Thank you all who contributed to the punishment discussion. If you are not reader of the Femdom101 blog, please go read it. Kathy continued the discussion via a posts on her blog and there are also some great comments from her readers on the topic on her blog. It is fantastic to hear different opinions and experiences from others and it is great to see readers asking questions on the topic. If you have a question, chances are that many others have the same question so please do not hesitate to ask the question. I encourage others to respond to questions as well. I certainly have no issue giving my advice and thoughts but by no means am I the final authority on what is right and what is not (except with my husband 😊).
There are many different ways to run your Female Led Relationship and you have to do what works best for you. My advice to you is read as much as possible about FLRs and then implement the things that resonate with you. I also recommend you step outside of your comfort zone every once in awhile and try something that you would not normally do. Ofen times the strangest things turn into something fun and exciting or something very effective for your FLR. Prior to my FLR, I would have never imagined that I'd be punishing my husband and having him wear punishment panties as part of the punishment. If you try something and it just does not work, then laugh about it and move on. I've had a few of those experiences that led to a lot of laughter.
Someone recently commented that they wanted more posts. I appreciate the encouragement. The reality is that I work full-time and do a lot of volunteer work with my kids school and sports and do not have a lot of time for writing. It takes quite a bit of time for me to write a post and also to respond to comments. I really enjoy it and will continue posting when I can. I would love to see some of you contribute. I named my blog Femdom Think Tank because I wanted this blog to be about people sharing ideas, experiences, and opinions on Female Domination and FLR. My vision was to have others contribute to the blog regularly through guest posts. If you look through past posts, there are a few others who have posted but it has not been frequent. It would be great to have others post on a regular basis.
Please consider writing a post for this blog. You can pick a FLR/Femdom topic to write about, share an experience, post a follow-up to another post or comment, or write about an article that you read and liked or disagreed with. Several of you contribute to comments regularly and I know you have it in you to write a meaningful post. I ask that you be respectful of others in your writing and no fantasy fodder. For those in a FLR, it would be great to hear about what works for you and why or what are challenges you are facing. Maybe you had an experience that was mind blowing and want to share it and encourage others to try it. One of the blogs on my reading list is the "I'm Her's" blog, which is written by a submissive male. In some of his posts he expresses the frustrations that he is experiencing as a submissive. I believe many of the frustrations expressed are common among submissive men. What I love about these posts is it gives honest insight into the emotions submissive men feel and I welcome any of the male readers to write on this topic and be open to feedback from readers. I do not want a bitch session. If you read the I'm Her's posts, he is very thoughtful and respectful in how he expresses his thoughts.
If you want to contribute a post, please send it to me at mzkaylee101@gmail.com. It would be great to have a few guest posts each month. The goal here is for us all to share experiences, thoughts, frustrations, successes, and opinions so that we can learn and help each other grow in our FLRs and encourage others to give FLR a try.
Hope to hear from many of you,
Mz Kaylee.
Mz Kaylee,
ReplyDeleteI am so grateful that your blog exists. I discovered it just this summer, and it's been immensely helpful in figuring out the ways that my life has been changing recently. Early in my marriage, we were mostly using elements of female-dominant relationships as a form of sexual play in the bedroom, and I was the working husband to a stay-at-home mom. Recently, my wife has become less interested in sex and more interested in professional development. That means much less sexual play for me, and much more time spent doing chores around the house and being a "real slave" in the sense of obeying her instructions in mundane areas of household work outside the bedroom.
It's a hard transition to make. I enjoyed chastity play early in our marriage, when we had lots of sex, but now it is clear that my wife has a reduced libido herself -- and also likes to keep me deprived for much longer, because it makes me more submissive and cooperative in these other areas! This is somewhat terrifying to me, but also I have to admit that it is exciting to see how much power she has over me that she wasn't using before. I think she always had that power all along, but now she is enjoying using it more broadly and experimentally. I love seeing how much she enjoys playing with the boundaries of our marriage roles, and she seems playful again in a way that reminds me of when we were much younger.
I would very much like to hear from other men who have been in a "service" role -- basically, in relationships where dominant women have used control mechanism like chastity not as a form of sexual play, but as a way to define roles a long-term relationship. I do not see this discussed very much online (outside of what is obviously fetish fiction), and I am curious to see how other men have been able to cope with the complications of taking on a socially atypical "traditional housewife" role.
If there are any men in these kinds of relationships who are willing to write for you, I would love to see their perspectives! I am feeling new to this, but maybe I will have something to write for you someday too.
- E
MzKaylee,
ReplyDeleteI recently came upon your site, and have found your guidance and approach to be inspiring. My wife and I are discussing embracing more FLR elements in our marriage, and I thought introducing her to your site would help.
To make it easier for her, I used a blog-to-ebook conversion website (Bloxp) to quickly and easily convert your website to an ebook. It is very easy to automatically create a table of contents, as well as order the chapters/posts chronologically. It turned out great!
Given how easy it is, I would urge you to create an official ebook version of your writings, to help disseminate your ideas more widely. Even if it was available in the sidebar of your blog, it would make it easier for prospective wives to engage with the full extent of your posts.
For those who would like to do the same with their wife, I have uploaded the Kindle compatible file to the cloud here: http://ge.tt/6hwGons2
Thanks for providing such a wonderful resource.