November proved to be a lucky month for Thomas in terms of orgasms. Typically he goes 6 - 8 weeks between orgasms. Sometimes it can be 3+ months. In November he got two within a week. Lucky boy! Not only did he get two, but one was during sex with him on top. It was just one of those nights where I was in the mood for good old fashioned sex. The only hint of my dominance during that moment was when he asked for permission to cum. As much as I love being in control and denying his orgasms, there is something special when we orgasm together. It feels incredible and brings us closer together. For him to be on top and orgasm is a very rare moment. The last time it happened I posted about it. I searched back through my blog and found the post dated December 2015. Wow! Three years ago. I can't believe it has been that long.
It happened both times because I wanted it. He had asked one time before if he could have normal sex with me, without any restriction on his orgasm. My response to him then was no because he gave up that right when he agreed to submit to me and he had to accept that always. Under the most recent circumstance, I wanted it and so it happened.
The rarity of it makes it even more special and thrilling when it happens. He has had orgasms during sex since Dec 2015 but only with me on top and in complete control. Those orgasms are pretty rare for him too. Probably one or two a year I'm guessing.
I have read where some women never allow their husband to orgasm during sex or even allow them to have sex at all. I would think this is a likely scenario for women who cuckold their men. I have to confess, the thought of that (no orgasms for him during sex ever) has crossed my mind and I think it is a hot fantasy. However, I do enjoy granting that privilege every now then. There is the obvious direct pleasure that we both get from it but I also like that it reminds him of what he is missing when he is being denied. I like to think that when he feels that incredible pleasure, it makes it harder for him the next time he is denied and reminds him of the ultimate reward that can occur for his continued obedience to me. It is part of the mind fuck with dominating him.
Mixing up the frequency of orgasms also adds to the tease. He never knows how long it will be until his next orgasm. When he is on edge and begging to cum, he never know whether I'll say yes or no. Apparently in the early years of our FLR, I was somewhat predictable as to when I would cave and allow him an orgasm. However, several years ago he told me that he has no idea when I will say yes. He admitted there were a few times where he was desperate and was sure I would allow him an orgasm but I did not. He confessed that he loved when that happened. I love it too! It is fun having that control over him and teasing him like that.
As noted above, I tend to deny him for long periods of time. After awhile I feel this becomes easy for him. He gets into a mental zone where he always expects me to deny his orgasm. That is why I like to mix it up a bit every so often. When he suddenly has a few orgasms in a row, it disrupts his mental state. When that happens I can tell the denial becomes challenging again for him. He gets to the edge quicker and I can sense in him a bigger hope that I will say yes versus him expecting me to say no. This keeps things fun and exciting for both of us. It is also good to keep him on his toes, which helps me maintain a higher level of control and authority over him..
One final thought on the topic is that even though I let Thomas be on top and thrust, I never felt it took away from my dominance and control over him. Sure he was enjoying it and was more the aggressor in that moment but his focus was on pleasuring me and as noted above, it happened because I wanted it to happen. He understood it was a special privilege for him.
I would love to hear from others who are in a FLR how the act of intercourse is handled. Is it allowed? Are there certain restrictions in place for him? Are there protocols or rituals that you occur each time you have sex?
-Mz Kaylee
I must ask and get explicit permission to penetrate her and then stop several times along the way to reaffirm her permission. She does this to slow me down and it helped fix a premature ejaculation I had when we were dating. I also must ask and get explicit permission before I ejaculate but she usually allows that because she loves the feel of my cum shooting into her. When we were younger it was the only way she could climax ( before she discovered my tongue) and she still likes it.A few times she has offered permission to penetrate her or to come if I accepted a hairbrush spanking afterward. I have never had the mental control to reject this offer so sometimes I pay a painful price for cumming in her but I don't really regret it. She is trying to teach me self control and responsibility which I had little of when we met.I know she controls my ass and I love her more for doing it and reminding me she has the power to do it. .
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Sometimes, my wife will invite me to enter her when she's close to climax from my hands or mouth. Even then, I'm expected to try and control myself and let her know when I'm close to climax. I don't always manage to hold off, but I'm usually forgiven!
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I have to think more about this. I have been fascinated by the whole issue of being in absolute control of things. If you control the sex, well, you control the man. I think two of the most dramatic changes in my life (and my husbands) were the total elimination of oral sex (for him) and the total requirement that he not orgasm with my approval or green light - ever. If there is a "slip up" - he is to tell me and there will be some consequence but nothing like it would be if he did not tell me and I found out myself. It really has not happened - except he has had a few "wet dreams" - he says for the first time since he was a boy. My assumption is the restriction/denial makes this happen. A lot of my husbands sex is oral - him giving it to me. Me sitting comfy in a chair or actually squatting over his face (both are amazing). If he gets to orgasm it is usually by my hands. I keep him erect a good deal (without orgasm) and I "check" him to give him an erection at times when he is leaving the house or going to do chores. I think it is both frustrating and exciting to him. However I do provide relief -- at times. I guess it is finding balance. I limit "normal" intercourse and find I get that need met mostly in other ways which I won't go into here. Very occasionally I do allow it but at this point it is usually me on top. I also have increasingly used a strap on on him. Initially I had to use my fingers a lot (to loosen him) but it is a bit more normal or easier now. I think he is learning (if that is the word - does not seem quite right) to enjoy being filled. It is of course different than when I rub his genitals but it is sexual - I think it "touches" his femaleness when I am deep in him. I will let him in me...at times but rarely now and usually me on top.
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ReplyDeleteJess- I agree with you, striking the right balance with everything is key. You have a lot of great techniques that you've shared in your comment. I encourage the women readers to read your comments as they can learn from you.
Stewart - sounds like your wife has a good sense of humor. I think most men would opt for the orgasm with hairbrush. You guys are so weak. lol! Thanks for sharing.
CK - I think for my husband, that hardest part is not having an orgasm when I am having an orgasm. If I am on top I usually can get into a position where he can last. However, sometimes we have to stop because he will not make it.
Can you please give some insight to how you stop Thomas from having ‘accidents’? In our flr that’s the hardest thing that I have controlling.
ReplyDeleteWhen do your accidents occur? We don't have an issue with accidents. When teasing, I am good with knowing when he is about to go over the edge and I stop. Also,Thomas is always required to ask permission to orgasm or ask me to stop if he is about to orgasm. He has to be smart enough to say something before it's too late.
ReplyDeletePrimarily during penetration. I can hold on when being teased or when I’m just being held (which happens most days, even when She is asleep)or even during penetration in our ‘special position’ which is Her on her back, me on my side in a T position. But when She climbs on top, I struggle. We experimented in November which was great and mostly successful. I’ll tell you about that in a separate post.
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ReplyDeleteI was curious how long the sessions are when you're at the 1-2 month or longer? I imagine he may not be able to last as long? And / or do you have certain positions for you reason?
Thanks!
Also meant to ask,
ReplyDeleteSince two full orgasms see the plan for 2019, do you think he'll get used to the dry spell? You mentioned earlier about being spontaneous and him not expecting long bouts. What would be your approach to fully eliminating if this would be the dilemma?
Thanks!
When I am on top I usually can get into a position that is more pleasurable for me and less pleasurable for him so he lasts longer. Having him wear a condom also helps him last longer. Most of the time my husband can last without having an orgasm. He has learned to control himself over the years. Sometimes I can see that he is concentrating hard not to cum. I don't know how he does it. Often times the sex is quick because I orgasm quickly. Lol!
ReplyDeleteWhether or not he can last long during sex does not seem to relate to how long he is denied. I think this is because over the years he has developed great control. However, there are times where he struggles not to orgasm and I may have to stop often in order to prevent an accident. This seems to be related to how much I've been teasing him or sometimes he is just really horny. I also want to point out that no matter how much control he has, if I want to make him orgasm, I can. He is always teetering on the edge and with a simple change in pace or pressure I I can send him over the edge no matter how much he tries to resist. Having that power over him is quite a rush for me.
Mike, I am not sure I understand your last comment/question. Allowed orgasms for Thomas are pretty random. I do not plan them. Most times I decide on a whim if he can orgasm. There are some days where I know I am not going to allow him an orgasm no matter what. Other times I know he needs an orgasm because he gets a little annoying from all the pent up horniness. For the most part it is random. I do not keep track of when his last orgasm was. He has has two in the last month so he's still getting lucky but after the last orgasm I warned him not to expect one for awhile.
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Terrific. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteSorry for the confusion on the last question. Previously, you mentioned that he wasn't going to get many orgasms this year. 2 I believe is what you were shooting for.
You also mentioned that at long extended durations, he can get used to not having an orgasm and he expects it Or becomes easier/not as exciting because of his training. While your plan for him to only have 2 this year, do you think it would be difficult for him not to feel comfortable expecting to go most of the year with out orgasms? Do you think on his mind it is easier over long times to not cum
Thanks again
Do you have agreed consequences for unauthorised orgasms?
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