Guided Masturbation

Guided masturbation is an exciting and fun way to exert dominance over your husband. All boys have spent many years masturbating themselves exactly they way the want in order to achieve self-pleasure and orgasm. To suddenly find themselves standing before you naked and masturbating according to your commands is thrilling for them and as they quickly discover, very challenging. 

There are two simple rules he must follow: 1) Follow your orders exactly and 2) Do not orgasm unless given permission. These two rules force him into a strange new position that will no doubt fuck his mind inside and out until it is mush. He is used to stroking any way he wants with the goal of achieving orgasm but now all the dynamics have changed. He must only stroke as instructed and he must not orgasm unless given permission. During this fun game, he will surely experience moments where he wants to stroke faster and harder because that is what is mind and body are telling him to do in order to increase the pleasure and achieve orgasm. However, he will have to force himself to ignore the pent up pleasure and keep stroking lightly and slowly in order to obey you. He will also experience moments where he will want to slow down or stop because it is becoming harder and harder to hold back an orgasm, but he will need to continue stroking in order to obey you.

There will inevitably come a point where one of the 2 rules will have to be broken. Which will one do you think your subhy husband will break? Will he be weak and selfish and give in to the pleasure or will he disobey your commands and stop stroking or slow his stroking, in order to stop the orgasm?  Breaking rule 1 gives him orgasmic pleasure but results in the game ending and a severe punishment. Breaking rule 2, in order to prevent an orgasm, keeps him in the game but shows his weakness and may result in a punishment. Breaking rule 2 may seem like the wiser choice at first, but as the game goes on and on, how much sexual teasing can he handle? Will he even get an orgasm after enduring all the teasing? 

Are you having trouble following or figuring out the right choice? Imagine these conflicts swirling through your head while in a prolonged and heightened aroused state? That is the wonderful mindfuck that guided masturbation creates. The longer the game goes on, the more mush his mind becomes. He grows more mindless and weaker by the minute!

For a guy new to teasing and denial, guided masturbation is a great training tool to teach him self-control and to build his stamina. For the more experienced guys, it is just a great mind fuck and a fun experience for the wife to exert control and spice things up.

I've learned a few things in doing this with my husband and lucky for you , I am going share some tips, tricks, and strategies to make your guided masturbation session out of this world.

Tips, Tricks, and Advice

1.  First, a few basics: Fast strokes and hard strokes (more pressure around his cock) build his arousal quickly. Slow strokes and light strokes slowly build his arousal or keep him at a steady arousal state. Finally, the tip of his cock is very sensitive when he is aroused. Teasing just the tip can be both pleasurable and frustrating for him.

2. Get him to a heightened arousal state quickly. Guided masturbation becomes very fun and challenging for him, when he is very aroused. Many of the stroking techniques I mention below, are much more pleasurable for him when he is fully aroused.

3. Using a variety of strokes drives him wild. There are some strokes that will feel too good for him and he may only last a few seconds. There are other strokes that he can do for a long time. Some of this will of course depend on his state of arousal. Varying the speed and pressure of his strokes will also affect how long or short he lasts. To keep the game exciting and unpredictable for him, change up the type of strokes or the speed every minute or two.

4. To cum or not to cum? It is your decision as to whether or not you allow him to cum. If you keep your subby locked up, imagine how mind blowing it will be to unlock him, force him to masturbate for you for 20 minutes, then lock him up again with out allowing him to cum.  Allowing him to cum is just as fun. You could give him a count down to cum (4-3-2-1), bring him to the edge and then order him to cum, or test his will an keep him stroking until he can not hold back any longer.  If you are feeling cruel, order him to stop stroking as soon as he starts to orgasm.

5. Enhance the teasing with visual and verbal erotic cues. The words you use while he masturbates and what he sees, all add to his aroused and submissive state. Telling him things like 'good boy' or 'you are so weak' add to his submissive state. Adding 'for me' to your commands (such as "stroke slowly for me"), makes it clear that he is obeying you and not masturbating for himself. Visual cues that add excitement include wearing lingerie or a fetish outfit and playing with yourself while he masturbates. Sometimes I'll lower my top for a minute or two so that he can worship my breasts while he strokes and then I'll cover them back up again.

6. Have a punishment ready for disobedience. You may want to let him know in advance what the punishments will be. I like to make the punishment severe for an unauthorized orgasm and mild for disobeying stroke commands because I absolutely do not want unauthorized orgasms. For example, an orgasm without permission will result in confinement to the house for several weeks (no time with his friends) whereas disobeying a command in order to prevent an orgasm will result in corner time or spanking. Each time he disobeys, the corner time or number of spanks increases. Another option is to keep a paddle handy and if he slows down stroking without permission, give him an immediate spank and tell him how weak he is.

7. To keep yourself from having to constantly give orders or guess when he is about to orgasm, give him goals to achieve such as, stroke until you are hard for me, bring yourself to the edge for me, keep yourself on the edge, or squeeze out precum.

8. Have fun. Don't get caught up in knowing all the different stroking techniques. There are many different ways you can have him stroke and the techniques below are just a few examples. You only need one or two to get started and then just tune into his emotions and arousal and have fun. 

Stroking Techniques

Strokes to get him aroused or to "the edge" quickly

1. The Traditional Stroke-Fast: We all know this one. One fist around his cock, stroking up and down. Order him to do it fast and hard to get his arousal going. If he is already aroused, this will get him to the edge fast and he will be begging to orgasm or begging to to stop so that he does not orgasm.

2. Hand-Over-Hand Down Stroke: My husband usually does not last long at all with this one. He uses both hands for this stroke, but sliding each fist downward only, one at time, one after the other. He continues to do this without pausing, applying firm pressure around his cock with each downward stroke. You can also order him to do this with upward strokes only. The upward strokes are a great variety but does not have as strong as an effect on my husband as the downward strokes. To add more pleasure to this stroke, order him to squeeze the head of his cock at the end of each upward stroke.

3. Two-Hand Stroke: This is the same as the traditional stroke, except he uses both hands at the same time, one fist on top of the other, and moving them up and down together. This causes more coverage of his cock and more pressure around his cock, resulting in more pleasure.

4. Fist Hump:  Just like it sounds, he creates a fist and humps it. Instead of moving his fist up and down his cock, he keeps his fist still and humps it. This works great when he is leaking precum because it lubes up his fist, adding to the pleasure. For me, it is entertaining to watch. My husband usually does not last long at all with the fist hump. When he is begging for relief, I like to make him hump really slow. That drives him wild too. Then I will tell him to loosen his fist a bit so that his cock barely touches his fist when he humps. This really blows his mind because he can last longer and even keep himself close to the edge, but he is also tempted to squeeze his fist a little tighter to increase the pleasure. Another fun strategy I use is to have him hump hard until he begs for relief and then order him to stop, only to order him to hump hard again in about 20 seconds. Each time he starts again, it takes less and less time before he begins to beg for release. 

5. The Hot Dog Twist: This is a fun one. Two hands on his cock and he firmly twists them side-to-side in opposite direction - just like he is wringing out a wet towel. This is one to do when his arousal is heightened. Twisting side-to-side is not a normal feeling for guys and so this technique creates strange new pleasures.

6. Stroke and Ball Squeeze: This technique builds his arousal, but seems to do it at a slower pace then the other techniques. It tend to make his precum leak more, probably because he is squeezing it out of his balls. With this stroke he strokes his cock with one hand while lightly squeezing and rubbing his balls with his other hand. Squeezing and rubbing his balls creates additional pleasure sensations compared to just stroking. To make it even more pleasurable, order him to hump his hand while doing it. To tone down the pleasure, have him just rub his balls without stroking his cock.

Strokes to Maintain or Reduce Arousal

7. Traditional Stroke-Slow:  Same as stroke #1 above, but at a slow pace and/or lighter pressure around his cock. With the right speed and pressure, he can stroke endlessly for you without an orgasm. I've heard this referred to by dominant women, as 'Worship Strokes' because he  can stare at his beautiful wife and worship her body with his eyes while he strokes and stays aroused. There are a few fun ways to use this. You can lay or sit in front of him and be entertained watching him worship you. You can pleasure yourself while he worships you, which will surely add to his excitement but will also be pleasurable for you. You can use this stroke to allow him to calm his arousal down if he is getting to close to the edge. It's also fun to make him stroke extra slow after being aroused for a long time. It is very un-natural for a man to stroke very slow so this can be a torturous tease for them.

8. Fist Pulse: I enjoy doing this technique to him myself. It really messes with his mind and tests his will power when he is on the edge of orgasm. I will make a firm fist around his cock and just squeeze lightly. I will often go right into the squeeze when he's begging me to stop stroking to prevent orgasm. Instead of stopping all together, I just stop the stroking and then lightly squeeze. He is literally teetering on the edge of orgasm when I do this, struggling to hold back his orgasm. I will lightly squeeze every 5 to 10 seconds. Sometimes I am barely even moving my fingers, and it drives him wild.  Even just holding a firm grip around his cock without moving, drives him wild when he is on the edge of orgasm. He tells me the firm pressure with no movement is mind blowing because for a few seconds, the slightest of movements by either him or me, would send him over the edge. He mentally has to fight hard not to move and not to orgasm for several seconds, until he comes off the edge.  For the guided masturbation, he is the one who puts his fist around his cock and you can either order him to squeeze each time or you can order him to pulse his hand every few seconds. You can increase or decrease the speed of the pulses, depending on his arousal level.

9. One or Two Fingers Only: Having him stroke up and down using only one or two fingers is a great way to keep him in a steady aroused state. When using two fingers, you can have him put one on each side of his cock or put two fingers together and rub them up and down the side of his cock.

10. Finger Tips Only: Lightly stroking up and down with just his fingertips, causes a continuous pleasure without taking him over the edge. If he is close to the edge, this is a great torturous tease because he can ride the edge and will have to exert willpower to not go too fast or apply too much pressure in order to prevent the orgasm that his body wants so bad. A variation of this is to have him put all his finger tips at the tip of his cock a slowly spread them out over jus the tip of his cock.

11. Balls Only: Order him to lightly rub or squeeze his balls. This is a good one to help him calm down when his arousal is starting to boil over into a potential orgasm. It feels good for him but is usually not enough to send him over the edge and often times brings his arousal down, but not all the way down.

12. Stop!  When all else fails, order him to stop stroking, hands at his sides or behind his back. Give him a minute or two to calm down and then start the self-teasing all over again.

When to Use Guided Masturbation

For fun and to spice things up - Whether you have a WLM or traditional marriage, guided masturbation is a fun activity for both the husband and wife. Guys will enjoy the prolonged erotic tease and being the center of attention of a woman. It is exciting for women too. I find it exciting to watch my husband masturbate and even more exciting when I am in control of it. It is a thrill to push him to the edge and watch him struggle not to orgasm. When he's super aroused, he loses his ability to think and he becomes focused on his masturbation, following my commands, and trying not to orgasm. It is thrilling for me to see this transformation and to watch him obey my commands without thought. He is not the only one that is aroused during this activity :).

Training - It is a great training exercise for someone starting out in orgasm denial. Guided masturbation trains him to hold back his orgasm or know when to ask for permission to orgasm. He learns to edge himself longer and longer without going over the edge. You may encounter failures in which he fails to hold back his orgasm but with each failure, he learns and becomes stronger. Your are also conditioning him to obey your orders without hesitation.  

For females wanting to take control of their man, guided masturbation can be a good starting point to seduce him under your control. In other words, you are training him to be under your control, without him realizing it. Very few guys will turn down the offer for a guided masturbation session, and once they experience it.....well they are sure to want more. Each sessions gives you a little more control over him. When you are ready to take the next step in controlling him,,,,read the subspace section below.

Get him into Subspace - Use guided masturbation to prep him for domination and manipulation. After 15 or 20 minutes, his arousal will be so heightened that his mind will be complete mush and he won't be able to think straight. This is the perfect conditions for domination and manipulation. It is the time to try new kinky things that he might otherwise resist, or get him to promise to do things for you. If I am in the mood for dominating him, I will often start with a nice long cock tease to get him into the obedient submissive frame of mind. Using guided masturbation is one way to do this. Sometimes it is as simple as ordering him to stroke to the edge for me. Once he does that, let the domination begin!

To Learn - What better way to learn about what drives him wild then to experiment with different stroking techniques. Try all different strokes and observe how it affects him. Ask him how each one feels. The best thing about all this, is that you can learn from this and then you can use the stroking techniques on him another time (instead of him stroking). Your strokes will be even more torturous for him because he can not control the speed and pressure. I have learned that the same stroke technique can have varying effects on him depending on how aroused he is and his mood. Be sure to try the techniques more than once as you may get a different reaction sometimes.

I hope you learned a few thigs from this post. If you decide to give it a try, let me know how it goes, and what strokes worked the best.

-Mz Kaylee