Behavior Modification-Purposeful Talking

As promised, this is a follow-up post on behavior modification. In this post I share my experience with  a new training project that I have done with my husband. If you are a regular reader of my blog, you may remember that I regularly enforce no talking days. The reasons for no talking days are to remind him of my control over him and to give him regular time to reflect on his submission to me and how he can better serve me. I also enjoy the quiet time. During no talking days, if I ask a question, he can respond, but it has to be short and to the point. He can text me questions or information and he is allowed to ask for permission to speak or ask a question if he feels it is something important.

The no talking days have not been super successful as it is hard for him to not talk all day. He often forgets, and I also forget to enforce it. He is definitely much quieter on the no talking days, but it is far from being an actual no talking day. We've been doing it for several months now, and he's getting better but nowhere near as quiet as I want him to be. He admitted that it is hard for him and he joked that he needed to be conditioned or trained not to talk. Now I've learned that when a sub jokes about something, it's usually his way of saying that he really wants it to happen. Challenge accepted! I decided to put a plan in motion to train him not to talk on "No Talking Days." Furthermore, I decided to train and condition him to not waste my time with useless information and to only speak to me on a regular basis about things that are purposeful to me and add value to my day.

The Training Plan

My plan was pretty simple. The best way to keep him from talking is to force him not to talk. To accomplish this, I purchased a ball gag and adult pacifiers. I wanted him to be comfortable, so I did not order a traditional ball gag because I've read where they can be hard to wear for a long time.  Instead I ordered one that is small and similar to a pacifier. I also ordered adult baby pacifiers, incase the ball gag was not comfortable. I also thought the humiliation aspect of using a baby pacifier, was a perfect way to tap into his submissive mind.

After the items arrived, I planned a night to spring the whole training program onto Thomas. I was actually very excited about putting the plan in motion and I knew it would completely surprise and excite Thomas. It was a Wednesday night when I told Thomas that I wanted him to serve me in sissy panties for the rest of the evening. I sent him off to the bedroom to change. When he returned, the first thing he noticed was that I had laid out a ball gag and two pacifiers on the end table next to the chair I was sitting in. I could tell he was surprised and excited. He asked with hesitation in his voice, "oookaay. what are those for?"

I smiled and ordered him to kneel before me. By the time his knees hit the floor, his hard cock was straining against the silky sissy panties. I said, "You told me you needed to be conditioned not to talk and so that's what we are going to do.  Your training begins right now."

The look of surprise was still on his face.  All he could say was, "oh...yes Goddess."

As I strapped the gag around his head, I told him that with his mouth gagged he would have no choice but to be silent. Once secured, I spent a few seconds admiring him gagged while he looked up at me quiet and silent. I told him that I liked how it looked on him and asked if he was comfy. He nodded his head yes. I told him that under no circumstances was he permitted to remove the gag. The gag would come off when I decided. If he was uncomfortable or felt he needed relief from the gag, he would have to seek permission from me to remove it and only I could remove it.

I explained that the gag he was wearing would be the trainer gag and that he would be wearing it quite often over the next few days to condition him to be present with me without talking. He would have to learn new ways to communicate if he needed something. Then I pointed to the two pacifiers and told him that after his ball gag training, the pacifiers would be used to continue his conditioning of learning to be silent. I didn't say anymore about the pacifiers. I like giving him little teasers like that as I know over the next few days his mind will go wild with fantasies on how I might use them. 

For the rest of the night he wore the gag while we watched Netflix together. I was fully dressed and he was in his silky sissy panties. Every so often I would order him to fetch me a glass of water or to do things for me. He obeyed without hesitation. I also teased him quite frequently through his silky panties. I was enjoying doing all this without him being able to talk. At one point, I even pulled the waist band to his panties down slightly and kissed and sucked on the tip of his cock for several seconds. This was something I rarely ever did, even before WLM. It was a total shock to him that I did this and I enjoyed that he could not speak about it. I was making sure that his first night gagged and silent for me would be a pleasurable and memorable night. When it was time for my bedtime, I ordered him to the bedroom and had him kneel before me after he fetched my pajamas and put them on me. I told him that it was time for the gag to be removed but that I still wanted him to be silent. He was to not say one word to me the rest of the night. When I removed the gag he looked up at me and smiled. I could tell it was torturous for him not to talk but he remained silent and went off to do his nightly tasks while I went to sleep.

The next day, I asked him how his mouth felt. He told me it was fine and he thanked me for what I was doing and was excited about his training. I let him know that we would take a break from the gag for the day but that we would do morning training the next day (Friday) and over the weekend.

More Training

Friday night after dinner, I had him kneel before me in his panties and I put the gag on and just like Wednesday, he quietly served me, and I teased him throughout the night. I also had him massage me with the gag on. He was very cute in that a few times he had questions for me and so he either texted me or wrote something on a paper for me to read. I got a little laugh out of it. When I removed the gag, I reminded him again to be silent but this time I ordered him to pleasure me with his tongue. I had an amazing orgasm and he of course was denied any orgasm. My fellow Goddesses, I have to say it is quite enjoyable being massaged and pleasured without a word peeped from your man! It's like he's your own personal sex toy.

On Saturday morning, I had him wear the gag for a few hours in the morning while he made my coffee and breakfast and did a few chores. The great thing about the gag, is that the physical appearance of the gag was a reminder to me also. It reminded me not to ask him question unless I really needed something.  When I did ask questions, it was fun having him reply to me by writing his answers down.   I removed the gag for lunch and let him know that he would not have to wear if for the rest of the day and it was ok for him to talk, but that he should keep his talking to a minimum. He did ok for most of the day but there were a few times that I had to remind him to quiet down because his talking was not necessary. He clammed up each time without arguing.

A Full Day of Silence

Sunday was his big test. He wakes up before me on the weekends to start on chores and get my coffee and breakfast ready. I left instructions for him on his bureau to put the gag on himself as soon as he woke up. In the instructions I let him know that he was not going to wear the gag all day but that it would still be a full silent day for him. I enjoyed waking up and seeing him already gagged as he moved about the house. I made a few teasing comments to him about how much fun the silent day was going to be. His cock responded immediately to my teasing, growing hard and poking out of his robe. I laughed at how weak he was.

He had a few errands to run for me later in the morning and so when the time was ready, I sat on the couch and had him kneel before me so that I could remove the gag. Before removing it, I reminded him that he was not to talk at all when the gag was removed. When I removed it, he stared up at me silently. He was so cute. I leaned down and kissed him on the cheek and said, "You are such a good boy for me. Now go and do your errands for me."  Once again his cock was hard.  I love how easily I can get his arousal going. I left the gag off for the afternoon until he had a moment of weakness. He did good at being quiet for the most part, but at one point he asked me a question. I gave him a scornful look and he knew immediately he broke the silence rule. He said, "sorry." I shushed him right away and said "no talking slave."  Then I told him to follow me.  He quietly followed me to the couch and I sat down and ordered him to kneel. The gag was sitting on the table next to the couch. I picked it up and secured it around his head again and said, "You will learn."  Then I ordered him to stay kneeling for 10 minutes as a punishment for talking.

At dinner time, I removed the gag to allow him to eat. He did not have to wear it again until later in the evening when I wanted a massage. He did not talk at all in the evening but I wanted him to be gagged for my massage. I enjoyed  seeing him gagged as he massaged me. I teased his cock occasionally throughout the massage, making sure he stayed fully aroused. Then I verbally teased at how I really wanted him to pleasure me with his tongue, but since he was gagged he couldn't. I told him that it was his fault since he was so weak and needed to be gagged to train him how to not talk on silent days. I teased that until he learned to be a good silent slave for me, his tongue would not be getting much action. Then I ordered him to pleasure me with his fingers. I could tell it was torture for him because he could not kiss my nipples or give me oral. At one point I had him lay on the bed and I sat on his chest and teased him more at how it was a shame he could not use his tongue on me. I told him, "Let's see what we can do with this gag." Then I moved forward and began to hump his face over the gag. I was very aroused by now and so it felt good rubbing across the gag and his nose and I was able to bring myself to an orgasm by humping his face. 

The Next Week

Thomas left me a nice note on Monday thanking me for training him and telling me how exciting the night before was for him. He was in complete submissive mode. For the second week, I reduced the amount of time in the gag. I was testing him to see if he could remain quiet on his own during the times that I designated as silent times. The first was on Thursday night after dinner. I made him wear the gag for 1-hour and then told him he was not allowed to speak for the remainder of the night. He obeyed perfectly.  Sunday was the next test. I had him wear the gag in the morning for 3 hours.  When I removed it, I explained that the goal was for him to not speak a word all day and that if he succeeded, we would proceed to the next phase of his training, which involved the pacifiers. Not speaking any words for a full day is a difficult goal to achieve. It is not something I would not expect him to accomplish on an ongoing basis but for training purpose I made it an important milestone for him to achieve. I also told him that if he failed to remain silent, the gag would go back on and he would have another week of training with the gag. I felt this was a strong motivator for him for two reasons. First, I could tell he was growing tired of the ball gag. Like many things, it is exciting when first introduced and when used on occasion, but when used on a regular basis the excitement fades away and it becomes burdensome or uncomfortable. Secondly, I knew his submissive mind was excited about being forced to wear a pacifier and so he was motivated to get to phase 2 of his training.

Fortunately for him, he succeeded in being quiet. He became good a using notes and texts to communicate with me when needed.  "When needed" was an important part of his training. Had he sent me notes or texts that I thought were not important, his training with the gag would have been extended.

In my next post I will share what I did for the Pacifier Training.

-Mz Kaylee