I am thrilled to publish another guest post written by a Female. In this post, Debbie provides great examples on how she measures her husband's performance. Debbie also has a profile full of great information in the profile section. Thanks for being an amazing Goddess Debbie and contributing to the blog! -MzKaylee
I loved your post concerning new year's resolutions. You come across like an Ivy League MBA when you say “It's important to be specific and to identify the steps to achieve your goals.” One of my mantras from the business world that I apply in my FLM is “You can't manage what you can't measure”. All employees at work have specific objectives - why shouldn't my submissive husband?
So, I set out to specifically define what I wanted when David cleaned the living room. Or what I expected when 'cleaning the bathroom' was on David's agenda. Same thing for ironing, laundry, car care and so on. Mother developed the standards and trained David in each one. David was given a pink covered journal to write down the specifics of each task. Mother walked him around the living room, for example, calling out each area of concern and what was entailed and checking it off his list. After his initial training Mother stood over him twice more, making comments or corrections and allowing David to ask questions. I have to stop here and address male fantasies - NO mother is NOT standing over David wearing a mini dress with fishnet pantyhose - this is all about work, not about male fantasies.
Chores are divided into four categories - spring cleaning, party, mid-week, and refresh. Spring cleaning is the most intense, it's done in spring, of course, but also in getting ready for the winter holidays. At my direction spring cleaning might be done as many as four times a year and includes heavy tasks such as cleaning and rehanging drapes, deep cleaning carpets, polishing silverware, moving furniture, etc. Party entails cleaning after entertaining visitors - dusting, vacuuming, spot cleaning the rugs for spills, etc. Freshen is light dusting, vacuuming, sanitizing the bathrooms, etc.
David has to wear a feminine apron while doing chores, whether at home or when cleaning at a girlfriend's home, or whether we have visitors. When ladies visit, David's focus is on serving them and then getting back to his chores Some time back two of my girlfriends dropped in while David was cleaning. One of the women commented, “WOW, Id love to have a guy around to clean my place. within minutes David had two more ladies to clean for. He spends one morning a week housekeeping for these two ladies.
The bottom line here is that women will get what they want only when they take the time to lay things out for their hubby and hold him to them. And David? He loves his submissive role and readily admits that he's “living the dream”
-Debbie
Well I can definitely relate to this. Since the beginning of Covid when my work shifted to "at home" my wife also began transitioning the majority of chores to me as well. To put it lightly, my "training" was quite thorough and rigorous as my wife is incredibly detail oriented and meticulous, and really wasn't satisfied until her expectations were not only met, but exceeded. While I don't wear an apron or curtsy or anything I do often feel like a glorified maid, as many days the bulk of our communication will be her giving orders and me following them. Also, I too clean for several of her girlfriends so I am curious how your husband responded to that and also what/how your girlfriends reacted.
ReplyDeleteDavid had the time to do housekeeping for - now - three of my girlfriends. As for how my "husband responded"? With full acceptance, of course, after all he's a submissive gentleman who sees serving women as a be-all, end-all
DeleteIn terms of his response I meant more how was the learning curve for him in terms of "serving" other women, cleaning to their standards, etc. Are he and/or you present when they examine his work? Just curious about the details and also what they say to you about how you've trained him, the quality of his housework, etc.
DeleteNo learning curve here, David has been very well trained by mother and I. The ladies David does housekeeping for are happy with his performance. As for inspections, not really needed since David knows the standards he has to adhere to and he does so. The ladies David works for work from home and have little time for supervision. They greet him when he arrives and when he leaves. That David knows what's to be done frees the ladies to do their business related work or maybe just spend time relaxing. And what does David say about being a full time housekeeper? He LOVES IT! Debbie
DeleteHi Debbie
ReplyDeleteThis is fantastic info. I wish there was a way to have more dialogue or q&a. I'm curious how the cuckold relationship developed and how dating affected the dynamic with you, David and mom. How involved is David and was your mom supportive training him from the beginning as well as both agreeing for you to see others?
How often does David get a release and is there any physical/sexual touching?
I'm sure it's a lot of questions but your story is incredible and wish to learn more.
Thanks!
tony will gladly do any chore as long as I sexualize it, such as: him wearing an apron and nothing else, a promise of being sexually stimulated if he does a good job, me talking dirty to him, me holding his cock while I assign a chore, me flashing a boob or butt or pussy at him, me reclining half-dressed while he works, a promise of a fun spanking for him afterwards, a not-fun motivational spanking beforehand, him getting to take off his cage to lick me so he can have an erection, etc., etc. Anything I can think of to arouse him gets the chore done straightaway!
ReplyDeleteDebbie, great advice. It's wise to have everything written out - men appreciate it and it avoids the "I can't read your mind." problem. Sometimes my wife sees things I definitely miss!
ReplyDeleteFor Debbie and Tim, when cleaning for other women, how much do they know about your FLR?
Trina, you're right - sexualizing chores is key to FLR chore success. My wife will me around the house by my penis to point out each item that needs to be cleaned. It's a system that works for us!
CK
We are open about our FLR so friends - male and female - are certainly aware. They know that I wear the pants in the family and at my direction David is a full time homemaker. We are evangelists for a woman-in-charge lifestyle and encourage women to assert themselves and men to take on a submissive role. Happy wife, happy life! Debbie
DeleteDear Ms. Debbie,
ReplyDeleteThank you for all you have shared. Wow!
In what manner did you two decide to get married?
I am sure that You and Your Mother tease him,
Would you be willing to share that with us?
When David is loaned out to other Women for domestic
services, do these Women tease him?
Do You enjoy feminizing him?
What type of outfits does he wear?
Has he come to enjoy crossdressing?
Have you given him a Feminine name?
Do You allow him intimate privileges with You?
Best wishes to You Goddess Debbie, Your boyfriends and your husband.
a poet
My wife wears the pants in this family, I'm lazy by nature, and from our dating to our marriage, she addresses this, and have learned best to do my share. At first I said No, she did nothing until one Saturday morning, getting out of the shower, she applied her hand to my bare bottom, it stung, and then she sat on the toilet, over her lap and the hand landed hard and fast. She told me to get to the bedroom, rubbing I did so, she pulled the vaniety chair out, picked up her hairbrush and told back over her lap. When she felt I was spanked enough, was taken to the kitchen, told to put on her apron and then had to clean the kitchen, front room, and if I was not doing it right, the hairbrush was getting my bare bottom attention. To this day, I do the housework, thankful not with just an apron on, but it is still part of my punishment. My mother-in-law dropped in and saw me with just an apron, and my very red bare bottom. She said did Mommy give her naughty little boy a spanking, I said yes when my wife walked in. Like that Mother she said, he has been a naughty little boy and Mommies spank naughty little boys, so giving my bare bottom a spank, you will call me Mommy, Yes Mommy. Almost forgot her Mother said, it is in the car, she left and came back with a bath brush, does wonders Dear, Thanks Mom, it will get used. Jack
ReplyDeleteGuys - please read Debbie's profile and stop peppering her with questions. It's tiring.
ReplyDeleteIll provide some responses to some of the questions posted.
DeleteAs I noted in my profile David and I were married when we graduated from college. Even back then the femdom nature of our relationship was apparent. We've moved through the spectrum of Femdom and are better for it. We have a rich and satisfying life style
David is a full time housekeeper. I had him quit his job since he wasn't contributing much to our financial picture. I felt David's time would be better spent by his taking care of our house on a full time basis. To ensure that David performs his chores how I like we developed standards for each of his tasks. There's no misunderstanding as to what I mean when he's to clean the living room, do the laundry, iron, and so on. It's all spelled out and David like it that way. He wants to please me and having everything laid out ensures that he does.
Two of my girlfriends were visiting and admired David busily cleaning the kitchen - this in addition to serving coffee, tea, and deserts. One of the women commented that she'd love having a guy like David around to keep her house clean. Well, in the interest of keeping David fully utilized - this is what I do on the job, keep my people fully utilized - David soon had two more houses to clean. The women are absolutely thrilled to have him. He spends seven hours cleaning each home. The women work from home when David comes to clean. There is no cross dressing, or teasing and the women aren't wearing fishnet pantyhose and high heeled shoes - it's NOT ABOUT male fantasies. It's about serving. David loves the work and so do the women.
Debbie
That's phenomenal. Great training. Do you and David spend time alone?
DeleteBoth sound busy
I think it could be great if authors can elaborate on certain aspects and dynamics of their profile. There was a time mz Kaylee could use more material and going deeper on what works best from these female readers can be great perspective and provoke a good amount of discussion. It's the storytelling and sharing of life stories is what fascinates, interests and inspires others. Great teaching opportunity.
ReplyDeleteI agree Mike.
DeleteDebbie, and David are a shining example of what a FLR can become, and the mutual joy that can be achieved. I love it when I hear about another husband being "trained" by his wife. It's truly what I got, and needed.
ReplyDeleteI recall an entry on an old blog named "Worshipping Your Wife". A husband was having difficulty doing all the housework properly. So his wife made him apply at three hotels, for a housekeeping position. He had a job two days later. He still having to clean their house, plus all the laundry. But now he was also working ten hours per day an average of five, to six days per week, for six months without the option to quit. All of his pay was turned over to his wife, as this was education, and practice for him. Within a month he was impeccable at scrubbing showers, and toilets, could strip, and make a bed with straight sheet edges, and no wrinkles. His ability to vacuum properly, yet efficiently, and wipe sinks was top knotch. Then he had five more months to improve from there. Between the hotel, and home he was housekeeping about fifteen hours per day! These are the kind of wives you want to land, and hold onto. Practice makes perfect.
It's important to 'train' ones husband so that he is well versed in what and how tasks are to be done. After initially training David he was competent enough to do his tasks according to my expectations. Early on inspections were more frequent but the need for them has fallen off. Whenever David does housework it's 'no talk' time, although he is permitted to ask questions should they arise. David understands that housekeeping is a time for work and not for socializing.
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