On occasion I will prohibit my husband from speaking unless I ask him a direct question or give him permission to speak. If asked a question or given permission to speak, he is to be brief and to the point. Preventing your husband from speaking is a powerful tool to get him focused on you and to reinforce your control over him and his submissiveness.
There are two situations in which I put this rule into effect. The first is when I feel he is focused too much on himself. Sometimes he gets in these moods where he is just whining or complaining or frankly just babbling and I get tired of it so I put the rule into effect. Ahh...the silence is nice! When he is silent it helps reset his mood and refocus his attention back to me. It is not easy to be silent and so he has to work at it. If he wants something from me he has to first decide if it is important enough to bother me with. Then he has to figure out how to communicate it to me. He may write it down, do some silly gesture, or ask for permission to speak, It really is quite cute some times. What I like the most is that when I give an order, he obeys immediately without comment. He is my speechless slave. When I talk to him he listens intently and does not comment. It is so nice to be listened to :). The forced silence has a wonderful submissive effect on him.
The second situation in which I use this rule is when I want to have fun with him and exert my dominance over him. If I am in one of my moods where I just want to dominate for kinky fun (and he loves these moods), I may put this rule into effect since it immediately puts him into a listening and submissive mode. Then it is just me spouting off orders and him obeying. He becomes so submissive so quickly in these situations. It's also fun taking him out in public when the silence rule is in effect. The dynamic is so much fun at a restaurant when he can not speak and I must order for him and take care of everything with the waiter/waitress.
I typically only keep this rule in effect for one day. Sometimes I may enforce it for the whole weekend or several nights during the week to get him refocused. There are a few exceptions that I allow. He can communicate with the kids, but only if there is a need or they engage him in conversation. If friends or family come over, the rule is relaxed temporarily. Otherwise, he is expected to be silent.
I encourage you to use this technique in your relationship. I think you will like the results.
-Mz Kaylee.
I like this rule a lot, it seems like it would be a lot of fun, but this rule and the participation it only works if your husband actually wants to participate right? I can't imagian a waiter asking if I would want more water and I just look at them with a blank stare or refuse to talk to them I couldn't bring my self to be rude to people in public cause my wife told me I couldn't speak though my wife would relish in laughter after the waiter walked away thinking I'm a huge creep or weirdo haha, but I find it strange with the kid thing only let your husband talk to them if they engage him first that seems alittle much, agian I see a lot of fun with this rule but then agian I could only see my self not talking to my wife and not anyone else I see no reason for our kinky game to involve others. Personally if my wife said no talking I might actually find that a life saver as I don't have to tell her about my day or give her details that she is always wanting or knowing more than just it was good, and even if she started talking to me about her day I'd be very happy not to tell her my opinion since she told me not to talk, she probably doesn't care what I think, so her talking wouldn't change anything cause I wouldn't have to engage her in conversation and being me I would take everything she said so literally I would probably make her mad and not tell her anything like get in the car and leave not answer phone calls or texts change the channel, make my self dinner cause I can't ask her if she wants it I think i could only do this rule for about a day tops before my wife would get fed up with my antics haha.
ReplyDeleteI guess what I was trying to say was I could only do your #2 I would need a time limit cause I have bad ADHD and a one track mind that jumps from one thing to the other and actually my wife would love this rule for a few nights a week for a few hours here and there cause I can ramble and ramble and she would definitely love a mute button, I definitely know she would haha, and submitting to her rule and silence would be a lot easier to do for a couple hours especially if there was a list like make dinner, run bubble bath, poor glass of wine, put kids to bed, put fav show on have ice cream ready and sitting on couch ready for her and no talking foot rub and then bed she would love nights like that but I know she needs my rambling from time to time but her being able to control and silence me would drive me crazy with submitting to her what fun and challenging but most fun.
ReplyDeleteyes...now you aer getting it.
DeleteDear Mz Kaylee,
ReplyDeleteI believe it's not only a powerful tool but also a fundamental right of the wife to prevent the husband from speaking. It's exercised at will by my wife and although frustrating at times, it deeply reinforces her dominance and I fail miserably at resisting it.
This powerful tool also works the other way, that is the wife's power of being silent. Sometimes the silent treatments works wonders but I will probably elaborate later.
Yours Humbly,
NR
Interesting idea to ponder. Whenever I send these kinds of posts to my wife I already know what her response will be. "Why would I want to do this?
ReplyDeleteshe'll ask. "It's going to take time away from me being with you and talking with you." And that will end her thinking on the topic. So the question for you is: do you find a weekend of Thomas not speaking to you when he's been gone (at work) for the previous five days, something that brings you together or leaves you feeling like, "where did my weekend go? I didn't even get to talk with my husband and now I won't see him, except for evenings until Saturday?" I know that will be the thinking of Katie. Do you also feel that way?
Thanks for the post. Always enjoy your thoughts.
Good question. There is a right time and place for this rule. I only use it when I feel I need it or that he needs to refocus or if am just up for fun. As noted in my comment above, this rule does mean I ignore him or he is to ignore me so it does not take time away from him. He actually becomes more focused on me and a better listener during this time. Sure you could easily avoid each other because of the silence but that is not the point of the rule.
DeleteWow, I have to say I love (love, love, love) this idea. Am definately going to try it with my husband.
ReplyDeleteThis is similar to Lady Misato's "Shush!" which is described on her website but takes it a step further. "Shush!" works for us as a circuit breaker and reminds me who leads our marriage.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the post. I am sure that it would be good for me particularly to try this. Thanks.
I love this post. It's so Female centric!
ReplyDeleteEnforcing times of silence on my husband works wonders on his attitude. And the time is well spent, as it does focus him on every aspect of being my slave. There are many reasons why I may impose a period of silence. And he never knows when that might happen.
ReplyDeleteI may start his silence in the middle of a conversation. Or give him a time and date when the silence will begin. One thing I never tell him is how long this period will last. Which I believe
is an excellent training exercise. Of course he can speak in an emergency. If the house is on fire I want to know about it. Otherwise he can ask for permission to speak if he wants. But he know there is a price to pay for that permission. As I expect his chores to be done on time without excuses. So he knows he can't afford to waste time. And must consider his request carefully.
Once he decides his request is worth it. I expect him to kneel at my feet and put his head to the floor. Once his head touches the floor he is committed. And has to remain in that position until I either give him permission to speak or I dismiss him. I may keep him waiting in position for a minute or an hour. I may have him kiss my feet, I may walk away and come back later. Or I may give him a talking too about his performance. Whatever I do, he stays right there and waits. Periods of silence pay big dividends so I am usually in no hurry to let him speak. And if I dismiss him without speaking. He must wait at least an hour before trying again.
During all this he is still responsible for getting all his chores done on time. So he has to think carefully and consider if it's really worth it. After all, time he spends on his knees waiting for me to allow him to speak he can't get back.
I use silence when I need to exert my authority over my husband. For example, we were going on a trip some years ago and my husband, James, was talking about where he would like to go and what kind of hotel we would stay at and how much we could afford.
ReplyDeleteI got rather tired of his chat and said, "James, please be silent. You will not speak unless you have permission for the next two days. Now stand in the corner and think about how you have annoyed me. When you have thought about it you can ask my permission to finish your chores, ok?" He nodded and stood with his nose towards the wall for the next 15 minutes.
He is much betteer behaved when not talking.
Zoe
A great use of silence Zoe! Guys do like to ramble a lot and that's a perfect way to silence them. I enjoy the days when my husband is not lot allowed to talk.
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