Parking Your Husband

I came across this post on “Parking Your Husband”:

http://thomaslavalle.blogspot.com/2019/05/parking-male.html?zx=1a40bb9486d451a2

I encourage you to read it in full.  To summarize, the post is written by a dominant wife who  needed a short break from having to be in charge of her husband so she “parked” him. She did this by tying him up and gagging him in a comfortable position and leaving him there for a period of time.

I love the concept! I don’t think you guys realize how much work goes into being in charge and how needy you can be. I do absolutely love all the work, chores, and pampering that my husband does for me but sometimes it is nice to have alone quiet time. I may have to park my husband the next time he starts getting on my nerves 😊. 

The post also got me thinking about other ways to park my husband.  One thought is to confine him to a room for a period of time. I know that one of the reader’s of this blog converted a small bathroom into a “holding” room for her husband where he is “Stored” when certain guests come over. If she sees this post, I hope she is willing to share more about it in the comments section.  Another thought is to expel him from the house for the day. He can do whatever he wants but he is not allowed to be home or to contact me. Ahh peace and quiet for me!  I think it is also good for guys to have their own personal time away from the structured environment so it’s really a win-win situation.

Please share your thoughts on this idea and if you have done anything like it.

-Mz Kaylee

A Special Treat For Thomas

This past weekend, my husband received a special treat. He was allowed to orgasm during sex with me. This is a rare occurrence for him. It might happen twice a year if he is lucky (and good!). He did not know it was going to happen until the very last second when I gave him permission. I could tell he prolonged his orgasm as much as possible and savored every second of it. I savored the moment too and it was amazing and wonderful. It is a very special and deeply intimate moment when two people in love orgasm together. It’s like you are touching each other’s souls and connecting on a deep emotional level. Perhaps I was tuned into that feeling because it is something that is a rare occurrence for me also. Often times when we do something frequently, we take it for granted and forget how special it is or lose touch with the good and positive feelings it generates within us.

Thomas gave up his right to an orgasm the day he agreed (or rather begged 😊) to be submissive to me. His orgasms are a privilege and not a right. Sex with me is an even greater privilege for him and only allowed when I decide. Most of the time he satisfies me through oral pleasure. When we do have sex, I am on top and in control and he has been trained to not move and not to expect an orgasm. As mentioned above, it is a rare occasion when he is allowed to orgasm during sex. This may seem strange and even cruel but it works for us. I have to admit that I get a rush out of using him for my orgasms while he is straining hard not to orgasm. It was not always like that for me. It took me awhile to realize that type of control and ‘domination’ is actually what Thomas craves. It took me awhile to let go and be selfish in my pleasure without worrying about his. In the end, it really is not selfish because as crazy as it sounds it is an even bigger rush for Thomas to be denied orgasm while I have one. It drives him wild and he loves it.

One final thought on the topic – I have read where some women will deny their husband sex altogether or may never let them orgasm during sex. There are two big reasons why I think it’s a better approach to limit sex rather than prohibit it. The first is the I believe the deep connection that occurs during sex when you orgasm together is beneficial for the relationship and a  very special and exciting experience. Second is that it makes the denial of orgasm for the husband that much tougher afterwards. When you give him a taste of something great, it’s hard to resist wanting more. The denial becomes harder and the hope grows within him that it will happen again. It’s a bitter-sweet motivator and so much fun!!

-Mz Kaylee

Your 2020 WLM/FLR

I hope many of you heeded the advice in my last post and took time to reflect on your relationship and to plan ways to improve and strengthen it over the next year. In any relationship it is smart to regularly reflect on how things are going and then make adjustments or enhancements to keep the relationship strong and exciting. It is also good practice to do this in all areas of your life. Set goals for yourself and write them down. Did you know that you are more likely to achieve your goals when you write them down? Try Taking that extra step and write them down as vividly as you can. After I write my goals down, I like to review them regularly so I stay focused on achieving them.

It also helps to put a plan in place to achieve your goals. What specifically are you going to do to make it happen? If you are not sure of your plan right away, that is fine. The first step is to write down your goals and get it in your head that you are going to accomplish them. You can focus on the “how” later. You may need to do research, talk to others, or even attend training or workshops to figure out the “how” part.

For 2020, I have written down several goals in the areas of my job as well as my personal life and Wife Led Marriage (WLM). A personal goal for me is to live in the moment. I am always thinking ahead and as a result I often half pay attention to the person talking to me. I need to develop the habit of focusing on the person talking to me and what is happening at the moment. My plan for achieving this goal is to be an active listener, which means paying close attention, asking questions, and reconfirming what I am hearing.

One of my WLM goals is to be more specific with my feedback and direction to my husband so that he can serve me better. When I do weekly discipline sessions I often breeze through the feedback or go easy on Thomas. When Thomas and I reflected back on the times that he became lazy or got himself into trouble, it was usually when we went several weeks in a row with quick or easy discipline sessions. Don’t get me wrong, he needs to do a better job at staying obedient (that is one of his goals) but I also have a responsibility to be firm and honest during the discipline sessions. My plan for achieving this goal is to take time to prepare for the session in advance so that I have clear and direct feedback for him. On a side note, last year one of my goals was to be consistent with having regular discipline sessions. Although I breezed through some of the sessions, there were very few weeks where I did not do a discipline session with Thomas and that was a big success for me. Now that I have gotten a routing down for the sessions, I will focus on making them more effective (e.g. provide specific feedback) in 2020. This is a good example of how I am regularly reassessing my WLM and making adjustments to make it better.

When it comes to your WLM goals and plan, involve your spouse in the discussion. The wife, as the leader, has the final say on what gets written down but the husband should be given the opportunity to share his thoughts and he should have a clear understanding of what the goals and action plan are so that you can both work together to make them happen.

What goals have your set for 2020 and how do you plan to achieve them?

-Mz Kaylee