. David also understands that my quickly moving my hand horizontally means to shut up
David likes the No Talking Rule since he isn't good at impromptu discussions and small talk. Additionally he is keenley aware that most women aren't concerned with male opinions or conversation. Another thing David let me know is that, when acceptable to the women, he loves listening to female conversations - he learns a lot.
Overall, I love the No Talking Rule and think women should consider using it. It's also a great way for a woman to reinforce her power and his submissiveness.
Debbie
You have your husband trained very well, Mz Kaylee. I can’t imagine going a whole day without saying a word to my partner, especially before, during and after sex. It is definitely effective training for keeping a man focused entirely on his Goddesses desires and commands. It is good for a man not to speak while women are talking unless of course he is asked a question. He should never interrupt or distract a woman while she is talking. I like to listen to women’s conversations when I am permitted because I do learn a lot. It is a little humiliating not to be allowed to speak in the presence of other women, but it definitely trains a man to think before he speaks to a Goddess or her friends and relatives. After Goddess restores the privilege of talking to her. Things that men normally take for granted are a privilege in the presence of your Goddess and she has total control over them.
ReplyDeleteI'm not allowed to speak unless my wife asks me a question. When we are out or at other people houses I usually don't speak much unless someone asks me a question then my wife will usually tell me to answer or answer for me.
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