Cuckolding- An expression of Power in a FLR (by John D)

Very special thanks to John D for being the first guy to submit a guest post. Thanks so much John! 
-Mz Kaylee


Cuckolding- An expression of Power in a FLR

Men are born with a core desires to please and serve the woman of his heart. Unfortunately
most couples succumb to societal expectations and never openly acknowledge or formalize Her
natural position of authority . It is not surprising that as women grow in power outside the
home that men are openly expressing their desires of submission inside the home . This desire
for submission is too often expressed in only the sexual sense and I regret that many
mainstream women considering a Female Led Relationship ( FLR ) are completely turned off by
the male fantasy components and therefore never experience the joys of female
empowerment. I believe for a FLR relationship to truly work the woman must have real power
in the relationship that goes far beyond the male fantasy leveL I live in such a relationship but it
has taken some time and good communication to get to this point . Strangely ,in the beginning
my wife was willing to play out some of the fantasy elements in the bedroom but was very
reluctant to actually take a real life position of authority in our marriage. She is still growing and
maturing but it is very clear that she is now in control. Her previous marriage ended at the
hands of an unfaithful husband which caused her great pain and a tremendous loss of
confidence Her interest in adapting our marriage to a FLR grew quickly when she began to
realize that husbands in a FLR rarely stray or even show interest in other women . I believe the
added security of a FLR was the driving force behind her decision to accept the concept and
completely embrace the dominant role in our marriage.

I recently discovered a popular physiologist by the name of , Ester Perel on u-tube while
researching the concept of “ cuckolding “ in a FLR. Although Miss Perel never brings up this
topic she has become very popular by challenging the basis of absolute and total monogamy in
marriage . She brings to point that It is rare for couples to admit that they have fantasies that
include other partners and even more rare for a marriage partner to admit that they actually
desire another individual. This is somewhat ridiculous when you consider that everyone has
fantasies and desires that go beyond our partners . Miss Perel questions the end game dynamic
of divorce that is part of the “ cheating “ effect and looks deeper at the motive. I consider her to
be absolutely brilliant and find her very entertaining.Ultimately she concludes that affairs
generally happen as a result of boredom rather than an actual loss of love. It would seem that
women and men are equally looking for a way to “ feel alive” and add back the excitement that
they first felt in their relationship. Ms Perel refers to couples that are willing to challenge the
traditional relationship in all it’s failures as “pioneers”. She does not support open relationships
but rather challenges couples to be more open and honest about their feeling inside the
relationship while exploring and expanding the traditional boundaries of marriage. I find this to
be very interesting because I believe that couples engaging in a FLR are truly pioneers in that
they have found a dynamic that brings back the excitement that all couples long for.

I have never accepted the idea of “ cuckolding “ as being part of a FLR but I have noticed that as
my wife becomes more comfortable in her dominance she is also experiencing a new level of
attention from the men she encounters. I cannot possibly explain the roller coaster of emotions
that this attention causes me and this is the reason for my research. It seems that her position
of authority is taking us in a direction that I never considered. I still do not embrace cuckolding
in its entirety and cannot imagine actually watching my wife with another man. However, she
recently began communicating with an old school flame and actually saw him on a recent
business trip to another city . She has not shared any details and I have no idea if they were
intimate. I believe this was more of a “ taste test” with plausible deniability to gauge my
reaction in real life . We are deeply in love and neither of us want to endanger our relationship.
I found the experience to be unsettling but still exciting in a way I cannot describe. When she
returned home it seemed that she had regained her youth found a new level of Joy and
excitement in her life. It is strange to consider but it really goes along with what Miss Perel
teaches. Somehow embracing a deeper level of submission that includes letting go of my
expectations of her fidelity has enhanced our love and relationships more than I could have
ever imagined.

I know for many, my ideas seem crazy but how crazy is the idea of entering into a traditional
marriage when you consider that over 40% of men and women engage in secret affairs within
their relationships. These affairs typically end the relationship and the cycle of love and deceit
begins all over again. Maybe women were never designed for monogamy ! Maybe the ideal
man that provides her family and security over a lifetime was always a compromise to her
sexuality . Maybe the man loses desire and respect for the woman he possesses and enters the
chase again in hopes of finding that woman he can never truly own! My life experience would
suggest that these truths apply to nearly all couples to some greater or lesser degree. I begin
each day competing for my wife’s attention and we have never been happier.

I have learned from Miss Perel that I have always been a pioneer. I love to explore new ideas
and experience excitement in all parts of my life . I hope my comments will encourage all that
read my words to challenge “normal” and start looking at each day as a new adventure with the
person you love. Explore the FLR concept in reality rather than fantasy. It can truly be a
practical way to add excitement to your relationship in a way you never believed was possible.

-John D