More on Cuckolding (Debbie's experience)

There has certainly been a lot of interest and chatter on the topic of cuckolding among the readers of this blog. If you've not read the comments in the last post on cuckolding, please do. The discussion has been enlightening. I'm delighted to share another real world experience of cuckolding from Debbie. Debbie is a regular reader of the blog and has submitted a few guests posts in the past. After reading through the comments on cuckolding, she was kind enough to share how cuckolding works in her marriage. Thanks so much Debbie!  Here is her post:

I came across Mary's comments concerning cuckolding and felt it was a good opportunity to share some of my experiences with cuckolding David. David loves the submissive lifestyle and the F/m rythms of our daily lives.

Why Cuckolding? In short, David is inadequate in the bedroom, little blue pills not withstanding. He's fantastic at oral sex but I need a man inside of me to be fully satisfied - David wasn't meeting my needs - and he knew it - so I looked outside. Honestly though, I'd cuckold him even if he was more sexually capable, I love the excitement of another man. I traveled a lot on business - so did David - and this gave me opportunities for sex - lots of it.  On more than one occasion David called my hotel room only to have a guy answer. David would get excited by such encounters. No, initially, I didn't tell David but, as I said, he knew. And, our prenuptial agreement, set the stage for cuckolding since it said I could have 'friends' and this meant BOY friends as far as I was concerned!  Additionally, there was some precedent in my family since mom had boyfriends and was pretty open about it. 

Cuckolding was a thing with us going back to David and I having nights out together.Getting ready for an evening out was a big deal. He loved suggesting an outfit, usually something like a club dress with a plunging neckline and high hem line. Guys would hit o on me and David was such a sweetheart about it. A guy would come up to me at the bar and David would excuse himself leaving me alone with the guy to talk and dance. David would sit across the bar and enjoy watching me have fun. I don't know if he ever felt humiliated; he never said so. He seemed to enjoy the attention I was receiving.

Nevertheless, I wanted to come out with my dating but wasn't sure how he'd react. I was tired of having guys on the road or when David was out of town. One day when David was at my mother's cleaning the house she casually mentioned that her married daughter had a boyfriend who she was seeing regularly. David's only response was an excited, “Oh, that's nice!”. It set the stage for my being open about boyfriends.

He'd done some shopping, buying a new club dress, a pair of heels, and some expensive perfume. David helped me dress, fit-to-kill, right down to spraying some of the expensive perfume he'd bought on my panties. When Rob arrived I sent David to his room. He was as excited as I was, but he had concerns. He didn't want to meet Rob and I assured him he wouldn't have to; like Mary I totally separate David and my boyfriends. I told him it was “only a date” and added that this wasn't much different from our going clubbing. I told him Rob and I were going to dinner and then to his's place. The date was fantastic; Rob was tremendous in bed. When Rob dropped me off at 2:00 AM David was there to greet me with a mixed drink. As excited as ever David wanted to know about my date but I told him it was “my little secret”. I never give David any details about my dates He told me he only wanted me to be happy and I assured him I was but that he could make me happier. I pulled up my dress, took off my panties, and sat on the couch. David knew what to do and he knelt between my legs and did a fantastic job eating my pussy. WOW! If that's not worshiping a woman I don't know what is.

What have I learned? Well, a lot:

• Cuckolding is a thing to both of us; he accepts it to the point where he is open about it within our circle of friends

• David is concerned about our marriage and his submissive lifestyle. He doesn't want this to change and neither do I. I don't want to lose my housekeeper!

• David has accepted that he comes up short in bed and that I need other men to fill the void.

• Getting ready is a big deal and David loves preparing me for a date. He's really into it picking everything right down to the shade of my pantyhose. If I tell David I'm going to dinner with 'a friend' he'll pack clothes for me for the evening as well as for the next business day.

Rob and I are a number, regularly dating and going to dinner and the clubs. We've even vacationed together, going to Vegas and on a cruise together. Rob and I have an open relationship and agreed we can each see other. It's good since I love the excitement of a new man now and again. And David? He's totally accepting of my dating regarding it as the ultimate submission. That's nice since I do too. He's rather proud of my being attractive to other men.

More later,

Debbie

Boot Camp Revisited

Earlier in the summer my husband and I had the opportunity to get away for a few weeks. One f the perks of working remotely is that you can work anywhere and so we decided to spend a few weeks away in order to get a change in scenery. It was the first time in a long while that we had "alone time" without kids or interruptions from family and friends.

With the pandemic still going and having two teenagers in the house, it has limited the intimate time with my husband and the opportunities to do the more intense or kinky domination, which I enjoy and my husband craves. After we made plans to take the trip without the kids, it was no surprise to me when my husband asked if I would do a Boot Camp while we were away.  He was practically begging for it. It was an easy decision for me and he was like an excited kid when I told him that Boot Camp would indeed be in his future..

If you have not read my boot camp posts, the links are here:\

Submissive Craving Boot Camp: https://femdomthinktank.blogspot.com/2019/10/submissive-craving-boot-camp.html

Submissive Craving Boot Camp Continued:   https://femdomthinktank.blogspot.com/2019/10/submissive-craving-boot-camp-continued.html

I pretty much followed the same process and had the same rules in place as the last boot camp, with just a few changes here and there. This was the third time I've done Boot Camp with my husband over the last several years. I must say it gets even more fun and is more effective each time I do it. I went into this one much more sure of what I was doing and more confident in myself and so I was tougher and stricter then the last time. I made him serve me hand and foot for 4 days straight! 

One of the great things about the Boot Camp approach is that I go into it with the mindset that it is mostly fantasy. This makes it easy for me to step into a strict and demanding role and take things to a more extreme level than usual. The fantasy role play was something that helped me get comfortable with being dominant when I was first learning the ropes of WLM. Domination did not come naturally for me. At first it was weird but each time we did fantasy play, it became less weird and more fun. It did not take long for some of the fantasy to transition into our reality. Fast forward 20+ years later and fantasy play still helps me become a better dominant wife. For women starting out in a WLM/FLR whom dominance does not come naturally, I recommend experimenting with fantasy and role playing on a regular basis to build your confidence and get comfortable with dominance. For those in a mature WLM/FLR, fantasy play is a great way to spice things up and reinvigorate the exciting power dynamic.

Since I was more at ease going into this Boor Camp, I noticed more things. I noticed how easily aroused Thomas was at the littlest signs of authority from me. He really is wrapped around my finger! I noticed how he enjoyed and looked forward to the ritual of me putting on and taking off his collar and cuffs each time he left or came into the house. I also came to the realization that I can be harder and stricter with Thomas and it's not going to break him. In fact it does the opposite. He thrives in my dominance. Finally I realized how much fun it was having him at my beck and call every day, completely focused on me. All these discoveries were learning experiences for me that have already resulted in changes in how I am leading the WLM.

As with the last Boot Camp, new rules and expectations were set for Thomas coming out of this Boot Camp. I let him know that much of what went on during Boot Camp, was a glimpse into what his life will be like once the kids are out of the house, which is less than 2 years way. He was both excited and nervous at the thought. I told him that I've been too easy on him and that going forward, I was going to hold him to a higher standard and be more strict. For example, one new expectations that I set was that the dishes and kitchen needed to be cleaned immediately after dinner and not when he felt like it.   He agreed that I was being a little easy on him and seemed to be excited that I was going to run a tighter ship with him going forward.

During camp, Thomas wore a butt plug whenever we went out. I had not broke out the butt plug in a very long time. I forgot how submissive and weak he becomes when he is wearing a plug. It has a profound effect on him that I like and so I decided that the plug will be used on a frequent basis going forward. Since we've been back he's worn it at least once a week. I think he looks forward to being ordered to insert it prior to doing a task or errand for me.

So far I've stuck to my word, and have been more strict with him and have held him to a higher standard. Let's just say that he has been sent to the corner more than usual as he learns to adjust to the higher standards. It has been great for me. He is doing more things for me and the house is much cleaner and I am loving it. Thomas is also enjoying the tighter control. I've known for many years that submissive men crave and enjoy the strictness and tight control but it still seems crazy to me and it is wild to to see it in action.  I feel like this last Boot Camp elevated our WLM to a different level. 

To my fellow Goddesses, I recommend you give it a try. Use the links above to see my posts on what I did for Boot Camp and use that as your guide.  Create your own Boot Camp based on what appeals to you and what goals you want to accomplish during the Boot Camp. Don't be afraid to go outside your comfort zone. It will be a great experience for both your husband and you.  

-Mz Kaylee